When a mother and father let their ex-daughter in law live with them, and not help their son, when their son has done nothing wrong - and do it all in the name of god???
2006-09-21 13:54:15 · 17 answers · asked by Vita 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Let me elaborate - my husband - we have been married five years, and best friends for 15 years. Actually kind of sorry i asked, i expected some help on the situation, not insults.
2006-09-21 13:59:50 · update #1
to xxon10 - you wish lol
2006-09-21 14:01:01 · update #2
Also, we have a three year old son that they pretty much have nothing to do with as well.. but are very happy to keep watching and raising the kids she keeps having
2006-09-21 14:03:54 · update #3
http://boards.billmaher.com/showthread.php?t=50318
is a link to the full story
2006-09-21 14:22:17 · update #4
Vita,
People do a lot of things in the name of god. At the end of the day they are responsible for what they do, but they hide behind religion. I suggest you and your husband make the best of it. Support him when he is frustrated by this situation. When dealing with them be nice, polite and direct, attempt to mend fences without approving of their choices. Set your boundries. Do not let them define the situation by religion. If they tell you about religion tell them nicely to keep it to themselves. If they want to discuss the ex-spouse situation, make it clear it is their choice not a religious mandate. Only allow discussion on these terms, and then tell them politely how you feel. - Also, remember you are lucky - you guys have each other and your kids!
Okay - I mean this respectfully -your husband is really lucky to have you -a caring, thinking - Hottie!
2006-09-21 14:30:47 · answer #1 · answered by will.hunter 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry that some insulted.
Jesus says we should forgive 70 x 7. We are to go out and plant our seeds. Shunning some one is not living the Christian life. Our most powerful witness is not thumping a bible at them, Its living the life in front of them. Jesus says if some one steals your cloak, also give them your coat.
Now I do not know the reasons why they are not helping there son in the name of God. Is he dangerous? I cannot think of any thing my Son or Daughter would do to make me stop loving them. Hey, Look at God, we killed his Son. He sent him back to save us. We (humans) are his most prized possessions that I know. Maybe you need some pastoral intervention if they are doing this in the name of God.
Not much but I hope this helps.
2006-09-21 21:06:51 · answer #2 · answered by chardonn55 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm very sorry to hear of this happening. During and since my divorce, too, my mom and siblings have taken my ex's side, when it's I who am the innocent party and my ex was and is an amazingly inconsiderate and deceptive person. Supposedly because we're all Christians and I "left him too lightly" in their opinion. I know Christ let me leave an abusive spouse, but it sucks that these people abandoned me in my time of need.
2006-09-21 21:02:34 · answer #3 · answered by catintrepid 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Vita
I just read your whole story in the link posted. That is unbelievable!! I think as far as Jenny goes the parents obviously think they are doing the Christian thing by taking her and her child in but they are actually enabling her to continue in her irresponsible lifestyle. As she cheated on him he was free to remarry so he has done nothing wrong and neither have you. I feel for those poor kids! I would pray for your husbands parents. I know it seems religion is hurting the family but it is actually poor choices of these people that is hurting the family not God.
Hope things get better! If its possible I would lovingly confront the parents about their gossip and shunning of their son and his family as that is not godly behaviour at all.
2006-09-21 21:01:06 · answer #4 · answered by angelvic_83 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My parents disowned me in the name of God. They haven't spoken to me in 6-1/2 years (since I got engaged) and have never met my 4-year-old daughter.
It isn't God's fault. He has been faithful, and I continue to love him.
Some Christians make terrible mistakes, and many people calling themselves Christians aren't. You still need to know God, who He is, and what His requirements are. Forget religion. Seek truth.
2006-09-21 20:58:44 · answer #5 · answered by ©2007 answers by missy 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
maybe she has no where else to go or they feel the relationship needs time to heal. if she would be turned out inthe cold - Christian Charity - well it begins in the home.
while it's difficult to really understand your situation from the few words typed -- i pray it gets better. just have faith - there is a reason for everything - even when we can't understand!
God bless
YSIC
2006-09-21 21:05:19 · answer #6 · answered by Marysia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not enough information, I really don't understand the situation...care to elaborate?
2006-09-21 21:30:07 · answer #7 · answered by FashionSuika 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why can't we all just get along?
Why use "GOD" to justify any hurtful actions? I don't know, but it happens quite often in all religions.
2006-09-21 21:15:58 · answer #8 · answered by None 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone invokes the name of GOD to justify their own selfish
chit!
2006-09-21 20:58:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like a threesome situation going on
2006-09-21 20:59:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋