We are having a 10th birthday party for our daughter. We our new to the school. We have invited all the girls in the class.(10) I have written rsvp on the invitations, but only received 2 calls. What do I do with the other people who haven't responded? It's hard to plan a party when people aren't considerate.
2006-09-21 17:13:59 · 21 answers · asked by momof5 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Call the mothers. It is considered polite to do so. Say, we have not heard from you yet, I need to order the food and cake. Will Susie be attending?
Good luck, and Happy Birthday to your daughter.
2006-09-21 17:18:46 · answer #1 · answered by riversconfluence 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I always call the day I get the invite.... or at least within the next couple days. If no one calls by Wednesday, no, I would not cancel. Its highly likely at least one person will still show up. Some people are just awful about RSVPing to things like this. A wedding? Sure. A 6th birthday party? Not so much. If it were me, I'd simply call everyone on Wednesday and ask them if they'll be attending. There may be a bit of a mix-up. Perhaps they just forgot, or have procrastinated and intend to call you very soon, perhaps the children didn't give the invites to the parents and they don't even know about the party.... the reasons really could be endless. *No offense, but it kinda sounds like you are over-reacting just a bit. Canceling the entire party just because no one RSVP'd? Telling the parents they are immature just because they call a day late? I think you are taking things a little too far. Just politely call them all up on Wednesday and ask them if they'll be attending. Just simply tell them that you were planning on hand-making very special party favors and you need a head count. Then politely remind them that, in the future, you'd really appreciate a timely response to the invite. There's no reason to fly off the handle.
2016-03-27 01:41:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hated that when my kids were younger. Once, for my daughter's birthday, only 1 child showed up. I was so pissed. I usually tried to get phone numbers for the kids that were invited and if I didn't hear anything, I would call. A lot of times the kids would forget the invitation in their backpack and the parents had no idea that their precious child had been invited to a birthday party. Get the phone numbers. It will help you out. Good luck !
2006-09-21 17:47:33 · answer #3 · answered by vik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darling, you've got no choice, call each one of them and ask. If you do have a party and nobody shows your daughter will remember it for the rest of her life.
If there will only be a couple of children coming - change things, instead of a party, take them out and do something great like a day at the swimming pool or a matinee theatre show, you would have spent that money on a party anyway.
The children will tell all their friends what a great time they had and suddenly your daughter will be the girl at school that they all want to know. Hope it all works out.
2006-09-21 21:11:23 · answer #4 · answered by sarah b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the people. You don't know the people, so it is hard to judge their consideration at the time. They may not even know or forgot to call or say something. If I were you I would plan the party for all of the invitees and be the bigger person, even if it was purposely done. Do not let your child feel dejected over this. It is only a children party, don't be to hard, until you know the parents more. Blessings.
2006-09-21 17:20:47 · answer #5 · answered by charmaine f 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been through this too, although not a child's b'day. I don't think people are all that busy to not take 1 minute to RSVP or e-mail. They usually know if they are going to attend or not when they open the invititation. If they are that "busy" they should call that instant.
I would call the mothers, introduce yourself & chat for a bit. You could say you're confirming a head count for the party. Some mothers may be leery with sending their child to a strangers house.
Your daughter may be able to ask her friends who's coming to her party?
2006-09-22 03:43:23 · answer #6 · answered by jillette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try and get a list of all the phone numbers of the parents. Call them and introduce yourself. Let them know you would really like to have their child to come to the party. Sometimes when people are new to a place it's better if you call and introduce yourself. I hope your daughter has a wonderful party. It would really hurt her if no one showed up. Do all you can to get the responses. At age 10 the kids are very sensitive.
2006-09-21 23:03:15 · answer #7 · answered by purrfectsandcastle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ugh! I went through something similar with my daughter's 6th birthday party last April. I invited 13 girls to a spa party, thinking about half would show, no one RSVP'd and EVERYONE came. It was really expensive. My daughter was recently invited to a Chuck E. Cheese Party. The mom actually called all the mothers to get an accurate head count. She was very nice and I appreciated her call. It gave me a chance to get to know her a little better. I think I will do this next year. No one RSVP's anymore, it is so RUDE! Good luck!
2006-09-21 17:19:11 · answer #8 · answered by wannabeteacher 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Call the parents and say you have not been receiving RSVP's. Ask if they would like to join your party or are they unable to?
2006-09-21 22:58:54 · answer #9 · answered by Cub6265 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your daughter to talk to the kids at school - they'll put the pressure on the parents to call you if they really want to go to the party. Otherwise, you can call the parents. I know, parents can be really inconsiderate - and just say they are busy, but it's the kids who lose out....
2006-09-22 03:10:56 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just call each guest and tell them that you wanted to get a final count on the guest list so you could order the food. Tell them that you are calling to make sure they were going to be able to come. In this way you get the information you need, And they feel bad for not responding!
2006-09-21 17:27:08 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋