In a world like today, why do parents or guardians have such a hard time explaining sex to their children. Isnt it better to have them know the facts then "the birds and bees" BS story from the 70's?
2006-09-21 12:50:23 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I have two teenage kids, 14 and 16. And I have always been straight forward with them. And to this day, they are both still virgins and chose to stay that way until marriage. And I of course think it is because of all the info they do know, they make better choices.
2006-09-21 12:57:54 · update #1
Personally I always found being honest with my daughter the best way to teach her. From the age of 4 she would ask questions like what "boobies" were for, so I told her they were to feed babies with, When she asked what being gay meant, I just told her that sometimes two men or two women who love eachother is being gay. You can be honest with a child without having to go through the gory details, just keep it honest and simple. She never had a problem asking me about ANYTHING. so she was able to make informed choices about her own life, now that she is 19 she is a very happy well adjusted adult. Trust me, kids today wont swallow the bs we were told as kids. They probably know more than we do and just want to watch their parents squirm with embarassment.
2006-09-22 01:29:36 · answer #1 · answered by Pauline N 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My son was 4 when he first asked about babies. I told him that they come from the mommies belly and he was happy with that. As he got older he asked again. Each time a little more information was given to him. I dont think that you need to tell them everything at once. He is 7 now and he asks me about certain things and I answer honestly but I also tell him that some of the things involved in his question will be answered when he is older and he accepts that.
We are open and honest with each other. I am single and I need him to feel comfortable in talking to me about all matters concerning his body.
2006-09-21 20:49:37 · answer #2 · answered by wickedly_funny66 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the fact is that some parents truelly do not know all of the facts... they know the general information but sonce they were not told about it in their homes they dont know how to tell their kids and they are afraid that their children may know more about STD's and contrceptives than they them selves do... just b/c you are lucky enough to be well informed doesnt mean everyone is... and on the other hand their are some parents that feel their children have no business knowing any of that stuff untill they are married... so unfortunatly it is the children that suffer...
2006-09-21 14:59:16 · answer #3 · answered by iAmJustMe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you are so right. I agree with you 200%. I hate it when parents try to sugar coat sex because that isn't an issue to be taken lightly. If feel that if kids know the truth, then maybe they'll make better choices.
2006-09-21 13:01:00 · answer #4 · answered by UVRay 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is.
If you explain it to them early then they will understand what not to do. ANd how to prevent pregnancy.
I mean my five year old kept asking me how the baby was going to get out. I said oh the doctor will take it out. But then when I came home she checked my belly and said that it wasn't cut...so i just told her it comes out a special hole in your private.
And now I know to be honest with her because they are smart and I would rather her hear it from me than from someone else
2006-09-21 12:53:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whelp.. Honestly. I think it has more to do with a catch 22...
You want them to know.. so they know..
But if you tell them, then you think you're giving them the permission to do it...
If you tell them and then tell them not to do it, they get curious and want to try, especially since it's now "forbidden"
They also remember what it was like when they got the talk, or the information when they were that age...
Soooo you want them to know.. but you don't want them to try.. so how do you accomplish that?
2006-09-21 12:54:20 · answer #6 · answered by SassySista 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
GOOD FOR YOU! I THINK IT'S EXCELLENT TO GIVE KIDS THE INFO THEY NEED AND LEARN THEY CAN COME TO YOU WITH QUESTIONS! I ALSO THINK IT'S GREAT THAT THEY ARE CHOSING TO ABSTAIN UNTIL THEY'RE READY, JUST DON'T BE TOO SURPRISED IF THEY CHOOSE NOT TO WAIT UNTIL MARRIAGE, BUT IT WILL AT LEAST BE NICE THAT THEY WILL BE A LITTLE MORE MATURE AND SMARTER ABOUT THEIR CHOICES SINCE THEY WAITED.
2006-09-21 13:00:41 · answer #7 · answered by mcbeth_31 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's always been a sensitive subject that people are shy about.
2006-09-21 12:58:04 · answer #8 · answered by Hannah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋