Am I wrong or is she?

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I got a job at a thrift store, and besides the backbreaking labor, it's a pretty good place to work. I have made many friends since I started there. I went to the local bar w/ one of them the other day after work to have a couple beers and unwind after a long day. There was an older gentleman at the bar who was quite drunk and was buying drinks for the patrons. Needless to say, I wound up pretty drunk at the nights end, so instead of driving the 12 miles to my house, I crashed on her couch. I told my gf about this the next day, and now she's convinced that I'm cheating on her. I asked her if she would rather I drove drunk, and she told me that wasn't the point. She said I shouldn't have stayed at her house even though her husband and kids were there as well. Am I wrong or is she just being a beep?

Still reading answers to try to find a majority, but all answers good so far. Thanks to all.

couldn't call at 1:30 am. She's in bed and so is her 10 year old. Besides, she doesn't have a car and I was going home, not to her house

Answer 1

well you did the right thing by not driveing home drunk.you can try telling your g\f that nexttime something like that where to happen you'll make shour that the person you are drinking with has her phone number so that she can come and get you and dill with your being drunk her self see if that makes her fell any better.ok good luck.

p.s.
thank you for not driveing home that night my grandma was killed by an drunk driver last year i can only thank god for smart people like you.

Answer 2

I don't think that she's a "beep," but she's just over reacting. Give her some time to understand what you're trying to say, or maybe you just didn't say it the right way. Women can be insecure at times, but things will probably work out in the end. It's good that you told the truth to her the next day, and even had good judgement not to drive drunk. The fact that your friend was married, and had kids with the husband in the house should be good enough proof to your girlfriend that you're not cheating on her. If you want, it might even help that your friend help you try to convince your girlfriend. Goodluck.

Answer 3

Your wrong in doing that. If she wouldve done the same thing would u be happy?
Why didnt u just call your gf and tell her what was going on?
Even though you were drunk.
Why didnt u invite her along?
I know u need you alone time, but within limits.
U knew u had to drive home and u should take responsibility for your actions. U got drunk and slept on some strange womens couch, whats next? U have to understand, that u chose to get drunk after u knew u had to go home. U couldve said, thank you but I have had enough, I still have to go home.

Answer 4

No one's "wrong". You both have your reasons for being upset. What if she had "crashed" on someone's couch... a guy's couch? Would you not have an little bit of worry in the back of your mind? Women are really sensitive about this, you need to take into consideration her feelings. I personally would be extremely pissed if my boyfriend did that. You should have stayed at a dude's place, not a woman's.

Anyway, you didn't do anything wrong, and you know that. You didn't cheat on her. But remember... she can't be sure of that, she has to take your word for it.

Next time, take a cab or have a friend drive you home.

Answer 5

Okay so you didn't cheat, but it doesn't look good. A guy in a relationship can't go to bar with a female co-worker and get drunk and crash on her couch and expect to be trusted. "A couple of beers" after work is supposed to be casual but that's all it should have been. If you can't control your drinking at least you should have taken a taxi home. I would be more concerned about your lack of judgement when it comes to alcohol.

Answer 6

Put yourself in her position, would you mind??? If I was your girlfriend I would have three thoughts...First one, I wouldn't think you were cheating because you told me...Second one, I would be mad as hell wondering why you didn't call me for a ride home..Third one, why did you wait till the next day to tell me when all you had to do is pick up the phone. That being said, i don't think your girlfriend is wrong to be worried about you or upset with you. I give you credit for not drinking and driving and for telling her, even tho it was after the fact. Sorry but I'm gonna have to go with your girl on this one. You were right in an aspect by not driving but you would've handled the situation alot better by telling her or calling her for a ride.

Answer 7

If what you say is true then she is still right , if my man stays out all night and comes home with beer breath, I am going to assume he made up the story about the husband and the kids. why didn't you call her for a ride home . why wasn't she invited to the after work event
why did you allow yourself to get drunk?

Answer 8

Unless you have a history of cheating she's just being a beep and is likely more hassle than she is worth. Jealousy isn't attractive on anyone and if she isn't willing to listen and accept the truth and acknowledge that you made the safe mature decision not to drink and drive then ditch her for someone who is not paranoid.

Answer 9

Well...she's probably jealous and doesn't trust u enough. It's normal for girls to be like that. U're not totally wrong either but u shouldn't have got drunk if u knew u would have to drive home later and will end up in ur friend's house. Get her to trust u more. Good luck! :-)

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