both have young children. We broke up because of the distance supposedly. I later found out that he was trying to date online. He said that he was feeling hopeless about our relationship and didn't know what to do and he started dating someone half his age. Now he says that he loves me but he is confused and doesn't know if I move to where he is if he really wants to be married because he loves slim built women (half his age) and I am not slim and I am not fat. Is he playing games with me?
2006-09-21 15:21:38 · 15 answers · asked by l a 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think he's playing games. He doesn't know what he wants...or maybe he does and just can't get it. He wants security (you), but he wants the young, skinny, littly hotty who turns heads...a trophy? I think you should walk away. He didn't have a problem walking away when he thought he had a trophy; now he doesn't have her and he wants you back? Leave him empty-handed. Be good to yourself and your babies. They need you more than you need him! By the way, be comfortable w/ your own build and weight...regardless of the media and models, most men like a woman w/ some meat on her bones!!! You should get a man who can't wait to grab hold of your love handles and get a hand full of your butt when you're making love (or any other time for that matter)!!!
2006-09-21 15:28:52 · answer #1 · answered by breaker_1020 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he told you he loves slim built women, THAT WAS THE FIRST SIGN!! Drop that jerk. Why be with someone who can't except you for what you are or who you are you don't need him, If you already know this about him safe yourself heartache, you don't want to get with guy and then he start cheating on you. He just wants to keep you in his side pocket and pull you out when he wants you that is not fair to you, you need someone that is willing to give you his all, as you are he. I have mingled with a few wild ones in my days and it just sounds to me as though he is not ready to settle and don't you settle for crap just because you think you want him or can't do better. good luck with this. ; )
2006-09-21 22:50:51 · answer #2 · answered by LaLa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The situation that you presented appears this person is not ready to settle down. There are other issues in his life and if he is not serious with you, then perhaps you may want to consider moving to the next level.
2006-09-21 22:36:51 · answer #3 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the high road, sweetie and walk away. He is not into you and has been cheating on you. Long distance relationships don't work. Take care of yourself and loose some weight and look in your own neighborhood.
2006-09-21 22:25:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You deserve someone better than his sorry self. 100 miles is not far away. That's less than 2 hours. I know people who commute that far to work. This guy was leading you on! Ditch him!
2006-09-21 22:27:48 · answer #5 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes it looks like he is playing games with you. go along with it if you want but keep in mind that he is playing games. start to worry if he is not as then he is a strange person
2006-09-21 22:29:41 · answer #6 · answered by tom21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he is. You're the one he gets with when he's not hookin up with on line babes...he knows you're a sure thing because of your history...you should move on.
2006-09-21 22:26:43 · answer #7 · answered by drkdreamr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that he really dosen't know what he wants, but you need to ask yourself that question do you know what you want for yourself and your children ?
maybe hes not the right one for you and your family.Think about it .
2006-09-21 22:27:11 · answer #8 · answered by littlekitteneyes35 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go and move on to find someone who's right for you. Sounds to me like his criteria aren't the best -- it's not you.
2006-09-21 22:24:21 · answer #9 · answered by catintrepid 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dont waste your time especially with kids involved..disaster waiting to happen. If he's 'confused' he isnt ready for marriage...its an enormous commitment....NO..move on...let him be confused by himself!
2006-09-21 22:26:15 · answer #10 · answered by Lynne B 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋