my 17 yearold daughter got in touch with me after 5 years. i wont go into to details but there were problems that made it impossible for her to stay with me at the time. my father is now in prison and my brother(who is almost the only immediate family im still in touch with) has informed me that if im in contact with her he will have nothing to do with me or my other 2 children. i luv and miss my daughter & i luv my brother what would u do?
2006-09-21 18:33:43 · 8 answers · asked by goody2shus 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
shes your child and you love her right? i think it is very unfair of your brother to threaten you so that you will make the decision thats in his best interest. go w/ your gut and your heart. i hope it all works out for you. dont worry brothers always forgive their sisters.
2006-09-21 18:38:51 · answer #1 · answered by sis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your child is more important. Now we don't have the whole story but going off of what you have said, you really need to be there for your daughter. Hopefully the rest of the family will come around but you have an obligation to your child
2006-09-21 18:38:11 · answer #2 · answered by heartache 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not allow your brother to emotionally blackmail you ... by the same token, make sure your 17 yr old is not going to bring those same issues back into your home that made it necessary for her to leave in the first place ... tell your brother that evreyone deserves a second chance if they are sincere in their efforts to correct past issues and have made progress in that diirection. dont let either of them manipulate you ... this is a choice you have to make for yourself. since you still have younger kids in the home that may be influenced by your daughter, is this a good or bad thing for them ... weigh all factors and make a sensible choice ... it may be that you will have to meet her away from the home and maintain that seperation on that basis if past issues still exist
2006-09-21 18:42:27 · answer #3 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough question with so little info. Try doing both. Does your brother really need to know? IIf he does maybe you should ask your daughter to try to approach him and win him over first. She should have no problem with this if she really has changed.
2006-09-21 18:45:26 · answer #4 · answered by gulicio 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to do what is best for you and your daughter.an d your other kids.try to talk to your brother and see what you need to do to have him and your daughter in your life .what does your daughter want.it must have been something pretty bad for him to say that.if you have to get some family counsleing.tell him you do what ever it takes to have your family together
2006-09-21 18:44:23 · answer #5 · answered by lip o 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
any 5 year old will tell you your daughter comes first.
2006-09-21 18:45:29 · answer #6 · answered by Mother of three 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did your daughter cause her grandfather to go to jail?....that's a toughie.
2006-09-21 18:37:10 · answer #7 · answered by Diamond in the Rough 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a terrible dilemma. I would ask God to direct my thinking.
Good luck.
2006-09-21 18:37:11 · answer #8 · answered by concernedjean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋