Okay so this is kind of complicated and I was really hoping that you guys could help me! There is this boy at school that I have had a crush on for the longest time! He is really cute, smart, funny, and extremely nice! About two years ago (6th grade) we started to become really good friends we would hang out all the time at lunch and e-mail all the time. I had liked him for a while before that but nobody new or so I thought. Last year (7th grade) a girl that I go to school with told him that I liked him I was really upset but what really stunned me is how she found out! After that I talked to my mom and she told me to play it low key aka if he talked to me talk back but don’t just go up and talk to him all the time like I did before because it might scare him away. So I did just that and he just stopped talking to me completely!!! I felt so rejected L (that was more toward the beginning of the year than towards the end) so the whole year it was really awkward between us and at the end of the year there was a big school dance and we rented out this really nice restaurant and there was dinner and of course dancing. Now normally I would have asked him to dance just because he is a friend but I got really nervous and chickened out!!! on the way home when I was talking to my dad about it he gave me this huge lecture on how if I really want something to happen I have to go after it and not just wait for it to come to me because it most likely won’t. I know he is right but I just don’t know how to approach him. So anyway over the summer he started e-mailing me again, I was so-so happy we would talk for about an hour every day. So I figured that when school started we would be friends again but I was so wrong he won’t talk to me at school! The most I can get out of him is a hi. I really wish that we could be friends (since neither if us can grp. Date until we are 16 and single date until we are 18) and hang out again but I have now idea how to make that happen without scaring him off again. He is a very very shy guy and I am really shy too. So I think that that might be a big factor! Thank you so-so much for reading this I know it was really long but you have no idea how much I appreciate your help!!!!
2006-09-21 13:04:14 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why don't you email him and ask him some of the things you are asking now. The only real answer to any of your questions can only come from him.
2006-09-21 13:11:07 · answer #1 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since the two of you are so shy around each other, email him any questions you may have, and see if he answers back. If he doesn't, move on. Maybe the two of you will get together in the future, just not now.
Move on to someone else that you can talk to. Good luck.
2006-09-21 13:36:57 · answer #2 · answered by kellygirlaj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you might need to talk to him. Maybe not about dating or something, but just talking to him to get rid of the akward feeling between the two of you. This will help with the akwardness and the shyness that he may feel about you two. Trust me, my experience is that if I know you, the better I might talk and the more I might get to know about you, and vice versa.
One major thing, Patience ( I know that several years is a LONG time, but keep being patient. I know allot of relationships that go wrong because of impatience.)
If he doesn't want to date you, don't let it destroy your friendship; I learned that from experience.
Hopefully things go well between you two!
2006-09-21 13:15:13 · answer #3 · answered by Full_of_Questions_and_Answers 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby just tell him that you are attracted to him and cant understand why he is your computer buddy but you cant talk at school . I'm guessing that he is at that age were girls are cool but your guys are more important. . Tell him that you just want a great friendship at the moment, and in time it may develop as you grow to the age were dating is a possibility.Your dad is right though if you hide what you feel how can he ever know how you feel for him . its a risk but id step up to the plate and tell him
2006-09-21 13:21:58 · answer #4 · answered by slick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
next time try to make it shorter. That happens to me all the time and its really awkward i know. but the best thing to do is to confront him. since ur a shy person try practicing in the mirror then move up to parents then up to friends then when you feel comfortable confront him. say something small to sart the cnversation "whats up" and work ur way up to "how come you never talk to me at school anymore" but dont come rite out and say it. good luck
2006-09-21 13:15:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok since the dating law is enforced, i am going to take a chance and say you both are LDS. which is fine, just maybe he is spacing the distance between you two until you are old enough to date. you never know...but until then tell him what you told us, and how you just want to be friends for now and have your old friendship back.
best of luck,
~C.
2006-09-21 13:10:41 · answer #6 · answered by answering queen! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow
2006-09-21 13:45:37 · answer #7 · answered by ccfromnj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋