Im a flirt by nature, I dont want anything out of it and half the time I dont even realize that I am being that way... Im happily married with two beautiful kids. I wonder why if two people flirt harmlessly that others think bad of the woman because they think she is trying to get that person in bed... not all women do this to get guys in bed or to try and steal your man sometimes they dont realize they are being flirty... my question, why do other women look down on other girls for this and why cant someone be flirty without actually wanting something out of it... I flirt with my husbands friends all the time out of just plain fun... my husbands secure enough to know that I dont mean it, he is also a natural flirt which I have no problems with... if he cheated he knows the consequences.. so why cant flirting be just harmless fun between friends or whatever?
2006-09-21 17:11:50 · 21 answers · asked by beautifullybroken 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
kimberly, it honestly doesnt mean they are sluts, lol a slut is someone who sleeps around, Ive never cheated on my husband, or did anything that he didnt approve of therefor, how could I be considered a slut
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2006-09-21 17:19:03 · update #1
ok to answerer 11 on my page.. lol.. I have the greatest husband in the world, I have no fault with him, and this does go both ways you know... it could be considered temptation from a man or a womans perspective... my husband knows I dont want to sleep with his friends and I know that he doesnt want to sleep with the girls that are his coworkers that he flirts with, and if .. like I said its harmless fun if he honestly did want to sleep with them and was tempted to then why would he come to me and joke around about what he says to some of the girls at work,
honestly YOU CAN FLIRT WITH NO INTENTIONS BEHIND IT!!!
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2006-09-21 17:29:23 · update #2
I agree with the physical aspects, you should never let things go beyond words, to me that would be considered wanting something more, but just joking and talking not so much
great answer
2006-09-21 17:33:30 · update #3
well honestly I don't know. I am also very happily married with 4 kids. And honestly, 90% of my friends are guys that I have harmlessly flirted with or made some kind of innuendo to. I don't see anything wrong with it as long as both parties are on the same page that it will never go any further than horsing around. I do think it is a problem though when one person starts to have feelings that go beyond just flirting. Or if it starts to make your spouse feel uneasy about the situation.
With that being said..... Let's face it. We are women. Women are catty!!!! We try and out do each other whether it be the way we look or who we can or can't get. Alot of women feel threatened by "flirtatious" women because of their own personal insecurities. If a guy is flirting with someone else they start questioning themselves. ("what is so great about her?", "what is wrong with me that he gives her the attention and not me?" etc.)
Just ignore it... If you and your husband have a mutual understanding of the subject that is what matters in the end. You don't have to justify yourself to people who have no right to judge you in the first place.
2006-09-21 17:25:48 · answer #1 · answered by ktjokt 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you flirt with the husbands or boyfriends of other women, don't be shocked if those women aren't too happy with you.
While flirting can be fun and benign, it isn't always appropriate and it's definitely not a wise idea for married folks. There are other ways to socialize with the opposite sex.
Flirting isn't totally harmless either. People can't always tell what the intention behind it is - if it's for fun or done out of attraction. This leads to a lot of pain, misunderstandings, miscommunications, and broken hearts.
2006-09-22 01:42:11 · answer #2 · answered by Sass B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because it shows that deep down you're looking for something. Not to mention that other women probably don't like the thought of their men being interested in you - even if they may not act on it. Flirting is a type of temptation. It's fine between single people but if you do it with "committed" men then you're tempting them away - whether you mean it or not. It's also disrespectful to your husband.
2006-09-22 00:21:39 · answer #3 · answered by DiRTy D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it shows your insecure. It's a lot easier to be the center of attention when your shamelessly flirting with guys, enticing them with sex then it is to be liked and respected for your intelligance and personality. I agree some women are jealous, others just think your a sell out. Personally I'd take women's friendship and respect over some guys oogling me any day of the week.
I am a social, nice friendly person who easily talks to everyone, which is totally different from being flirty. You say you don't realize your being flirty? Then why the hell did you ask this question?
2006-09-22 10:30:45 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Women and girls can be so spiteful. Harmless flirting is good. It shows your a confident social person. People we look down on you are insecure. They want to have your personality but they don't know how to love themselves and respect themselves and feel confident. Flirting in the right manor is fun. Be yourself and the people that look down on you need to get a life.
2006-09-22 07:40:09 · answer #5 · answered by purrfectsandcastle 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I tend to be the same way and I'm very happily married. It's just my personna to be friendly and bubbly - many people take it as being flirty. Women get mad because a person who is bubbly and fun usually ends up being the center of attention and/or very well liked. Many women just get jealous or think that you're doing it on purpose to show them up.
2006-09-22 00:14:36 · answer #6 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Being flirty I do not know I am doing it either. I think women look at you and think "she is trying to get my guy, how dare she." Being the way you are just shows you are a sociable person that likes to talk to people. Nothing wrong with that in my opinion.
2006-09-22 00:21:23 · answer #7 · answered by tazachusetts 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
They're not the most moral humans. There's a big problem with not being politically correct in society. It's a big way to get publicity, but it's not always something that'll make people a big fan of you.
2006-09-22 00:19:24 · answer #8 · answered by Answerer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a guy and I tend to be a bit flirty, although I am married and not inclined to cheat.
I think flirting is flattering. (Whoo, try saying that five times after eating eight soda crackers.) I think it is fun, and--most of the time it's entirely harmless.
Some women don't understand that and they think flirty girls (or guys) are tramps.
2006-09-22 00:16:07 · answer #9 · answered by Warren D 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you dont know your flirting then your not , its just being friendly, but if your doing it on purpose then yeah its not right. Do what you want just dont flirt with someone who has a girlfriend because thats not right no one likes that.
2006-09-22 00:16:00 · answer #10 · answered by camaroconvertible 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋