concerning if she did cause his jail sentence, yes but on the other hand she may have been completely justfied in doing so. noone knows exactly what did and did not happen. i dont know who my self to believe my father or my daughter. i luv them both. i feel like im caught between a rock and a hard place. she was always very close to my other two children and they r extemely anxious to c her again. but i do want to be cautiuos because i dont know if its all a con or she honestly wants to c everyone.
2006-09-21 18:52:59 · 4 answers · asked by goody2shus 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It sounds like something happened 5 years ago, when your daughter was 12, just a kid. People change a lot between 12 and 17!
Did your dad molest your daughter? If so, he's in jail and isn't a danger to her now.
This is weird, you don't want to tell the details, as if they don't really matter, but it's the question of what happened that's behind everything! It's weird that your brother is willing to give up his sister and nephews/nieces if you so much as see her!
Knowing very little about this situation--I wouldn't let her come live with me and my kids right now.--assuming she might tell lies and be some kind of danger to people. But I don't see anything wrong with meeting at a burger place and talking for an hour. Maybe don't even bring the little kids yet, till you see what's going on with her.
As you get more information you'll know better what to do. If she wants more contact with you, ask for references--how do the people who are around her now feel about her, how she's acting. She may be growing up and maturing, or she may be wearing them out. Who knows? You'll have to work to find out.
2006-09-21 19:07:42 · answer #1 · answered by Plain and Simple 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think she is probably telling the truth... sorry, i have talked to a lot of young girls who have been through similar experiences with a grandparent/father/uncle/ babysitter ... its a very traumatic issue for them since they are betrayed by an adult they thought was supposed to protect them ... in this day and age, it takes more than say so to make the case. the physical evidence is very definite. it may be that she felt the lack of support by her family was what she feared all along, it is quite common for molesters or abusers to tell their victims that no one will believe them and they will be unloved and sent away to keep them silent.
your brother may be of the same cloth and is therefore making his threat so she wont implicate him of similar abuse ... if you have doubts, review the trial transcripts and look the evidence over. if necessary, have a doctor explain it to you so you understand the whole picture. not everything submitted at the trail is used, you may find additional evidence that was not submitted in open hearing but was given to the jury for review under stipulation. ... we have to love our family members, but we have to protect our children from those who would harm them
you definitely have to meet her and talk about it and you will have to listen with the understanding that what she is telling you is true beyond a reasonable doubt ... its understandable that you were torn hearing things about your father that you found hard to believe but if you shut her out again, you will lose her forever ... really listen this time, she needs you to hear her.
2006-09-22 01:57:38 · answer #2 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should believe your daughter, i cant believe your even debating this.....
2006-09-22 02:24:56 · answer #3 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you love your daughter.
2006-09-22 02:02:00 · answer #4 · answered by Mother of three 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋