I have been on about three dates with this girl and well we click at an incredible level. I mean seriously. So earlier today, she broke down over the phone and began to cry, she had soo much stuff going wrong in her life and so i drove over to her house and picked her up. We were talking and she's like you're a great guy, but Im not ready for a relatonship, I don't wanna try for that yet. I don't want to bring it down with me, Im not ready, I just need a friend right now. So I said "Well, Im not going to lie and say Im not disappointed but, what type of person would I be to leave you hanging when you have no one in your life? I said ill be friend and if down the road a little bit something happens then so be it, if not then I guess it wasn't meant to be. I said lets just take things slow." So we talked for a long time tonight, she really opened up to me and told me things she hasn't ever told anyone.
The thing is I really, really dig this chick, did I do the right thing by waiting?
2006-09-21 19:20:46 · 20 answers · asked by Don't stop! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Absolutely!
You scored major points.
2006-09-21 19:22:34 · answer #1 · answered by Mitch 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The decission you made, to just be her friend for now was a very wise choice. The thing is, if you were to "rush" into a relationship, nothing good or long term could ever come from it. It takes a long time to really get to know someone. And if you are already very much attracted to her, and love hanging out and talking with her, then you'd probably want to to be a long term relationship with deep meaning. So you see, it's better to put aside the physical for now, and get to be her very close friend. Then when the time comes, and you become intimate with her, it will have so much more meaning.
2006-09-22 02:30:07 · answer #2 · answered by beautyofthesea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the right thing, but be careful. This girl is literally telling you that she is messed up right now, don't try and save her. Make sure to take care of yourself, keep your options open. You told her you were cool with being her friend and it really seems like that is all she can handle at the moment. Don't become a codependant emotional wreck with this girl, that is the worst. Good Luck.
2006-09-22 02:29:44 · answer #3 · answered by endangered_jen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Hell Yeah!! I can hardly believe what I read. An honest to goodness Nice Guy!!! I hope she sees what a truly good guy you are and that things work out for you two. She was honest enough to tell you that because of all the stuff she's going thru she's not ready for a relationship & you returned her honesty with honesty. How unbelievable wonderful. :)
2006-09-22 02:37:56 · answer #4 · answered by yobaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is in-tilted to their own opinion but major points to you! If you care for her then you did the right thing. It will show her how great of a person you are & if she's smart she won't make you wait too long but rather follow what she feels is right.
Nice to know guys like you still exist!
2006-09-22 02:26:14 · answer #5 · answered by Orchid 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is the best thing you could have done. I would rather be a friend in someones life, if they are not ready for a relationship, than to be totally turned away and miss what could be the best friend I could ever want.
When she sorts her life out, and sees you in a clearer lite she will realize that you are the one for her.
You handled everything great.
2006-09-22 02:25:36 · answer #6 · answered by shell7024 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, the best relationships can start out as friendships. Be cautious.... if she needs help with some of the things she is going through... don'y take it on by yourself.... recommend she get some professional help.... counseling!
2006-09-22 02:29:10 · answer #7 · answered by bolla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only time i bring out that im not ready for a relationship line is when i am not physically interested in a guy, let her go, she'll probably want u then.
2006-09-22 02:26:49 · answer #8 · answered by intoxicatedcinderella 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the right thing - but you have to try honestly to be her friend because it seems she's in a great need. And remember...don't push her.
2006-09-22 02:24:15 · answer #9 · answered by antigone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 dates and shes crying in front of you!!! RUN DUDE RUN! No there are a MILLION other women who are ready and im sure are a little more mentally stable.
2006-09-22 02:26:42 · answer #10 · answered by bsd300d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋