My 11 y/o son expends alot of effort in not doing work at school and seems to think that he can hide this from me. If he applied all of the energy he uses to do this to his actual work, he would not be failing.
2006-09-21 13:02:43 · 4 answers · asked by bigno425 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Teach by example !!!
Do you consider yourself to be a success?
Do you believe that your efforts at school, helped you to be who you are today?
Use your life as an example for your son to follow !!!
Ask your son what he would like to be when he leaves school…
We’ll assume his response is ‘a doctor’…
Get on the internet, and download the qualifications for a doctor…
Tell him that this what he wants to be… and this is what he has do to be it.
Let him know that unless he starts working toward his goals now, he will never reach them !!!
Try to boost his self-esteem…
Remind him of how ‘special’ he is, and how he deserves to be the best that he can be.
Tell him that he owes it to himself to make the most of his life, and if he fails to do so, he is cheating on himself !!!
I hope my suggestions have been of some help to you.
Good luck !!!
2006-09-21 13:08:05 · answer #1 · answered by I_C_Y_U_R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck that is the age old question. All you can do is just sit him down and have a serious father and son talk with him. Tell him that his behavior is not acceptable and you will not tolerate it.
(Use your own words). Don't attack him, just be honest with him and that you tell him these things cause you love him and you only want what is best for him. Plus you know that he can do better than that if he were to apply himself.
2006-09-21 23:00:18 · answer #2 · answered by morris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a rule that homework comes first after school. Before snacks, TV, playing videos, etc... Then sit at the table with him until it is all done. A pain for you but that's part of the job as a parent...
2006-09-21 21:07:57 · answer #3 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two thoughts...
You can get him evaluated to see if he has any other issues that may be affecting his focus or ability to study etc.
or you can bribe him to work harder, either with attention, activities or even money.
2006-09-21 20:05:42 · answer #4 · answered by lewwis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋