WHY is it that women always want to change men? & Men don't want a girl to change a thing?

Question

Just dosn't make sense are we girls too picky ?

Answer 1

This is such a good question! A girl meets a guy, thinks he's great or at least OK, and wants him to change. But why would the guy want to change? Why don't girls get attracted to the kind of guys they actually want? It doesn't make any sense. I am a guy, we are sometimes what seems like gross but mainly we just like to be comfortable, its not a bad thing, its just the way we are. I am willing to do my share of cleaning, and to be reasonably neat, but opera? Ballet? Please don't ask me to do that, I'd much rather watch a football game. Anyway, nice question, your understanding is appreciated.

Answer 2

Women always want to change men because women are civilized--meaning they've already had to change to accommodate others--and men are not. Men think they're fine just the way they are, even if their behavior is not acceptable in close quarters or an intimate relationship.

So, since women are more acculturated to change when it's necessary and men are more resistant to it, it seems as if the woman is trying to change the man. Usually, she's just asking him to adhere to a level of behavior that's tolerable on a daily basis.

Answer 3

I think this is the case because our (women) intentions are to make that man a possible life partner and we as women try to shape and mold them into what we once had. (old boyfriends) We may have liked several things about an old lover and think "oh, Pete will look really nice if he wore this", or a cologne you smelled, you may want him to wear, because YOU like it. I don't think it matters much to men for 2 reasons, either they are content with the real you or you are that other woman they never had so why try to change you. See what I mean a little? in other words, men like variety, and us women are just that.

Answer 4

TT_M hit the bull's eye on this question.

Pandora not only brought that box of the world's troubles, but she opened it AGAIN and let out "hope."

But the original Greek word translates better as "expectation." Women want to change men because, once they get to know a man, their EXPECTATIONS shift and shift again and again. So there is always a change needed in the man who is the center of her "hopes."

Whereas men have very solid and unchanging expectations about themselves. So it's an automatic source of conflict.

Answer 5

Men want women to change as bad as we want them to, they just dont want to talk about every little thing. For instance, when we act loud or annoying, they rather not confront us for it leads to an argument but on the other hand women tend to pick at every little thing that bothers us. The thing that seperates men from women is that men like to keep things to themselves to avoid drama and when they just about had enough they blow up, break up with the girl and leaves her wondering what she has done wrong. So therefore, women as the strong individual we must learn to acknowledge this and get on with our life in this f*cked up world.

Answer 6

YOU are obviously very young or else you have VERY few male friends....are you kidding?
men try to change women ALL the time, the only diffrence is that men are more like spoiled childern and don't wait as long for the changes they want and dump the girl because they get MAD because she isn't changing.

Answer 7

ARE you too picky, or not picky enough?

Why don't you (collective) go for men who are like what you SAY you want in the first place, instead of going for the exact opposite and hoping they will change?

Answer 8

Of course men want to change women.

The mistake in a lot of relationships on both parts of MEN and WOMEN is that someone is hoping the other partner will change. You CANNOT expect someone to change, unless they are willing to change on their own.

If Johnny picks his toes when you first met him and you hate it 10 months later...he is not going to change!

If Susan constantly spends all her time chatting on the phone late at night and you hate it 10 months later...she's not going to change!

Answer 9

You are correct in saying men do not want the woman that they chose to change. Women want men to change so they can have a eunich at home, someone with no balls, no backbone. Boys the day you are required to stop being whom this chick met dump her.

Answer 10

Women are usually good at seeing a "diamond in the rough" and will date a man that might not be their ideal, with the intention of hopefully fixing him up a bit...Men only see what's in front of them so they don't usually pick someone that would not suit them from the start.