i have a bf. we been together for 3 years. i dont see him at all lately. but i really love him. yet i am REALLY attracted to this guy. he talks to me sometimes. and i get all smiley. i KNOW this is wrong. and i dont know what to do. because as far as i know that guy has a gf. please no rude comments.
thanks for help
2006-09-21 12:41:45 · 18 answers · asked by ♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, I'm wondering if you like this new guy because you know something's wrong with your current relationship. Don't cheat on your boyfriend you'll regret it but maybe you should figure out if your relationship is trouble. If there's somethings you need to work out like why you never see him anymore...
I've been with my bf for 3.5 years and though I sometimes entertain fleeting thoughts of what it would be like to be with someone else, it never gets very far because I'm so happy with my bf. Maybe you aren't happy and this new guy makes feel something you haven't felt for you boyfriend for a while.
2006-09-21 12:48:15 · answer #1 · answered by NutterButter 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well ive been in this situation myself. i dated a guy off and on for about 5 years...i then became attracted to other guys and though i was missing out on something. so i broke up with him even though i loved him so much. and i ended up beggin to get back together with him. if you really love someone, you should be lucky that you have found a person out there like that. just remember your allowed to look, but you can't touch. also let me add this, if at any point your relationship is not doing well as to where you dont believe that you are still in love with this guy, then maybe you need to take some time away from him and figure out what you really want.
good luck :)
2006-09-21 19:47:36 · answer #2 · answered by taceysay02@sbcglobal.net 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who knows maybe this new guy is the real deal! Find out if he is with another! If not break ties with your BF, since it's not what you are wanting in life. Don't settle just because you have been together 3 years. If he was into you, you would spend more time together. Life is short be happy!
2006-09-21 19:47:56 · answer #3 · answered by Adam 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go with your heart. All is fair in love and war. If yo are not married, then you are free to still have an eye open, the same for your bf. If you never have your eyes open, then you will never find "the one" if this bf is not the right one. My mother would have never married my dad because her best friend's boyfriend was my dad, and she just fell madly in love, as he did with her. You just have to go on, and let the ones that are not making your heart throb fall by the wayside. They will just go out and find one that makes them feel like that too, if you are not feeling like that now with one another. Just go, your young, and need many friends. That is how you find the right one, by meeting several different types, and then you know him when you meet him. Good luck.
2006-09-21 19:46:53 · answer #4 · answered by shardf 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be attracted to another male is natural.
In this situation you need to decide whether your relationship now is going to work out. Just because you love someone doesn't mean you have to be with them.
It is always good to try to save a relationship so talk to your man first and see if you can solve the problem.
good luck
2006-09-21 20:19:12 · answer #5 · answered by Dave L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All I CAn say is follow your heart if you really dont think that you and your boyfriend are going to last that much longer break it off before he thinks you are just leading him on , as far as the other guy having a gf play snatch!
2006-09-21 19:44:06 · answer #6 · answered by Sammy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you sound loyal to your current bf. My advice is to stay away from the other guy, at least until your feelings settle. Subtly try not to be around him. Don't be mean, but if he's making you feel like you have a crush on him then you should stay away from him and always stay loyal to your bf.
2006-09-21 19:44:55 · answer #7 · answered by S. Elizabeth 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The question is : why don't you see your bf lately? But honestly, you should talk to him and try to straight things up before you make a mistake. Plus, you could have your *** kicked by the other gf.
2006-09-21 19:48:29 · answer #8 · answered by latgal73 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are that much in love with you bf then you shouldn't feel like that around another guy,,,,It may just be a symptom of something wrong with you and your bf...
2006-09-21 19:44:32 · answer #9 · answered by Jani S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you do have a problem if you cant split your feelings, i think that, well, just try to see what really gets you going, your attraction to that guy or the love for your friend. do some inner thinking or something.
2006-09-21 19:46:12 · answer #10 · answered by marlen 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋