Should I confront them?

Question

Well, my parents always leave home early and come home late.
They always leave me to watch my two little brothers and sisters. I take them to school feed them, help them with homework, and take their bathes. It seems like the only things my parents do is make the money. Should I confront them?

Answer 1

Yes you should. You're their child, not their babysitter. And remember, confronting them will save your own childhood. My mom was the oldest of 7 brothers and sisters and missed out on her childhood because she had to take care of her sisters and brothers and totally missed out on being a kid. And in my opion, it totally ruined her life. So confront them, it's the best thing for you.

Answer 2

This is what i would do when both of your parents are there ask them to sit down with you and tell them you want to talk to them. You must realize your parents must work to support you and your siblings. I have three sons and yes i do expect my middle son to look after my younger son but i also give him a break too and i dont expect him to do it all the time. Its not good when parents assume an older sibling must take all the responsibility. Depending on how old you are explain to your parents that you dont like having to babysit all the time. Its not your responsibility to do it all the time anyway you have the right to be yourself too. It seems like they are putting too much on you at an early age. So just tell them how you feel and ask them to find someone to help out.

Answer 3

Considering the money that they earn supports you, clothes and feeds you, I would be very careful how I phrase your argument. Do you need to be anywhere else while you are at home caring for them? If I were you I would approach them in terms of compromise. Are you old enough to drive, or will you soon be? They may expect you to do driving and may get you a car for it (with rewards come responsibility). I would let them know that you are available when needed to watch the kids but that when you have something you need/want to do, you expect them to be understanding. Remind them that your younger sibs will not have the responsibility that you did so that they might could consider more liberal curfews, or other rewards.

Answer 4

I don't see why you shouldn't. I grew up with just my mom and my younger brother, and the only reason why I never confronted her about me watching him all the time was bc she was a single parent trying to make ends meet. You have 2 parents in your particular equation, at the very least you should receive some sort of compensation. I'd give it a shot and talk to them, and if they don't like what you have to say, they can hire a babysitter.

Answer 5

Confronting is a bad idea. How about just talking to them. Tell them that you feel that you don't have enough time for yourself and that you would like a little more free time. Let them know that you appreciate their efforts to provide you with everything that they think you may need, but that you would like to spend time with them too.

Answer 6

Depends if it is causing you extreme hardship. What you have to understand though is that your parents are trying to give you a good life, a roof over your head, and food on your table.
If they are paying for everything and have to work hard in order for you to have your life that you have, then respect is needed to go out towards them.
Where would you be if your parents had no income that they do?

Answer 7

Times are hard right now, that's the only reason they both work a lot. Believe me, work sucks! That's why they have to pay you to do it!
Teach your little troups what they need to know to help you out a little, and hang tough!

Answer 8

I would tell them THEY need to start being the parents, and give you a break. You need to have time to hang out with friends, and just get away from being "mom" once in awhile!

Answer 9

You need to talk with them no need in growing up to be bitter, just ask if you can be paid for what you do, my goodness sounds like you are the parent.

Answer 10

I don't think that it's fair that you have to do all of the work. It would be fair if you were only expected to help out, not completly run the house. I think you should tell them that you are willing to help out but now you are left to do to much.