does anyone have a mother who hated them and treated them badly as a child,and how has it affected your life?

Answer 1

No, but I've known 2 women who have had this, and they wre definitely screwed up.

Get counseling....join a church, read the bible miss.

Answer 2

My mother was never there for us kids. I pretty much raised my two little brothers. The way it has effected me is that i learned a long time ago not to depend on anyone. My mom was on drugs and booze and never noticed us kids. I mean I would have done alot of stuff different if she would have been around like not living with my 26 year old bf at 14. But big thing you can't change the past and you can't predict the future. Hopefully your mom isn't so bad. But just live your life for you and i promise you'll go far. Bc I'm have a great job a great man in my life a house a car and loving friends And I did it on my own and it feels great. Good luck hon

Answer 3

Most mothers who appear to "hate" their children don't hate their children at all but hate themselves and don't know how to show love. If you have a mother who is truly mean to you, abusive, then you deserve to get help. Talk to a school counselor or your father or someone who can get you some help. If you are being physically abused then you can call the police or the department of children's services. You deserve help. You don't have to go through this alone even though it is the loneliest feeling in the world.

My mother didn't hate me growing up but she had so many problems of her own that I thought she did and it affected many things in my adult life until I got some therapy. After years of working on myself I came to realize that it wasn't my fault how she treated me; it wasn't because I wasn't lovable but because she was so unhappy that she took it out on me. Don't wait to get help until you are an adult. There is help out there for you and if the first adult that you talk to doesn't do anything helpful for you, or doesn't understand then don't give up. Keep trying to get help until you find some. And remember, this is not your fault. Don't believe for a minute that there's something wrong with you because your mom doesn't treat you well. She probably was treated badly when she was a child and never got any help and so she doesn't know how to treat you. But it's NOT YOUR FAULT. I hope you get the help you need. You deserve it.

Answer 4

My mother loved me but she didn't like me. I knew this before I turned 8. I wasn't allowed to have long hair because she didn't like touching me, for example. She preferred boys, still does. I've been called all the names under the sun - demon possessed, mad, insane, etc. I used to be my father's favourite - not that that was anything to write home about - and my mother resented this. She tried to force me to leave school when I was 15 to go to work so that she could get my pay ("you're just a girl and don't need an education"), wouldn't allow me to learn how to cook or drive ("no one taught me, why should you be any different") even though she gave driving lessons to the neighbour's son. Last year I went to visit her and hired a house for us all to live in. She insisted on spending the 10 days with my brother in the next town - I hadn't seen her for five years. I tried to kill myself when I was 11. And repeatedly dreamt of killing myself throughout my teenage years. She made my life an absolute misery.
Which she denies or excuses by saying she suffered from PMT. Which if it is true, meant my life was hell on earth every month of my childhood. Not my brothers though. They say they had a good childhood.
Anyway, it affected me very badly. I have no real self-confidence and expect failure. I tried counselling but found I was reliving it and couldn't cope with that either.
I know my mother does love me and we're much better now we're apart. I also know she doesn't know what she's done wrong - she's convinced that I had a wonderful childhood. If it was PMT then I suppose it was all hormonal and she couldn't help it. Her bizarre attitude towards women -she openly says she doesn't like women - her jealousies, her religious fanatacism have all contributed.
I think it is healthier just to hate your mother but when you're trapped like me, in a love/hate relationship, you're stuck.
I now acknowledge that I am angry and that has been liberating. My mother knows how I feel, but she doesn't understand. Still, the fact that she knows helps me.
And yes, I think people should treat their children with more respect.

Answer 5

I was beat as a kid... Was left alone every night by myself while she went out doing whatever she did... I sometimes wouldnt eat for days and developed an eating disorder because of it... im 24 now and im leaving for the army in a couple of weeks... She still till this day doesnt feed me or do any motherly things... ive learned though from when i was young to fend for myself. I was messed up in the head bad though and did stupid things like drove head on into a white wall doing 45 mph to kill myself... i once took 70 tranqualizers... the next time it was 120... I self mutalated since i was 10 and now have the worste most embarressing scars all over my body! I was in 10 mental hospitals... and took over 30 diffrent depressent pills... my life past a year ago was something i could never imagine on anyone.. but now i am happy to be alive and i smile now... Im off all meds and see no docs... i just woke up 1 day and was like i need to get over this crap... i still do get sad but i think its a normal sad :) damn i hope that wasnt really depressing... Happy Ending!

Answer 6

i was treated very bad by my mother as a child and it affected me very bad, but only when i had my children.
when your young i feel you don't really have the understanding of what's going on,but when you have your own kids and show them love, you feel why didn't i receive that kinda love from my mother?
On the flip side you also find it hard to show love to others but always looking to find someone to love you, but you end up searching for love in all the wrong places. eg. falling for bad or violent men or being promiscuous

Answer 7

My mother has hated me all of my life. She hadn't wanted a second child after my brother was born and from very early on I remember being told so by her. She would physically and verbally abuse me, and I was palmed off to various relatives at every opportunity so she could go out socialising. Since leaving school, and for her the end of child benefit, she forced me to move out. I'm forty now, so I haven't lived with her for 24 years. In the main I try to ignore her, but a few years ago, when my own daughter came along, I tried to reconcile with her. Needless to say she rejected me - although she did say she would like to see my daughter (I told her to get stuffed!!). Because of her hate she missed my brothers wedding, and the christenings of his two kids, my wedding and the christening of our daughter, but worst of all last year she fell out with her elderly mother who subsequently died a few months after the fall out - you'd think death of her mother would have bridged the gap - think again - she didn't even go to her own mothers funeral.

Answer 8

Counseling is the way to go here. You can learn a lot about yourself, and keep the past from negatively affecting you now & in the future. You have to learn that the problem was with her (not you), if she didn't love you. It isn't normal for a mother to not like her child....

Answer 9

Yeah, my siblings and i suffered badly at her hands.
it has had a devastating effect on all of us. I look at the lads and i see stunted human beings who are unable to have real relationships and are in great pain.
I am the fortunate one, i have been healed of a lot of the bad things that happened to me and now i am reasonably happy.
Have hope, things can change.
It started to change for me after i read a book called "the new testament"
GOOD LUCK

Answer 10

My mom was very cruel to me and my sister after her and my father split up. She began drinking and hitting us and took her anger out on us always. We felt like no one in the world loved us and she didn't want us talking to our dad so we really had no role model. Years on, we have moved out from home, we get on with her great now, she knows that she was bad to us in the past and now wants to make up for it. it has affected us a little, but we see the effort she is making and so chose to forget about it and make the most of the future.

Answer 11

I don't know if she hated me....but my parents are divorced and my mother to this day doesn't really talk to me. I'll bet its been 15 years since I've talked to her or seen her its been at least 20. I just don't honestly care to have a relationship....but its affected my life greatly becuase I have 3 younger siblings and don't see them and I'd love to get to know them but I don't think she wants me to.....