Would this long distance relationship be worth it to you?

Question

-we live 1 1/2 apart.
-I have one kid. He has 3.
-I work shifts and weekends, he works days
It is like a long distance relationship and we text, msn and phone all the time and are in touch almost constantly as life let us.

-I went once with my kid to see him and left at 5:30 am to get back in time for work (he has more kids though)
-Now this weekend i have off, and he is thinking of taking extra shifts for time and a half...

We get along great, and I would always wonder 'what if'. we have talked of getting a place, but not for awhile yet.

Is this worth the lonliness when we are only 1 1/2 away. I would totally re-arrange my schedule to make this work, and for him it is harder with 3 kids (I only have the one). Our lives are on different shifts.

1 1/2 hours

Answer 1

i fyou are both giving your best, yes. Remember his best and your best might look different. But if you both put in effort and compromise,,, then go for it

Answer 2

Is it 1.5 hours away that you live from one another? In my part of the state, that is not far by any means.

Only if you've decided to place more importance on finding a man than raising your child, should you spend any more time thinking about this.

It's very difficult to make that move, and even more so when your decision can affect more than just you.

If there isn't any possibility of changing shifts, then I'd put the relationship on hold, until you both agree on a strategy for spending more time together. Remember, freeing up your time, if that's what you two want to do, is more than just your responsibility.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Just the fact that you're questioning whether or not it will work makes me wonder if you really want it to work. If you both want to make this happen then it will happen. BOTH of you have to be willing to compromise and make things work, but if only one is doing it then it doesn't seem like it's going to. can one of you move? What do the kids say? have you talked this over with hiim?

Answer 4

ultimaltelly it depends on you. I have been dating a girl for 2 years now and she lives across an ocean :P so 1.5 hours to me is nothing. The thing that is important is if you love one another, if you do, you can make anything work

Answer 5

Consider not only the distance, but also the total number of children this union would create. TRUST ME in that you will find someone compatible who lives considerably closer ( and hopefully only has one, if NO dependent children). Additionally, focus on your child, not a man. Your child is your number one priority.

Answer 6

Long distence does work if you can handle it. any relationship take commitement and hard work. I have been in a longdistence relationship for 3 years now and we have found away to feel we are always together, And Soon in March we will always be together,

Answer 7

if the both of you are commited to eachother then work or no work time or no time both of you should make time for eachother. i believe that no matter where in this world you are , everynight set a time to look to the sky and see the stars knowing that you love is looking at the same stars anbd love eachother completely and honestly

Answer 8

No too many kids involved. Man, thats to much drama. Tell you what, evaluate this situation (forget the fact that you are in love) then ask yourself does it make sense. If it does then go for it. I mean it depends on the type of person you and he are. (Patient, altitude, temperament). Please consider the kids.

Answer 9

"Would this long distance relationship be worth it to you?"

This specific relationship... no, it doesn't even register on my "who gives a sh*t-o-meter".

Don't you have any friends you can run this by? By the way... what's your opinion about this little conflict I'm having with someone you would never care about, in a state you've never been to, about a problem you could never find yourself in.... blah, blah, blah

Answer 10

1-1/2 what? Miles, blocks, hours, days?

Reading all the above, I say forget it...