He is 24 and I am 18. My parents think that he is too old for me. He said he's falling in love, and I might be as well. I have been living a lie because they don't even know that I still talk to him. He is amazing!
2006-09-21 16:18:13 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your parents won't lie to you. Listen to them. He is more than likely further advanced than you are emotionally and sexually. Once he gets those panties on the floor he won't love you anymore. If he can't get it he will leave. Hold out and see what happens. Don't get your feelings hurt and then be ashamed to go to your parents and tell them that they were right. Your parents are obviously more intuitive than you think! Give them credit and trust them. They are the ones who have raised you and know you.
2006-09-21 16:24:04 · answer #1 · answered by CAM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not too old for you. Perhaps he is more experienced, and a little wiser, but what's the difference in your parents age? My parents were 6 years apart, and they loved only each other the rest of their life.
Maybe it isn't his age that truly bothers them, but rather, his station in life, his goals and ambitions. Parents want the best for their children, but sometimes they go overboard, because they care more about your future, than they do your current happiness. They think they know what is best for you, and are trying to save you from yourself, but sometimes we just have to learn those lessons on our own.
On the other hand, parents can oftentimes see things that love can blind us to. Therefore, try to understand where they are coming from. What are their fears? What is it they do not trust about your abilities to see clearly? Ask these questions with an open mind, and judge what they tell you, not as someone in love, but as if from a third party point of view. Maybe in explaining their fears thoroughly to you, they will realize that their fears are unjustified. Or maybe you will see that they make sense, and will try to keep the relationship on a more "affair" level.
2006-09-21 23:36:30 · answer #2 · answered by eric l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are an adult and can do as you please. Thank your parents for their honesty and acknowledge the fact that if they are right about him there may be a day in the future where you will be saying you should have listened to them. Tell them that until that day arrives you know him well enough to judge him an amazing guy and that you will continue seeing your amazing guy with or without their blessing. Ask them what they have to lose by spending time with him and getting to know him besides being proven wrong.
2006-09-21 23:29:43 · answer #3 · answered by BLANK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you live at home, you should respect their wishes. But, If it is an age difference only issue, ask them why they think 6 years is too much. How many years difference are they ? He is able to attend certain functions you can't becasue of the 21 age laws. Also, when he was graduating high school, you were playing on the 6th grade playground. When he was taking his drivers test you were in the 4th grade. WOW.
2006-09-21 23:31:31 · answer #4 · answered by tigerfan0971 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was around 25 I dated a guy about that much older than me. I realized how different our lives were because of our age. You are so young and have so much to live for in high school. Hang out with your friends through school because you can date older guys for the rest of your life.
2006-09-21 23:24:24 · answer #5 · answered by tod 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well... your 18 for one and able to make your own decisions (according to the law) but i also imagine your living under your parents roof. I believe u should respect your parents , but i also believe u should be with the one u have feelings for , I think only u and u alone can weigh the consiquences of your actions , meaning if u decide to go with him how will your parents react ? but on the same hand u could miss an opportunity by leaving him ....
2006-09-21 23:25:27 · answer #6 · answered by aaron 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing for sure ... Your moms has been around a lot longer than yourself ! And if you'd tried listening to her & the things she has to say, then i am sure you would stand to gain an abundance of wisdom & beneficial advice ... as i am sure she (moms)speaks from her own life-experiences.
And, as far as "love" goes . "Love & infatuation" runs on a verrrrrrrrrrrrrry thin-line! That too I am sure moms could very well explain to you if only you could find it within yourself to be more open & straight-up with her . Afterall, she is your mom . And as to her being such , she wants only the very best for you ... and i am sure you already know that.
I would suggest that you go on and put that relationship on hold until you and mom has really had your woman to woman talk.
2006-09-21 23:50:56 · answer #7 · answered by anthony J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are your own woman now, and 6 years isn't a big difference, even if age WERE a difference.
I lost my 20 year old ex to a 31 year old Samba teacher. Her 23 year old sister is with a 56 year old man. If any difference is too much, it's the last one. Not yours nor my ex's!
2006-09-21 23:21:35 · answer #8 · answered by A Box of Signs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not that old, so trust ur parents, they must b aware of some flaw in this guy's character and they know you well so think it over. What would you do if you were in their place? Mayb they can't talk to u aout this flaw so they're giving u this lame excuse of difference in age. I feel u should drop him, not worth deceiving ur parents.
2006-09-21 23:30:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not amazing. You are stupid. Date a 17 year old guy not some ****** 6 years older than you.
2006-09-21 23:21:25 · answer #10 · answered by TT M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋