Okay so this is kind of complicated and I was really hoping that you guys could help me! There is this boy at school that I have had a crush on for the longest time! He is really cute, smart, funny, and extremely nice! About two years ago (6th grade) we started to become really good friends we would hang out all the time at lunch and e-mail all the time. I had liked him for a while before that but nobody new or so I thought. Last year (7th grade) a girl that I go to school with told him that I liked him I was really upset but what really stunned me is how she found out! After that I talked to my mom and she told me to play it low key aka if he talked to me talk back but don’t just go up and talk to him all the time like I did before because it might scare him away. So I did just that and he just stopped talking to me completely!!! I felt so rejected L (that was more toward the beginning of the year than towards the end) so the whole year it was really awkward between us and at the end of the year there was a big school dance and we rented out this really nice restaurant and there was dinner and of course dancing. Now normally I would have asked him to dance just because he is a friend but I got really nervous and chickened out!!! on the way home when I was talking to my dad about it he gave me this huge lecture on how if I really want something to happen I have to go after it and not just wait for it to come to me because it most likely won’t. I know he is right but I just don’t know how to approach him. So anyway over the summer he started e-mailing me again, I was so-so happy we would talk for about an hour every day. So I figured that when school started we would be friends again but I was so wrong he won’t talk to me at school! The most I can get out of him is a hi. I really wish that we could be friends (since neither if us can grp. Date until we are 16 and single date until we are 18) and hang out again but I have now idea how to make that happen without scaring him off again. He is a very very shy guy and I am really shy too. So I think that that might be a big factor! Thank you so-so much for reading this I know it was really long but you have no idea how much I appreciate your help!!!!
2006-09-21 14:38:52 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sometimes the direct approach is best, just ask. But if that seems too bold for your liking, look for the following signs. Pay attention to your conversations with the person in question.
1) Does this person show a special interest in having a conversation with you and, once started, make an effort to keep that conversation going?
2) Has this person taken a sudden interest in your life and hobbies? This is a sure sign that he or she is interested in something.
3) Other elements of body language include frequent eye contact, holding your gaze and looking down before looking away.
4) Does the person you're wondering about just plain smile at you a lot?
Just remember, take each moment like it will be the last. This I feel will be a good start for you in knowing. Good Luck!!!!!!!
2006-09-22 10:22:31 · answer #1 · answered by Wolfie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like this guy still wants to be friends, but he's embarrassed to talk to you at school because of what happened before. He believes that if he hangs out with you, people will think that he likes you, which is really stupid, but its the way 8th grade guys think. He might like you or he might not like you. Just ask him in an e-mail why he doesn't talk to you in school. It doesn't sound like he wouldn't communicate that to you.
2006-09-21 21:46:51 · answer #2 · answered by Garrett F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he likes you but he probly thinks he scared you off
let him know in an email that you like him...and as more than just friends
2006-09-21 21:50:56 · answer #3 · answered by frisky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JUST GO FOR IT... QUIT BEING SHY...
THATS WHAT MY WIFE DID TO ME.. IT WORKED
2006-09-21 21:45:36 · answer #4 · answered by Kevin D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋