Okay, for starters I have been with my girlfriend for almost a year. We have built a strong trusting relationship and I love and adore her with all my heart. But she can sometimes jump to conclusions very easily without hearing or knowing the whole story. Anyway now for what happened. During 4th hour today a friend of mine (who is a girl) approched me about taking her to Taco Bell for lunch. I said sure as long as she would get me something to eat as well. So we left, got lunch and came back. On the way back though my girlfriend passed us on her way home for lunch and she saw me and my friend coming back. So as soon as I got back to school I called her to let her know what she saw, upon doing this she tells me that she doesn't want to talk to me and that she is sooo mad! Now I told all of my girlfriend's friends and told them the same thing, and one of them even saw me leave. And they all think she is overreacting. So what do you guys think?
2006-09-21 12:23:55 · 25 answers · asked by smart_guy2007 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay....just so you know, I would've invited her but she was still in class and my relationship to my friend is like the one I have with my sister,plus I would never even consider cheating on my girlfriend. EVER!!. Also, I tried telling her the whole story, but she kept ignoring me.
2006-09-21 13:17:27 · update #1
thanks you guys for the help....but it won't do much good cause she just broke up with me.
2006-09-21 20:08:46 · update #2
She is over-reacting. She should have accepted your explanation at face value. You have done nothing wrong. After a year together, I think you have earned her trust, don't you?
2006-09-21 12:32:11 · answer #1 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she overeacted a little but YOU were and are still a jerk to be going out (even casually) with another chick without asking if she is okay with it or at the very least telling her.EVEN if nothing was going on it LOOKS bad, her family, friends ect. could have seen it and misinterpreted it told her and have blown it WAY out of proportion and it would change their opinions of you tremendiously,if it was changed enough it could haave ended your relationship. it is not that you did something wrong it is that you SHOULD know your girl well enough by now to have known she would be steamed and have been accountable and have told her so it didn't look like you were sneaking around....SHE overreacted BUT you were not 100% in the right either.
DUDE...leave her a note, SOMETHING come on if it were reversed you'd be a lil bit steamed too, just remember to put yourself in your girls place next time and leave a note or tell her and you can avoid a senseless argument or even possible breakup if she gets just as mad or even madder the next time,
it is common courtesy, it was rude as well for you not to wait for her which may be part of why she was mad (FYI)
2006-09-21 18:38:57 · answer #2 · answered by ~Princess*Bonkers~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is insecure. Something most had made her that way. I don't see anything wrong with what you did. Many times I have passed my husband in his car and me in mine with a woman or man, and I just say I saw you but you didn't see me. I do ask who was that and were he was going, but I take his explanation and leave it at that. Because I do the same thing. I figured as long as my husband is active with me in the bedroom and come home every night, I am OK. Try to reassure her and if not, let it be. It seems there is not trust there.
2006-09-21 12:31:11 · answer #3 · answered by Boricua Born 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, in a complete vacuum, with only this story as you relate it, yes, your gf is overreacting.
But here's the deal, sport - life never happens in a complete, isolated vaccum.
Your gf has trust issues (I assume that's what you mean by "jumps to conclusions very easily). Why is that? Is it because her last bf cheated on her? Because other significant men in her life (father?) cheated on her mom or similar? Rarely does a girl grow up with manifold, serious trust and security issues FOR NO REASON.
If you really care for her as much as you say you do, your responsibility is to treat her WITH FULL AWARENESS of the trust issues she's got.
So you need to be responsible to help her work through these things - and that means not unnecessarily aggravating her, and giving her reasons for not trusting you.
Just my 0.02 - been married for over 19 years.
Best to you both.
2006-09-21 12:31:00 · answer #4 · answered by Timothy W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 30 years old and I overreact sometimes with my fiance...Young laidies exspecially in high school are very jelous people but put yourself in her shoes..if you saw her leave with a guy that was just a friend would you have the same reaction that she did?
But honestly she can get glad in the same panies that she got mad in because if you truely love her she will realize that she over reacted and tell you she is sorry
2006-09-21 12:31:45 · answer #5 · answered by butterfly32976 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you, she is overreacting. You should not have involved her friends, it wasn't their business, but you did.
Now that you know how she is about you and your female friends, you need to reassess that "strong, trusting relationship" you have. Apparently, all that strength and trust is one-sided (yours). She sounds very immature and childish, by not wanting to hear your side of the story.
Leave her alone to stew in her own juices for a while, but let her know that when she's ready to listen, you'll be ready to talk. In the meantime, when you two have a problem, keep it between the two of you.
2006-09-21 13:04:56 · answer #6 · answered by kellygirlaj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't easy to see your guy or gal in a car with someone else.
If I were you I would make sure you arn't in public with other girls. Even if it is innocent, things can happen.
When I have a bf I don't go for rides with other guys.
I don't go out to dinner or lunch with other guys.
I would suggest your casual friends get their own lunch, or travel in groups if you head out to taco bell.
Your gf did react strongly, but hey if you saw her in a car with a guy you would probably react too.
Maybe you arn't ready for a gf.
2006-09-21 12:33:14 · answer #7 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is, but unless you are 12, you should now by now its on every women's nature to overract, like is on us guys to ignore "important" details. You hsould have called her or made sure there is "evidence" that you and a FRIEND were for just lunch.
You now need to make up for this. Take her to Taco Bell.
2006-09-21 12:28:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm am girl and girls don't like their boyfriends to take any other girl out to lunch or anything else. She must love you lots if she is jealous and it sure sounds like she is.If you still want her for a girl and love her then maybe tell the other girl you can't take them anywhere . Most girls are jealous if they care about you. You guys wouldn't like it if another guy took her out to eat or see a movie even if it were innocent. think about it! Maybe you'll understand how she feels.
2006-09-21 12:38:20 · answer #9 · answered by Becca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r wrong to have not invited her. i would freak out too....in fact i did, and my ex didnt understand why and though i love him very much, we r broken up now and i m broken hearted. u cant just hang out with another girl. u need to hang out with the girl u love, and if u wanna hang out w a friend that is a girl....then take ur girlfriend along or tell her about it while reminding her how much u love her and after, take her out somewhere.
2006-09-21 12:34:04 · answer #10 · answered by Rebecca Forever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋