Ok here is the deal my husbands birthday is coming up on thursday, so his brother text me to see what I had planned well needless to say that we were texting eachother back and forth. Then my wanna be sister in law ( they arent married) text me saying what the he!! is so dam important that yall cant call eachother on the phone, so I told her what we were talking about and she was all mad she was like you wouldnt like for me to text alex (my hubby). I told her you gotta understand that david is my brother in law and if I wanna text him than I am. To make a long story short what would you have done?
I dont think I was wrong
2006-09-21 16:54:00 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
tell her **** off ***** you are inmature and maybe is in your mind doing wrong with somebody's husband that in my mind never crossed so wake up and with this behaivour your chances to become my future sister in law are getting narrow.
2006-09-21 17:04:55 · answer #1 · answered by dancingwiththestars 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the "Oh, don't worry there is nothing going on" approach. She is obviously insecure. The fact that you get enrolled in her crap by defending yourself just makes things worse. Let her know that you and her relationship is important to you and that you don't want her to be jealous but that you were talking about your husband/his brother about his birthday! Take the high road, be bigger and better by not engaging in it. Come from your heart of an understanding woman knowing that jealousy is a hard thing for us as women. Believe me she does not like feeling this way that is why she is coming at you with anger. Anger hides true feelings ie: feeling scared of losing someone, feeling inadequate as a woman.
2006-09-22 00:03:31 · answer #2 · answered by jewels 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have done the same thing that you did. There is absolutely nothing wrong in texting messages to your brother-in-law about your husband's birthday, or him to you. Tell your brother-in-law what happened and let him take care of it. You were not wrong. I hope this helps.
2006-09-22 00:19:20 · answer #3 · answered by organic gardener 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wanna be sister in law is making a big deal over nothing. You did nothing wrong by texting back and forth with your brother in law.
2006-09-22 00:00:14 · answer #4 · answered by Bazinga 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If all you were doing was discussing his birthday then no harm but if this woman doesn't want you text message her man then you should respect that and so should her man. And if you have been tight with your brother in-law for years then he should put his GF in check about it so if i was you I wouldn't text or talk to him on the phone until he straighten his GF out.
2006-09-22 00:08:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the right thing. First of all your family and shes not. Secondly, you only did what you did because you love your husband and wanted him to have a great birthday...don't let anyone make you feel bad about that.
2006-09-21 23:56:39 · answer #6 · answered by NiK* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget it, it's water under the bridge now. In the future, you might wish to text her, and have her ask her husband, at least then she won't be suspecting anything. She sounds like a very jealous woman, and jealousy is fear, and fear sprouts anger. She is not mad at you, she is afraid of you... afraid that you might be trying to steal her man, or at least have an affair with him. Does she watch a lot of soap operas, or afternoon talk shows? Sounds like it.
2006-09-22 00:00:15 · answer #7 · answered by eric l 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you were wrong. But...would you get mad if she texted your hubby, or was that you talking?
Also, remind her that adultery is one thing, but incest-in-law is another!
2006-09-21 23:56:19 · answer #8 · answered by A Box of Signs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is an insecure jerk. That is all there is to it. You did the right thing. Stick to your guns. If she doesn't like it, tough beans.
2006-09-21 23:57:35 · answer #9 · answered by Jon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i dont think you are in the wrong either......tell her to build a bridge.......and get over it........she is being insecure and immature.....hope you did something nice for his birthday after all that
2006-09-21 23:56:17 · answer #10 · answered by askaway 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋