u know when he is trying to tell u that u are not all that ..
BUT everyone else on this planet thinks that u are?? ) friends , relative , family... ????
is he insecure? trying to bring me down???
he is 49 yrs old i am 34...
2006-09-21 17:51:02 · 10 answers · asked by Eva Daniel Rn 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Did you both get into an argument? When you get into arguments, you say hurtful words that you don't mean.
If he did not say this when you two were arguing, then he wants to make you feel bad about yourself.
My boyfriend (of 11 months) has said hurtful words to me in the past, and I tell him I'm not going to tolerate his verbal abuse that I don't need abuse in my life, and I'd rather be alone. That usually makes him apologize and humbles him alot.
His verbal attacks have dwindled down to around "0" since I have said this each and every time he has tried to make me feel bad.
Good luck!
2006-09-21 17:59:46 · answer #1 · answered by hope 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is insecure and feels threatened by you. He is now trying to make you insecure and think less about yourself in that way look up to him. This good be a very dangerous relationship and he could even become abusive. Also you have to look at what he is referring to as well. he might be referring to your behaviour at imes but if in general then I would say be very careful. Never look down on yourself and do not worry about what others say always act with integrity and honesty and when doing something always ask the question if I were in somebody else's position how would I feel about my actions be fair and honest and always carry your integrity at the forefront.
2006-09-22 18:30:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does "what u to be insecured" mean? Do you mean "want you to feel insecure?" If so, he does this to gain an edge, a feeling of power over you. He wants to control you. He wants to be the Number One thing in your life and he does it by telling you things that might make you feel less than optimistic and upbeat about yourself. He's 49 and sportin' around with a 34 year-old hottie like you. He needs to reinforce his masculinity and he is doing it at your expense. My advice is to dump his selfish, control-freak assets right now.
2006-09-21 17:52:48 · answer #3 · answered by christopher s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like (if I'm reading you correctly) the age gap is a bit much for him to handle ... he's seems insecure in that he may not be able to keep up with the competition for your affections.....If he's worth it ..get the duct tape and try to fix it ..... He better be really worth it!! If he tha average joe blow ....trade up ..he will wind up a jealous wreck and make both of your doubting everything you both do and say.
Good luck ! Take a look in the mirror.....if she's ok with your decision ...they go with it !!
2006-09-21 17:57:43 · answer #4 · answered by John 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you want this guy or woman out of your existence, he has no longer something well worth making an investment some time in, you've gotten the means to discover actual love, somebody who won't in user-friendly terms shield you and your newborn, yet will gain this in a approach in which you're meant to journey. no longer on the palms of a few sociopath loser.
2016-10-15 07:07:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Making comment is not good for relationship. He has more experience them you - maybe he is mostly right. But to make it OK criticizing all the time cam every one sick to the bone.
Tell him to change the stile of expressing his feelings or shot up if is not important any way.
I ignore some stupidity of someone if doesn't have any consequences for me. Sometimes silence is worth the peace.
2006-09-21 18:00:23 · answer #6 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to tell you this but -he's just not that into you. Probably no reflection on you at all! Ask yourself the question - why does he want to be with you if you're so sub-standard?? People do what works for them, so if he's actively making you feel low, what's the pay-off/benefit for him?
I don't know you - but I'd suggest that you re-assess your situation...
2006-09-21 17:56:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes definetely...some men have a tendency of trying to beat down their mates confidence so she'll start thinking less of herself and believe they can't get anyone else consequently,the man gains control over your self esteem so you won't cheat on him. He's probably having a mid-life crisis. Don't let his insecurities become yours.
2006-09-21 18:05:33 · answer #8 · answered by darkelvenprincess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For whatever reason he wants you to think that he is the only one who would give you a chance and that no one else sees you being attractive.
It' his way of trying to control you.
2006-09-21 17:54:36 · answer #9 · answered by Jason 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're not all that.
2006-09-21 18:08:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋