My ex and I broke uo like 2 months ago ( so I thought) yesterday he called me and said I know we have been thru hard times and we have been dating for like 8 months and I haven't talked to you since school started but the reson why I am calling is will u go to homecoming with me hes like the reason why I haven't called is u is cuz I have had family trouble. Before he told me I was fat and needed to lose weight and Instead of me wearing me loose @$$ jeans I need to wear tight @$$ jeans and I told him if u dont like me for me than u can just go off and find somebody else cuz I am sick of ur $hIt and I really don't care well that just ticked him off. Well needless to say he was a jerk and I broke up with him and he apparently doesn't know that that is what happened. Well now I am going out with really great guy hes 19 and I have no feeling what soever for my ex so what am I supposed to do I don't want to break his heart but thaen he hurt me so why shouldn't I hurt him but the thing is I
2006-09-21 15:22:01 · 12 answers · asked by Joanie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
don't know what to do and what to say so if u could plz help it would be greatly appreciated. thanx guys
2006-09-21 15:23:09 · update #1
I know that "family problems" is noe excuse not to call me and stuff. But I am really scared and I seriously don't know what to say like I need details
2006-09-21 15:30:22 · update #2
ok I am deff not wanting to get back with him but i need like stuff to say to let him know that I dont want to go out with him again I dont like him I have no feelings fr him I just need to tell him something to let him know we are DONE.
2006-09-21 15:35:21 · update #3
It's as simple as telling him that you have moved on, and unfortunately, the past is behind you. Maybe he'll learn not to treat a good woman that way, or to judge on criteria like that!
2006-09-21 15:26:12 · answer #1 · answered by catintrepid 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Umm, if I were you I wouldn't worry about breaking his heart. After what he said, you are legally obligated to break his heart and be as bitchy as you want. I'm sure you're looking for a logical answer in the midst of your confusion, and the logical answer is obvious and that you shouldn't go to homecoming with your ex and that no matter what you should not excuse what he did to you. Every girl deserves respect. If you already have a boyfriend who's a really great guy, you truly have no logical reason to get back with your ex. My advice is to tell him "Well that's what you get for calling me fat" or something along those lines. You deserve better and you have better.
2006-09-21 22:28:25 · answer #2 · answered by Jenny 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not go with him to homecoming. It sounds to me like he is using you for a date. If he felt that way about your weight back when you were dating him, he won't change on that. Some men are like that, caring only about looks instead of loving someone for what is in their heart. You already said you have a nice boyfriend now and you will risk losing the boyfriend if you go on a date with your old boyfriend. I would turn him down flat and never look back. Some guys know just what to say to get a girl back, then are finished with you after getting what they want. Enjoy your present relationship and don't look back. You made the right decision to begin with. Believe in yourself and stick with it!
2006-09-21 22:28:49 · answer #3 · answered by son-shine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it seems that you were not having a healthy relationship so it's good that you broke up with him. But if you plan to break his heart so you can hurt him. I say no because two wrongs don't make a right. Just tell him the truth and find a good way to let him know.
2006-09-21 22:28:20 · answer #4 · answered by Luke 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you have moved on and hope he is able to do the same. Tell him, if you have not already, the things he did that were so disrespectful and you hope he can learn from that and take it into his next relationship. If he refuses to listen then explain that the relationship was not what you wanted and that recycling may be good for the environment but not for the heart.
2006-09-21 22:35:24 · answer #5 · answered by brenda c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go girl. you have already moved on, so keep moving and don't look back to your ex. men that tell you to loose wieght are not the right one for you. Are you happy? and to blame breaking up with you because of family problem's or not calling you? that is a sorry a** excuse.
2006-09-21 22:28:04 · answer #6 · answered by Jennie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the only reason he is calling you is so he can have someone to go to homecoming with. You should just tell him that you and him are broke up and you have someone else in your life now.
2006-09-21 22:26:19 · answer #7 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him no that you already have a date how is he going to wait 2 months to call you
2006-09-21 22:24:48 · answer #8 · answered by tpchick22 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
look hon you need to grow up and get real! if he is the jerk you say he is then walk away, cut all ties. you have someone new, how do you think he would feel to know you are entertaining ideas about your ex, what if he did it to you? anyhow all the best
2006-09-21 22:30:01 · answer #9 · answered by diva anne 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he called you fat, then it should be over. if he doesnt like you for who you are, then hes just a jerk who wants attention. jsut get over him. that is the last thing on earth you want someone to call you...fat!!!!!
2006-09-21 22:37:02 · answer #10 · answered by nomee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋