2006-09-21 19:04:36 · 16 answers · asked by cyber 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
it really depends on wat the doc's reccomendation. If u think he's not really going to pull thru this ordeal, den it might be better for him to go peacefully. if the doc thinks he's chances of living or even recovery is high, den u shld continue to pay. Find help from social service or govt linked charity or society. I guess they can help u wif yr financial prob. approach the hospital, they have financial counsellor to help u go thru this.
Take Care!
2006-09-21 20:30:23 · answer #1 · answered by monokye 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very difficult ethical issue.
Are you wanting to stop the treatment to save money?
Are the treatments beneficial?
What is your motive?
Are you able to ask your father his opinion?
I have been through this and my heart goes out to you because I know how difficult this problem is.
Carefully consider what you do and do what you can live in peace with. Your father will be dead one way or the other. It is not his peace you are worried about. You will have to live with your decision.
It is your peace of mind that you must concern yourself with.
2006-09-21 19:11:06 · answer #2 · answered by Temple 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very personal decision. It would be best to talk to your father about what he wants. If this is not possible, then you need to dig really deep and decide what you think he would want.
Some questions to ask yourself are: Is it possible he will get better? Is he suffering? Will prolonging/ending treatment make things worse? Does he know what is going on anymore?
This is a terrible situation to have to be in. But, I do understand the financial strain. Good luck and remember keep your dad foremost in your mind.
2006-09-21 19:12:58 · answer #3 · answered by meggs2311 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was he a very strong vibrant man who did not want to be a burden on anyone? If so, let him go. Death is not the end.
The dead just remain as though they are asleep until the resurrection.
(Revelation 20:12-13) And I saw the dead, the great and the small, standing before the throne, and scrolls were opened. But another scroll was opened; it is the scroll of life. And the dead were judged out of those things written in the scrolls according to their deeds. 13 And the sea gave up those dead in it, and death and Ha′des gave up those dead in them, and they were judged individually according to their deeds.
The 'deeds' are NOT those they committed in their past life, because those have been 'paid for' by their death. The judgment is in relation to just how they will react to God's new sys
tem WHEN THEY ARE RESURRECTED. Muslims and Hindus will be most surprised.
(Romans 6:23) For the wages sin pays is death, but the gift God gives is everlasting life by Christ Jesus our Lord.
2006-09-21 21:13:03 · answer #4 · answered by pugjw9896 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is no chance of a recovery and your Father is sick of being sick, it is the best thing to give him pain meds and let him go in Peace. It should not be based on medical expences but quality of life.
2006-09-21 19:09:03 · answer #5 · answered by Godb4me 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can never forgive yourself if you stop the treatment and let him go in peace. Try to borrow or beg, no matter what, just try your best.
2006-09-21 20:18:29 · answer #6 · answered by Tan D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends. Is your Father a "Born Again" Christian. If he is, I would say yes, but if he isn't, I would say no. If he isn't, I would share the gospel with him. I have heard that people have heard eventhough they are in a coma. If you don't feel equipped to do so, ask someone who is. Prayer will also help you decide. I have been sent by complete strangers to witness to their parents on their death bed, it brought their children much relief.
2006-09-21 19:14:54 · answer #7 · answered by Apostle Jeff 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is no hope he will ever get better, yes, stop the treatment. Prolonging life for the sake of life itself is stupid. Unfortunately, many doctors think that any death is a failure for them, even hopeless cases.
2006-09-21 19:09:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no right or wrong in allowing a loved one to exit in dignity. If your father is physically suffering and does not want to continue any treatment to prolong his life, and has indicated to you that he is ready to go, let him go.
Five years ago, I watched my father deteriorate from a fun-loving, vibrant man to a vegetable before my sister, who had been put in charge of his medical care, decided that it was "time" for him to die. Nurses changed my father's diapers because he was not capable of taking care of his most elementary bodily functions. His brain was eaten up with cancer. He didn't recognize anyone the last week of his life. His pain was alleviated only by high doses of drugs.
Three years later, my younger brother, who had been battling life-threatening diseases for 20 years, chose to leave with dignity. He gathered his wife and three children, told them he loved them, and that he wanted them to live their life to the fullest. He stopped his treatment, and left us three days later. He told our mother he was so tired of fighting; but that he was at peace and ready to go.
Losing a loved one is not easy; but, trying to keep one who may be ready to go, is selfish.
2006-09-21 19:44:08 · answer #9 · answered by Baby Poots 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if it is close to the end- no. Have you looked into state assistance.... I would do what ever I could to make him comfortable... Sorry to hear & good luck
2006-09-21 19:07:05 · answer #10 · answered by mikey 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋