I am concerned how a divorce will effect my 3 year old daughter?My marriage is failing i am 21 years old i got married at 18 when i got pregnant with my daughter. I am starting to resent my husband and cant shake it are fights have gotten so bad he now pushes and shoves me. We have gone to therapy but it seemed to make things worse. He hates the fact that he went to work and my parents paid for me to go to college. When we fight i feel like it was when we ere in middle school. I am begining to question if we ever lover each other. My husband feels i ruined his life by having our daughter. Should i file for divorce? my husband barley nows his own daughter? Also afraid if we divorce she will never see him?
2006-09-21 13:06:20 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
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2006-09-21 13:07:11 · update #1
I want to protect her from pain.
2006-09-21 13:27:59 · update #2
I'm pretty sure you were told that you married too young and they were right. You were too immature to realize what you were getting yourself into. Get a divorce, take care of your son and fix your life. Do one thing at a time and good luck.
2006-09-21 13:10:47 · answer #1 · answered by Art The Wise 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know what..this is a case where you need to do what is right for you...the fighting and the yelling, and the trouble between the two of you is worse for the child, then the divorce...i got divorced when my son was 1 1/2 yrs old ( i was married at 18 also ) and my son still See's his father, and has had a great step father now for 6 yrs, and he is happy and well adjusted, and just thrilled with the idea of having 2 days..this isn't a decision any one but you can make, if there is abuse then you need to seriously consider getting out before it escalates, and the baby is next.
2006-09-21 13:42:48 · answer #2 · answered by MyDreams2Be 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is in no way ordinary for a baby at any age - they're going to word one ascertain or yet another is lacking. They word more advantageous than you supply them credit for. No age is ever solid for a divorce. yet, in case you could guard some form of normality, and a relationship along with your ex for the sake of your new child - then thatll help plenty. do not slag off your better 1/2, enable get entry to and make the issue as loving and worrying as you could, then if the youngster is definitely-known with they are loved by making use of both events, you could tell them at a later age (at the same time as they could understand) why you split up, and they're going to understand - and likely love you more advantageous for giving them a favorable and grown up attitude to relationships. toddlers understand a lot, and are damage so extremely - attempt to be reasinable for thier sake. no count number what the reason behind the split.
2016-11-23 13:59:37 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either way, this unhealthy realtionship will effect your daughter. If he is acting in a physical manner to you, then he may start to do the same to her. You must think of her first always. It is healthier for her to be raised by one loving parent than one who can't defend herself and the other extremely violent.
I urge you to seek professional counselling on your own minus the man. Maybe take your daughter too. They have play therapy that can help determine what a child understands of relationships. Kids see and understand more than adults realize.
2006-09-21 14:41:12 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be more concerned how your marriage is effecting her .
She will grow up to want a man pushing her around like daddy does mommy because that is how it was done .
Always put your little girl first .she is defenseless.and when you date watch out for her when you have strangers in the house .
Always spend quality time with her and don't bad mouth your husband to her .Divorce can be a better way to get along .
But it will get bitter be for it gets better .
2006-09-21 13:28:07 · answer #5 · answered by Elaine814 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes getting out of a detrimental relationship is the best thing. Sometimes it's the most healthy and brave thing to do. You may save your child from some of the emotional baggage that comes from your husband's resentment.
I know it's scary to think he could just exit completely from ya'lls life, but you have to let him go expecting the worst. You've got to do right for you and your daughter. Kids are adaptable and flourish in a household of love regardless of number of parents.
Take heart - ya'll can make it.
2006-09-21 13:55:42 · answer #6 · answered by Applecore782 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is pushing and shoving you then you need to leave. Because sooner or later it will turn into hitting. Take your daughter and go. If you have a college education then you can afford to take care of her. You didn't ruin his life by having your baby. He helped make her so if he feels that way then he ruined his own life. A baby can't ruin your life only enrich it. Enjoy your baby and leave him in the dust.
2006-09-21 13:33:23 · answer #7 · answered by Medical and Business Information 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if a divorce will make you happy, then go for it. no need to stay in a loveless relationship.yes the divorce will effect your daughter,but not as bad as her seeing mommy and daddy fight all the time.
2006-09-21 13:26:40 · answer #8 · answered by April B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont get divorce! how would you feel if your parents got a divorce. think about the child!
2006-09-21 13:18:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋