Should single mom's let their kids see them cry?

Answer 1

Either way. If you let them see you crying they will learn to be compassionate, to know that you ar not a super human - - just human. If you do not let them see you cry, they have the confidence that their mommy is the strongest woman in the world. I would let my child see me cry. I do not have to be superhuman to be a good mother

Answer 2

What difference does it make if you're a single mom or not? Crying is a natural reaction to all sorts of situations, and your relationship status shouldn't affect whether or not you choose to let your kids see your tears. All I would say, though, is that it would be a good idea to tell them why you're crying. Extreme emotions generally bring people closer together, so the more you open yourself up to them, the more they'll feel they're able to return the favor.

Answer 3

Whether you cry in front of them or not, kids have an amazing ability to pick up on the moods of their parents.

Cry, by all means cry. It's a healthy emotional release. But directly in front of the kids could be very upsetting for them, especially if they can't understand what's going on. It will just leave them with a feeling of insecurity.

For your kids sake, if you are crying a lot, then start to work on the causes of your depression, & get yourself happy ASAP.
See a councelor, or attend a support group, call a pastor, a friend, or something. Crying brings relief for only a short while. Talking it out with someone who is supportive brings long-term solutions.

Cheer up, & be well!

Answer 4

Possibly....I'm assuming you mean in reference to being frustrated or lonely in your current situation, wishing there were a man to share your life with, help raise the kids, etc.

I think it would be ok given two conditions: First, the children need to be old enough to understand the source of the crying. If they are too young or immature, they may internalize it and assume they are to blame for your situation somehow, even if that's not a rational thought. You are their mom, they see you in pain, they're going to try and explain it, and the less knowledgeable about the world they are, are likely to jump to a faulty and destructive conclusion.

Second, you be open and honest about what you're feeling. If they are going to see you cry, talk to them about what's going on inside of you, so they can understand the source. If you trust them with that kind of vulnerability, you may be surprised in how they respond. But if you just cry and say nothing, it's just going to upset them, and again, left to their own devices, will probably not hit on the right answer, and the answer they come up with will probably be unpleasant ones.

The main thing for you is to make sure your "cry" is a productive one. In other words, don't let it be a general state of depression, where you've done nothing but mope around all day in your bathrobe, and you end the day sobbing. Let it be a natural response to what you're feeling. We have our feelings for a reason. But, once you've allowed yourself that, use it to motivate and strengthen you somehow. Let your pain have purpose.

Answer 5

Yes and no. Yes because they need to understand that moms are humans too. No because being their mom, you are their pillar of strength and therefore they should not see you expressing weakness. Long story short, older kids (10 or above) - Yes they can. Younger than that, no. Being their mom, you should be able to assess how mature they are and decide.

Also take into consideration what you are crying about, if it is for a reason such as someone's passing, I dont see why not. But if it is because your bf dumped you because he doesn't like that you have kids or something stupid like that then definitely no.

Answer 6

Because your the Mom ! Your the teacher, role model ...your job is to help mold them into functioning human beings..... Humans express emotion ... if your really mad ...let them see that, if your really hurt ...they need to see you cry too ...this is a opportunity for them to learn and you to explain why your upset (in age appropriate terms) ... I think you will be surprised how comforting the kids can be and how perceptive they already are.

Don't make your self out to be unemotional and non-feeling ... But don't cry at everything or scream and fly off the handle at little things ... save the emotionally sharing for the really big stressors .... you wanna educate them .. not make them scared.

Be your self.... speak clearly and explain the reasons in age appropriate terms so they can understand.

Answer 7

Being a single mom is not the criteria as to whether kids should see them cry. Its okay for kids to see their parents being human. Don't create the idea in your kids that grown ups aren't supposed to feel nothing but happiness and that life is all smiles and a ticker tape parade. Being honest is what kids need to see in their parents.

Answer 8

either way kids can feel when you sad or have something on your mind . they will know either way.. crying or not. just by body language . ever noticed how a young kid says "Mom you ok"? or Something wrong Mom... Happiness is contagious. It's important for you to convey a positive attitude, because your child will pick up on your happiness and feel the same. When you leave your child at the nursery or at home with a caregiver, look happy and make a quick exit. According to Dr. Ahmed, if you look gloomy and guilty, your child will catch on to those feelings and become distressed. However, if you have a smile on your face (a convincing one, because kids detect fakeness) he will feel safer

Answer 9

Not all the time and not because you are crying because you are feeling sorry for yourself. Crying is okay but not just because you have a bad day or you can't get over someone no one needs to see that but if a love one passes or something like that yes its okay.

Answer 10

Depends on the ages of the children it's always best to put up a tough fornt however the older a child is the more it picks up on things and sometimes you just can not help but cry