There is this lady who I work with who I have a huge crush on, however, whenever I see her I immediately begin to get an erection. Usually this is not a problem because I am normally sitting at my desk. I think that somehow she has discovered my weakness because lately she seems to be walking into the room whenever I am giving a presentation or having a meeting with my boss or clients. She just comes in and asks an irrelevent question while smiling mischievously at me and looking at my pants. I really don't know what to do, how do I tell her to stop because of the effect she has on me?
2006-09-21 16:45:34 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ROFLMAO.....boy is she having fun w/this...poor you. I'm sorry this would be so fun to toy w/. Maybe you should just ask her out and get it over w/.
2006-09-21 16:50:40 · answer #1 · answered by Ivory_Flame 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can't say for certain, as no one can (not even you), but I think you're just being too conscious of what's going on between you and her. A lot of the time once you get a theory in your head, you only see the 'facts' that support this theory and in this case you notice every single time she looks at you even though she may be just looking at you just as she does every single person in the office. Only her looks 'hit you' in a much deeper way obviously as you tend to have an erection every time you lay your eyes on her. So.. my prescription to you is no more boxers, instead switch to something a little more tight fitting. Then, go up and talk to her. You don't need to ask her out, just get it so that you and her have a comfortable familiarness between the two of you. This should help your erection problem as this should help you work up a tolerance and this will help open up the possibility of asking her out one day.
2006-09-21 23:50:06 · answer #2 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a Man; however my advice is - Even if it may be somewhat embarrassing just talk to her, as she is either doing it to get your attention or just to have a snicker at your expense. Is she married, and I'd guess not given her behavior. either way if you don't talk to her and ask her to either please stop or start taking care of the problem, then stormy weather is ahead. By the way if/ and it should be when you talk to her try to pick an appropriate time e.g. break, after work outside the building, whatever, approach her and ask if you can talk to her for a minute and mention that it is personal, if yes then try not to beat around the bush to much and lay it on the table. I hope this helps and it may even work out for you two. At least long enough to take care of the problem; wink, wink.
2006-09-21 23:59:45 · answer #3 · answered by JAW 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a time when the two of you are able to talk briefly, preferably in a room where there's other people, though, like a cafeteria or something. It's obvious she's as interested in you as you are in her. Ask her if she'd like to grab a bite to eat after work, you know a great deli just down the street. From there, let things take their course. You might be able to find out whether she's interested in perhaps seeing you seriously, or if she's a terrible flirt (like me) who is perfectly willing to pursue "energetic enterprises" but doesn't want to hook up on any serious, permanent, emotional basis. She could be your dream come true, either way she happens to prefer ;)
2006-09-21 23:55:35 · answer #4 · answered by pair-a-docs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might try using something to obscure your appendage. Carry a manila folder or file of some sort to cover the area, excuse yourself and go to the nearest bathroom. Or, if she likes you too, get to know her and things will become diffused. Otherwise, she may continue this behaviour to amuse herself.
2006-09-21 23:53:52 · answer #5 · answered by bobbie e 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she smiles you wink. It's subtle yet says it all. You know what she's up to and she knows what's up with you(sorry could not resist). The flirting is fun. Enjoy it.
2006-09-21 23:59:43 · answer #6 · answered by newyorktilson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know if there's a polite way to tell her not to do that. it's your response to her, you know. you could say sometime (not in your workplace b/c this would be sexual harrassment and that would be bad):
you know, i think you know what you do to me. and if you do, i'm wondering if you would like to help me alleviate my problem sometime? (if she doesn't get it, tell her you think she's exciting and b/c she excites you at the most inappropriate times, you need to have a release for it)
2006-09-21 23:49:06 · answer #7 · answered by marisha z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if this is a serious question.......
start wearing a suit to work and keep the coat on when you are making a presentation.
2006-09-21 23:47:39 · answer #8 · answered by new yorkr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask her out already. She's interested or she wouldn't find stupid excuses to talk to you. If she wasn't interested she would be offended by your pup tent.
2006-09-21 23:49:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she knows "what's up" and kinda likes it and is playing with you. I think you should stay late someday when she does, take her to the bathroom and give it to her.
2006-09-21 23:50:56 · answer #10 · answered by darlanota 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋