they both have kids from previous and now one with each other and still having promblem help mother worried
2006-09-21 15:29:23 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
There is really nothing you can do about it except to support you child in whatever decision he/she makes. And never say anything bad about the spouse.
2006-09-21 15:31:30 · answer #1 · answered by WendyD1999 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As parents of grown children, all we can really do is give advice when asked, and pray that their lives don't fall down around their ears. Should their lives fall apart, all we can do is help them put the pieces back together as closely to normal as they can manage.
Personally, I think this is the hardest part about being a parent. I would much rather sit up nights on end with a sick baby, or worrying about my teen aged son getting home safe and sound than have to sit back and bite my tongue when I know my eldest is making a huge mistake. But that is what we must do.
If we have done our jobs correctly as parents, we have given them the life skills to make the big decisions with maturity and an idea of what might happen. We have effectively cut the apron strings and now stand in the wings waiting for them to ask for our advice and guidance.
I wish you peace and luck in this, and I know of no other way to say it, but hold on tight and pray like you have never prayed before. They, in the end, will make the decision that is right for them.
2006-09-21 23:31:46 · answer #2 · answered by Plain_Common_Sense 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting married will not solve their problems. There are always additional problems when people have children from previous relationships. Your right, they probably should not get married, but there is little that you can do to stop them. You can give advice, but remember that it should be given only if it is solicited. Be there to support your child now, and when or if the relationships fails. Even if the relationship does not go any further, remember that they do share a child together. Good Luck.
2006-09-21 22:41:50 · answer #3 · answered by mischa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mother's will always worry,you need to try and let them do what they are going to do anyway.The children need (their's) a stable home.But you know that.So see if you cant get the grown kids some help at a church or get a older person to guide them,talk to them.Be there when they ask for your help of course,but stay out of the way as much as possible,and there is always prayer.But dont take on their problems mom.
2006-09-21 23:17:05 · answer #4 · answered by Joan C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Hold old are they?
2) How long have they been dating.
All in all, it's not your marriage. You can give advice, but you have to let them make their own mistakes. It's REALLY hard to watch, but be honest with yourself and them.
Offer them a great marriage counselor. Offer them dinner once a week to see your grandchildren. Offer to babysit.
But they are going to do what they want to do whether you like it or not. Embrace it and see them at a large wedding in front of friends and family, or prepare for an elope!
2006-09-21 22:54:58 · answer #5 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats the same deal with me and my fiance, only we don't have problems. So you should just let them do what they want.
2006-09-21 23:46:43 · answer #6 · answered by Mischelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to love them thru there problems. Give them your advise but love them no matter what choices they make.
good luck
2006-09-21 22:35:37 · answer #7 · answered by xxgq 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
www.stepfamily.asn.au is a great place to turn for this
2006-09-21 22:37:17 · answer #8 · answered by Kikka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't stop them. Sorry.
2006-09-21 22:32:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋