I got a problem with a girl (my crush). She doesn't know that i did the mistake. But i really feel guilty and would like to tell her the truth. When apologizing should i say i did the mistake first or say that i was sorry and stupid and then tell her the mistake that i'd did. she doesn't know i did it but i really want to tell her. i just hope she doesn't hate me....help....!!
2006-09-21 16:17:55 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
id say sorry first and then lead in to what you are sorry about....and then say sorry again.
2006-09-21 16:19:58 · answer #1 · answered by askaway 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should start off by saying to her that she means alot to you and that you felt so guilty that you had to tell her. The tell her what happened an d then flat out say what you did was wronge and the you apologize for doing something dumb. and again tell her she means alot to you and you were man enough to come tell her about it. To have a good freindship or realationship with somebody you need to learn how to talk to each other about stuff. Whether its a friend girlfriend or boyfriend you have to talk to each other about things..and not just smoochin stuff like problems and things around you that can be solved.
If this doesn't work for you maybe you should take a different approach
2006-09-23 13:26:58 · answer #2 · answered by MissyBubbles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever say you're stupid. And don't ever say you're sorry. Those are self-degrading. Tell her how much you care about her and that because of that you want to be honest with her about something. Tell her you apologize and then give it to her straight. Then listen to her feelings. Don't try to make it better too soon... just listen to her, and validate her feelings. Let her know she has a right to be mad but that you love her and care for her and hope she will forgive you.
2006-09-21 23:27:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should start out with ' you know im a stupid guy and i never would/ment to hurt you but i made a mistake that i really regreat. . . .(then tell her the miskake). . . in so sorry and i dident mean to hurt you truly. i just was not thinking.' then you could add some of ur own feeling into it but that should be the jist of it. good luck
2006-09-21 23:22:05 · answer #4 · answered by darkvamp4542 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, is she going to find out about the mistake if you don't tell her? Second, how would it benefit her for her to know about it? Third, if she will never know unless you tell her, and it won't benefit her to know, DON'T tell her. You'd just be hurting her to make yourself feel less guilty. Keep your little secret if it will stay a secret, and promise yourself it will never happen again. Then forget about it. Don't hurt her.
2006-09-21 23:21:39 · answer #5 · answered by Bad Kitty! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her cool off for a while... Do not go into details...... see what she knows first ......this is coming from a males point of view ....so you made a mistake..... time and space will cure anything ....Be quiet she pro bally does not know half of what you think she knows ....unless you tell her ....if you think she knows........ tell her the most ridicules and bazaar story you can come up with........... She may pressure you for details but remember once you say it you cannot take it back .....then so stick with the story and tell her no more........regardless what she thinks just stick to your story.....Women are more emotional than they smart....so do not crack and it will blow over......
2006-09-21 23:45:27 · answer #6 · answered by bullsweat007@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start with the apology, but don't beat around the bush. Tell her straight and fast.
2006-09-21 23:19:39 · answer #7 · answered by Katherine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say "I'm Sorry" first. If you say it last, some people find it sarcastic by nature, in English.
2006-09-21 23:20:01 · answer #8 · answered by A Box of Signs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start out with "I'm sorry THAT, (not I'm sorry BUT)", what I have to tell you may be hurtful, but I don't feel it would be fair to you to hold back on this situation----------------- etc. etc. etc.
Good luck, I hope she sees and understands your good intentions.
2006-09-21 23:27:42 · answer #9 · answered by conetoe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess you should tell her what you did first before apologizing.just make sure you have something in store for her that would kinda make her forget about what you did.like probably buying her lots of chocolates and flowers..
2006-09-21 23:23:35 · answer #10 · answered by chix 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a selfish ba2tard who just wants to relieve his guilt.
Keep your trap shut and your fly zipped.
2006-09-21 23:20:55 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋