first i was asked to leave a mormon church for wearing something that they didn't like last sunday then today i get a letter from the bishop himself wondering why my wife didn't give her tiething and now just as we were sitting down to dinner a couple of their missonaries show up not to see my wife but to talk to me about my beliefs. i was already mad enough to spit but this put me over the edge!
i told them to get off my property and not come back or i would call the police.(the same thing they threatened to do to me if i didn't leave their church) then i slamed the door in their faces.
so i guess my question is do you think i over reacted?
if so where should the breaking point be?
2006-09-21 16:57:05 · 15 answers · asked by bgdadyp 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
if you need more info. then please see my question "was he right" and
"can you believe this"
2006-09-21 16:58:25 · update #1
i don't want to bother my wife with these questions as she already has enough on her mind as it is.
2006-09-21 16:59:31 · update #2
Hey...I think that your wife needs to run, not walk, to a different church pronto. This is harassing behavior. They obviously want to bully you into believeing something that you are not wanting to hear...I think that the door slamming was a little dramatic, but I cannot say that I can blame you, I would have been very irritated, too! Most Churches would accept you, downright WELCOME you to Church service with your wife...good Churches are out there. Myself? I was a practicing Wiccan for 10 years before I converted to Catholicism. (I chose Catholicism for many different reasons...also, they believe in Spirits...I adopted a very Irish Celtic angle to Catholisism and it works for me! I also use Laginappe and Candle Magick to Saints...those are familliar territory, no? I am just saying this because it worked for me, and it might be a meeting ground for the both of you. She can be Christian, you Pagan...and still work together on things!!!) Good luck to you both...God Bless.
2006-09-21 17:09:13 · answer #1 · answered by The Nag 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So if the mormon church can not accept you for who you are then why bother with them. The fact that they worry about some clothes and of course are most concerned with your money then I would have done the same thing. They showed up at your house to act concerned for your "salvation" and to try to guilt your wife into paying her tithes. I feel that they disrespected you once and then showed up at your house to try get money out of you, I am with you on what you did. No you did not go to far, as long as you obey the law then you haven't gone too far. The way it sounds to me is that she is mormon and you are not. The mormon churches' doctrine is that members should only marry members and if they marry a non member or "non believer" then they have to make it their lifes' ambition to convert you. I am not trying talk bad about your wife in ANY way, but those are a few facts about the LDS church. No you did not over react and the breaking point as you put it would be doing something rash like assaulting them, which you did not.
2006-09-22 01:43:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, let's consider what was the thing they didn't like, maybe they considered it offensive and that's why they kicked you out. I think that acting like a civilized man would've been more appropriate but I don't think you overreacted at all, it's in fact your propriety and you can do whatever you want with it and as you felt threatened by all the questioning it's not a crazy thing to do. I do believe too that you should show up and apologize, it's always rude to kick someone out of somewhere that way, and it doesn't matter if they did the same, you should act like a gentleman and offer your apologies for behaving rudly even though they behaved in the same way. Forgive and forget I must say! Good luck! Hope you find it useful!
2006-09-22 00:03:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mormonism is not a cult. They would never ask you to leave because of what you were wearing unless it was of offensive language or gesture. The tithing thing is a crock, they would never ask where your tithing is. I think you are an angry man. The mormon church is a wonderful church and I resent the fact that you told those missionaries to get off your property. You could have asked them to leave politely. And for that person who said that we are not Christians you should look up the definition in the dictionary. We believe in God, Jesus Christ and in the Holy Ghost. Maybe you should do some soul searching, I'm sure you probably used profanity towards them to make them ask you to leave if it even happened at all. And for that person who wrote that we only want your money that is assinine. Tithing is in the bible it's not just some whacked idea the mormon church had to make money. If you don't beleive me look up Numbers 18:26. The tithing money that the church members pay goes to build temples, pay bills and we have our own church welfare system so those unfortunate families get help from our church not from the government.
2006-09-22 01:12:14 · answer #4 · answered by freakygurl559 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think you did the right thing by asking them to leave. They have a way to insinuate themselves in people's lives.However, they may have been in their rights to ask you to leave. I'm pretty sure that if you are not of the Mormon faith you are not allowed to be in their church, but I may be wrong. Anyway, I feel so sad, because you want to do the right thing for your wife, they had to ruin it by being jack@sses. Doesn't look like being fair, understanding, charitable are Mormon qualities. As for the monies they want, don't give it to them. It's unfortunate for your wife, she needs to have a good talk with you and decide if all the bulls-hit they put her through is worth all the headaches. You and yours deserve better. I hope everything will work out for your family and wish your wife's surgery goes well. I'll think of you guys in the next few days. Bye for now!
2006-09-22 01:20:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
there are lots of good churches out there. Visit around and find one where you feel comfortable to worship. What you are wearing should not matter unless it is offensive. In the Baptist Church no one knows who tithes or not except the church treasurer. No one begs for money at my church and blue jeans are welcome. Like you, I would have been quite upset. Also Mormons are considered a cult by many including Southern Baptists.
2006-09-22 00:05:49 · answer #6 · answered by winkcat 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so, it's your home and you are allowed to ask someone to leave.
as for being thrown out of church over what you wore, I didn't even know that God had a dress code, other than dress modestly (was anything showing that shouldn't have been?)
I hate to tell you but God doesn't care what you wear, but he does care about your heart.
as for tithing, they don't want you but want your money?! that's about the worst thing I have ever heard!
find another church, honestly, not all churches are like that!
2006-09-22 00:03:26 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Poetic1♥ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Uh....what did you wear, just out of curiosity? And is it your wife or you that is a mormon? Cause it sounds like you aren't too happy about the religion anyway.
And no, I don't think you were overreacting. You have the right not to be harassed in your own home (in my opinion).
2006-09-22 00:00:31 · answer #8 · answered by Jensenfan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mormanism is a cult. Find a church thats doctrines and teachings are based on the bible only. When I met my wife her mom sent them after us. They came by......once.
Don't lose faith. Religion cares about worldly matters...Christ doesn't care about what you are wearing, He has more of a inward concern.
God Bless
2006-09-22 00:10:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tithing? People still do that? I thought that went out with the Spanish Inquisition. All I can say is that if you're stupid enough to give 10% of your salary to a church, you deserve whatever misfortune you're suffering.
2006-09-22 00:07:39 · answer #10 · answered by southeastside 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋