there is this guy i liked and i found out he is gay but the problem is we just got married what do i do and don't say follow your heart if that is what i needed to do then i would of had sex with him all redy should i have sex with him
2006-09-21 12:06:18 · 17 answers · asked by jennifer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You need to divorce him, sweetie! He's GAY.... he is not going to connect with you on the levels that you need him too (and I'm not just referring to sex). He will make a wonderful friend, but not a wonderful husband. You will never fulfill him and vice versa. Let him go....
2006-09-21 13:35:45 · answer #1 · answered by PT&L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why have sex with a gay guy? This is not going anywhere. Now if you want to stay marry for the sake of others do so, but live your own separate lives. You are both making life difficult for you. Get counseling and then get a divorce or just annul the wedding.
2006-09-21 19:10:52 · answer #2 · answered by Boricua Born 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find it a bit difficult to believe that if you knew him well enough to marry him that you had no idea that he might be bi-sexual prior to the wedding.
It is up to you whether you have sex with him again, not a bunch of faceless strangers on the other end of a computer cord. Search your own self and decide whether you really want to stay with him. You obviously must have loved him at some point - sit down and talk to him, see what he says. Then honestly search your own self again and make your final decision.
Either way, good luck and I hope you find a way that works for you. Don't sacrifice your hopes and dreams for his. He is not what he presented himself to be and you should not feel badly if you decide that you cannot stay in this marriage.
2006-09-21 19:13:32 · answer #3 · answered by Road Warrior 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So your new husband has told you he is GAY? How did you miss this during the dating? He is your husband and you have the right to have sex with him. you are his wife. Biblically he shouldn't be having sex with anyone BUT you. Especially not other MEN! Before the bible thumper bashing starts, Let me say that I recgonize that that Gay people are people too but I recognize that they are people FIRST. Yes, you should definitly be having sex with your husband. more importantly, you should have been taking the time to get to know him during the predating process. that's called MAKING FRIENDS with him. THEN you decide if you WANT to date him. you would have found out he was gay probably during the friendship part of the relationship.
2006-09-21 19:17:19 · answer #4 · answered by leeanndemon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get an immediate annulment or divorce. Don't have sex with him - you don't know how many men he has been with! So sad for you - but this happened to a friend of mine - they were married a while, though, before she found out. She divorced, later met a great guy, married and had a family. --- and don't you DARE blame yourself - it was he who is a liar and a con man, and how ignorant of him to do this to you. Make sure everyone knows - yours and his family and all your friends. Don't keep it secret - everyone should know it is not your fault, and everyone will support you. Good luck...
2006-09-21 22:12:10 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHOA! You are married to a gay man? How did that happen? lol As for what you should do, well if you like the idea of your man making eyes at the cute guys anywhere...then hey it might work out...But seriously maybe you should get an annulment. Or this might screw with your head quite a bit..Good Luck!
2006-09-21 19:11:27 · answer #6 · answered by artqueen5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just walk out and dont look back.if he was clever enough to hide this fact till after the wedding and lead you to such a situation, he can do much worse which will cause you much more stress and heart ache not to mention possibly health problems in future.
May be you will meet a nice guy and will forget this ever happened
2006-09-21 19:47:54 · answer #7 · answered by Sarah A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to need some more info to fully understand the situation. You need to relax and do some serious thinking about what you want out of life.
2006-09-21 19:10:23 · answer #8 · answered by s_e_e 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When did you find out he was gay?Before or after the wedding?
If you have sex. make it safe sex.You might want to get an anullment, he should have told you first.
2006-09-21 19:13:37 · answer #9 · answered by nancy e 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. no dont have sex with him
2. if you just found out about it .. it means hes been lying to you all this time..and that means you should get a divorce
im sry about this whole thing with you and him i hope it all works out
2006-09-21 19:10:00 · answer #10 · answered by russian princess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋