I am very a devoted Christian boy and have a girlfriend now for a year. Recently my best friend started dating this girl he met at a church function. She's giving me very weird unholy vibes. One time when we were in church alone, she called me 'loverboy' and proceeded to rub her breasts on my bare back! I brushed it off as her joking around. The other day when we were alone in my room, she grabbed me there unexpectedly, I pulled back in shocked. I felt molested. I told her that was very un-christian and that my best friend would be offended, she called him a 'dogface'. I was very angry at this comment and immediatly got off of her and stormed off.
In front of others especially my best friend she's very prim and proper, a very good holy Christian girl. I'm upset this is happening and don't know what to do. My best friend and I are true Christian brothers and I don't want to risk losing him over this whore in disguise. She's a a complete cheater and so un-Christian! Help!
2006-09-21 19:51:12 · 17 answers · asked by Skyeboi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I really don't see what being Christian has to do with this. Her behavior is not right, regardless of her religion. And regardless of what religion you are, I would tell you to do the same thing. TELL YOUR FRIEND! If he is as good a friend as you say he is, and you are as honest and trustworthy as you make yourself out to be (Christian or not), he will believe you.
2006-09-21 19:55:05 · answer #1 · answered by Erin M 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
U need to tell him the truth. U have good christian values and u r being tested. Do the right thing and come clean. The terrible burden will be off your mind and u would feel better. Im sure that if he is such a good christian brother then he would believe u. U havnt lied to him before? If u havnt givin him any reason in the past to doubt or mistrust u then u have a very good leg to stand on.
Remember also that this could turn ugly, she could lie and make u the bad person in this.
Maybe u should go to your minister and speak to him about this matter. He would be able to give u proper guidence. Im not a Cristian myself, but I dont disrespect other ppls faiths.
He loves her and u could lose him, but that is just a risk u will have to take. If this happens again and she does things that make u uncomfortable then offer to recommend someone for her counselling for her hormonal imbalance.
Tell her straight out that she is making u uncomfortable and u would rather never b alone with her or would rather not like to c her without your best friend around.
That way her temptations disappear and u dont have to worry about feeling indescent.
2006-09-22 03:05:32 · answer #2 · answered by chanD 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, remember these scriptures:
Eph. 4:26
Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:
Matt. 5:44
But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you
Now, how to handle this situation:
1. Do not allow yourself to be alone with this person anymore under ANY circumstances. If you cannot avoid it, make a way of escape (another words: LEAVE)
2. You will need to talk with your brother (both of you PRAY FIRST TOGETHER).
A. When you discuss this with him, let him know UP FRONT that your relationship with HIM is more important than any girl and that if this occurred with him and YOUR girlfriend, you would appreciate him telling you.
By the way, if it happens again, you need tell your pastor and get him involved (privately at first, of course). By the way, if your girlfriend gets wind of it, indicate to her that the pastor is aware of the situation and is handling it and do indicate your feelings to her about it.
2006-09-22 03:04:51 · answer #3 · answered by Morpheus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off what does being a "good Christian" have to do with this? This behavior is unacceptable in any situation. You should tell him about her. If you don't, you could be risking his "good Christian" reputation. If you are truly the "good Christian" boy you say you are, you would already know you should have told him. And if he is truly the "good Christian" boy you say he is he will believe you without any doubt.
Next time you have to ask a question, I would advise you to leave the "good Christian" boy information out. It really isn't important, unless you feel that makes you better than those of us who just believe in God and love him and Jesus with out being Christians.
God Bless
2006-09-22 03:06:50 · answer #4 · answered by cinson1999 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ha ha, totally not funny. Okay, maybe you're not joking but you're actually an idiot. You knew her behaviour was, as you put it, "unholy", so what were you doing alone with her in your bedroom, on top of her? Huh? Being a good Christian boy? Oh grow up before I throw up. Either stay away from her or stop using your religion to judge others when you're just as bad.
2006-09-22 03:02:58 · answer #5 · answered by mj_indigo 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Best you speak to your best friend about the matter. Its definitely a sensitive issue and its may not be beyond the guiles of this girl to mess-up your friendship by spreading untruth if she gets the hint that you are going to tell on her.
You need to tell her off in a polite manner if she approaches you again in the wrong manner - but don't threaten or instigate her until you have spoken to your friend. Be prepared that it is a tough matter but resort to your faith to keep your friend's trust and belief.
2006-09-22 02:59:26 · answer #6 · answered by Son of Gap 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
really just tell me tht wat has being a christian or not got to do with this.it is just tht she is not a good girl and not worth ur best friend. if u r his best friennd ,u must hv had told him this thing ages ago.anyway now dont take time and just tell him the truth.
good luck for u and him.
note: please dont mind my first lines but i guess u should not be believeing such a thing tht which religion is good or which is not. the goodness or evil lies in the person and his heart and mind and not in his religion ,community or so.
2006-09-22 03:00:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont tell him shes a s.lag but stay away from her and still treat her with respect as she will get into your friends ear and you will loose him as a friend as well . being christian has nothing to do with this problem ,
2006-09-22 03:07:32 · answer #8 · answered by jac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friend what happened.... he needs to dump her. You haven't done anything wrong, yet, so make sure everything gets out in the open before it effects your friendship with your best friend.
2006-09-22 02:56:55 · answer #9 · answered by bolla 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey dont worry..,
if u r true to ur friendship nothing will go wrong..,
stay away from her.., be with her only in public places..,
u just avoid her.., this will get solved soon..,
be true to ur friend..,
only friendship lasts for ever
take care
2006-09-22 03:04:28 · answer #10 · answered by uma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋