what should I do I feel like such a loser!!! Help!!!?

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I feel like such a loser!!! Help!!!?
Ok I am 17 and still havent had my first kiss or a boyfriend. and from the looks of it thats not happening unless I just kiss any ramdom guy that I dont feel for. But I dont want to do that I want it to be real. What should I do?

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It may seem like I am very desprete but Iam really calm but people think I am too calm and everyone is waiting for me to have a boyfriend. I try to worry about my education but I feel this emptiness. And my sister make fun of me and call me an uncooked ham.

All my friends had their first kiss when they were 14 and younger thats what makes me feel even worse. And everytime I have the opportunity I say no becuz I just aint feelin the person.

Answer 1

First off, you are not a loser. You're right not to jump into anything when you don't feel for the guy. Your friends may have had their first kiss, and they may have boyfriends, or whatever; but you not having those things doesn't mean you're a loser, or anything else. All it means is that you haven't found a guy that you want to be with romantically yet.

Just keep waiting for that guy that you really feel for, that's all you really should do. I understand that people may make fun of you, or tell you that you NEED a boyfriend; but teasing words, are still just words, and you don't NEED a boyfriend untill you find a guy that you really want to be in a relationship with.

Don't stop being the way you are, calm is fine, there isn't such a thing as "too calm". When your friends/sister tell you that you're too calm, or tease you, or pester you about getting a boyfriend...ignore it. That's just the way people that are coupled up deal with singles...it's like "Hey, join us...join us join us join us" and I know, it does get annoying and can hurt.

Tell next time,
Raven

Answer 2

Let your ships come in a calm sea. Dont be rushing because if you do you will end up kissing any random looser (you answered your own question) and you need to keep up with completing your education. Dont listen to your friends calling you an "uncooked ham" just remember that when you have completed your education and found a good job and are getting paid more than your friends (because you did not waste time with boys ) they are the ones who are going to be "uncooked hams" since they are the ones who will end up having children sooner than you, and not completing their education. Believe me in the end you will be better off than they are. Kissing a boy is not that important getting your life in order is. And by the way yes, it will happen when you least expect it and with the right guy.

Answer 3

It seems like you're stressing out over something that's going to happen very naturally on its own. Don't worry about it so bad right now and who cares about what everyone else is doing. Screw your sister! I used to get made fun of all the time cause I was the last of my family to lose my virginity. I felt much better about myself than all of them, I'm sure. Go w/ the flow and wait for it to happen. Trust me, it will. You've never seen a 40 year old woman who's never layed one on a man before!

Answer 4

they're just jealous
because
they're not special anymore

and, they're envious
of your status

you're not mature
enough
to be out kissing guys
'cause you cant' even speak up for
your own decisions

tell 'em all
that you're looking
for a 17-yr. old guy
who hasn't been kissed
so you can be each other's first

then,
when the time comes
you and the guy
can talk to each other
about
whether or not
you want to
give away that special moment
to each other
just to "get it over with"

or,
do you want to
wait and share it
with someone
who's going to remember your name
and is someone you're
going to be happy to
tell your daughters about

Answer 5

you're not a loser.
I think you should stick to your resolve not to give in to peer pressure.
I don't think you're uncooked ham - you're a lovely piece of meat waiting for the right person to appreciate. You don't just want to a slob of meat in a cheap burger, ya? K, i dun really like this ham analogy...
Anyway, you're in a good place.
Don't rush to give you first kiss away - you will naturally share it with someone who hasn't appeared yet, but is on the way....
So what if all your frens kissed at 14? Are they in fulfilling, long-term relationships? I bet they've gotten their heart broken too.....
Again, stick to your guns.... you won't regret it.

Answer 6

There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. I was exactly the same. In fact, 17 was the year I finally had a real girlfriend. Hang in there. It will work out.

BTW, you don't have to wait around for a boy to ask. If there's someone you find appealing even if it's just for friendship, ask them out to the football game or something.

Answer 7

I had my first kiss at 21, but that is because I am a loser

Answer 8

Get through college and after your done start dating. Education comes first. When the right guy comes along you'll know it. It's nothin to be ashamed of.

Answer 9

Hi I am 17 m and I have never had a girlfriend or had a kiss either. If you want to chat im me I am online!!

Answer 10

Make the moments in your life count as something special. You be you and do things your way on your time.