it's been about 6 months since breaking up with someone i considered my "first love." we separated on good terms but of course, i still had the heartache of a failed relationship. we completely stopped talking which has helped me to move on and i am now dating again.
the problem is, what if one day i run into him or he decides to contact me? just the thought of it makes me emotional.. does that mean i still have feelings for him?
do you ever really get over "the one" that got away?
2006-09-21 19:34:57 · 19 answers · asked by nyczclara 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it may not seem like it, but as time goes by, your feeling will fade. It's hard to imagine,but time really does heal. just stay focused on your school or work or whatever...keep up your other interests and keep busy.
2006-09-21 19:39:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have remained friends with almost every guy I ever dated but some of my best friends can't even deal with someone with the same name as their ex without breaking down. This unfortunately is not a question that someone else can answer for you.
What I would suggest is that if/when you do run into them again remember the things that you liked about them and great them as a long lost friend that you know is just making a guest apperance in your life.
2006-09-22 02:39:52 · answer #2 · answered by Tink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it does mean you still have feelings for him. Once you have given your heart in love to a man, you will always remember him. But something in the realtionship with him wasn't right, so that is why the two of you broke it off. It will take time, but eventually you'll find another man to trust and love. You do eventually get over "the one" that got away, but it takes time. It hurts, but you'll find happiness and joy and true love again if you don't rush but let it happen naturally. There are still a few good "men" left.
2006-09-22 02:42:13 · answer #3 · answered by beautyofthesea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only u can truly decide what u feel. hopefully you are in tune enough with your feelings to know whats truly in your heart but i will give u some info that i've gained from personal experience. There are three reasons why feelings would resurface...1) you were never truly over the person, 2) your jealous because either they moved on quicker than u or because they have found some1 new and you havent, and 3) you dont have any closure which in turn leaves you with a "what if" feeling.
2006-09-22 02:42:01 · answer #4 · answered by jennifer c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am in the same place you are. i don't think you ever do get over the first one. like mariah says, "nothing can compare to your first true love." if the day comes when you see him or he contacts you, try your best to be friends. i think you'll always care for him and love him, but you will learn how to control those old feelings. and in time, those feelings will just be part of your past. it has only been six months. i say give it two years.
2006-09-22 02:39:24 · answer #5 · answered by rahulio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looking at your picture, i'm sure he'll never forget the 'one that got away'. Damn loser!
From my experience, i never ever forget her, and will always keep those sweet memories a secret deep inside. Recently met her again after 15 years, and yes, we've both live different lives now and I'm just happy to know that she's happily married and have 2 lovely kids.
2006-09-22 02:41:01 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. Pleased to Please 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you every really get over your first true love. Yes you do still have feelings for him, and yes if you run into him or he calls you it will be really hard not to fall for him all over again.
2006-09-22 02:42:46 · answer #7 · answered by lovemykalli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you loved him bcos he had some special qualities that attracted you. now even if u stop meeting him those qualities will be there which will pull u towards him but still once u have decided to move on then just move on. else there is no end.
2006-09-22 02:38:24 · answer #8 · answered by nandru_22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya U still have him in your heart. I think you must still talk to "the one" once and see if he feels the same way as you do! If not, you go ahead with this one. If yes, think how you deal with the new new one!
2006-09-22 02:55:32 · answer #9 · answered by ~Raju~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably do need more time. Seeing that person again or thinking about them contacting you shouldn't make you feel that way. You should feel indifferent about it. That's when you know you are ok.
2006-09-22 02:38:16 · answer #10 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋