Why do I hate talking on telephones?

Question

I absolutely hate talking on the phone. I avoid it like the plague. Really, I do. Any ideas why this is?

Answer 1

It's a proximity or personal space issue.

I get this way too, because well, what happens when you talk on a telephone? You have this *thing* right in your face, right on top of you, and this *voice* right in your ear.

It is a case of someone's voice coming at you from *way the hell too close*, I mean, when you chat with someone in real life, do you both conduct the whole conversation by *whispering in each other's ears*? *rofl* :)) And a lot of folks don't help matters by talking on the phone *way too loudly* like it's still 1899 or something. O_O

So congratulations....consider yourself *normal*, one of the select few who looks at all these people on the bus or in the cashier's line at the grocery store yammering away on their cell phones and just *shakes his head*. ;)

Seriously. This isn't a serious issue. You're not the one with the problem, everyone *else*, all the other people who are too attached to their phones, *they're* the problem.

Answer 2

By Lee Noh-kyung

"The telephone is actually the greatest instrument of aggression since the long-bow. It is a baseball though the window, a tank crashing into the living room. We permit violations of privacy by telephone that we would never dream of permitting by other means. It is considered impolite not to respond obsequiously to the immediate demands of the phone. When the phone rings, we have to pick it up as soon as possible, leaving aside whatever we are doing for a moment. If we left it ringing more than three times, we would be vulneable to complaint and reproach. Even when taking a bath, we have to clumsily wrap our wet bodies and drip water over the floor just to answer the phone. Even if a pot of stew is boiling over on the stove, we cannot ignore the phone. The telephone's ringing always sounds urgent, giving us alarm.

These days, we are likely to be connected by the telephone's invisible lines and live in a big telephone booth. We are like telephone addicts. We carry wireless phones on our sides like ancient warriors carried swords, as if we could not be satisfied with the interruption in the house. Since the telephone become a necessity of life, talking off the label of luxury, we have been immune to these obvious violations of privacy by the phone. Rather, we seem to enjoy its rudeness. We, humans, are not too strong to endure the fear when the calls from outside have ceased and we've been left alone. The telephone is a sign that someone looks for us, needs us, wants to talk with us. It reminds us that we are not forgotten and still have social importance.

Even though the telephone often breaks the equanimity of midnight. I also don't have the courage to throw this machine into the darkness beyond the window and to confront the immediate inconvenience of its absence. Bothered by incessant ringings, I still dare not cut the phone lines or live without it, afraid of being called and eccentric. If the telephone rang at this moment, I would runout to respond to the phone which sounds like it is demanding my urgent attention. I would cast aside this pen and paper, even though I thought of some punch lines, excellent but easy to disappear. "

Answer 3

I dislike this as well. The only two jobs I have ever been fired from were both telemarketing, and I was about to quit anyways. For me, I feel I'm at a tremendous disadvantage in a conversation when I can't see the person I'm speaking to. We all have visual cues we exhibit when we are listening or day dreaming or speaking passively or aggressively. I am a much better speaker when I can see these visual cues on the listener's face. On a phone, people can sound interested or flattered or whatever, but may in actuality be rolling their eyes in boredom. You can't really tell accurately.

Answer 4

I do too. It's because it's BORING. I hate to even pick up the phone when it rings. If it's a friend (even a friend I really really like), I just know that we're going to be on it for 30 minutes at least, and that's 30 minutes I'll never get back.

Answer 5

Maybe you have a anxiety feeling of talking to people and communicating.Sometime's it could be you having a conscience feeling someone you know is ringing,but you dont wanna answer the phone,because this person has personalitie's that may offend you.Or your self esteem is raking over you causing you to ignore phone call's.Do you ever talk weird sometime's like if someone's talking right?Your voice is perfectly normal till you start to stutter and stuff?well maybe not you could just be bored who knows.Only you know the answer to that :D

Answer 6

Yes, because I usually have something better I can do. If the phone rings more than once in an hour I start becoming very, very irritable. More than twice and I'm willing to throw the dang thing through a window.

Answer 7

Me too! I used to drive my family nuts, because I would sit next the phone while it rang and wouldn't pick up...I have a great capacity to ignore phones.

I especially dislike cell phones, which fry people's heads a bit.

There is a rare ear tumour which is something like 25 times more common in people who use cell phones constantly.

Answer 8

I do too! It causes me intense anxiety. I am so scared of ackward silences on the phone. As soon as I get on the phone, I start thinking of how I'm going to tell the other person that I have to go. I think it causes me so much anxiety because it's just voice to voice....no gestures or anything else there to distract them from me. Also, I can't see their expressions and I wonder what they are thinking of what I"m saying.

Answer 9

i dont like it either..i prefer email or person to person.....it might b bcuz u find it harder to talk to ppl on the fone or u just dont like 2 talk on the phone....i dont bcuz i always have 2 do things or id prefer to do other things....sry if i didnt help u but this is all i can come up w/ for y u dont like the phone

Answer 10

May be it is because you prefer to communicate personally, see who you are actually talking to