ok, all of my friends have made fun of me for trying online dating and besides it hasnt worked anyway. it's the same set of guys looking for the same one night stand. i work with only older/married or homosexual men so i cant use work to meet men. i am 27 years old so all the guys my friends know are all married or in serious relationships. i have met men at bars but that's obviously not somewhere to meet someone who is looking for something long term. i feel like there is no where to meet men. anyone have any ideas? please help, i really want a serious relationship at some point in the near future but there is no where to meet a man. how do people expect their "soulmate" to just come along, there has to be some trick to it.
2006-09-21 11:51:12 · 15 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm not sure if you're religious, but church might be a good place. Think of your hobbies. If you go out doing whatever you like to do, you'll two birds with one stone because if a guy is there too, he obviously has the same interests as you. Try the library, bookstore, coffee shop, some type of specialty store. Take up some type of hobby - dance class, martial arts, aerobics, bike riding, arts & crafts, kick boxing, whatever. Are you opposed to blind dating. I know that might be kinda creepy, so how about group dating - if you're friends know anyone that's single. Honestly, I think the trick is to stop looking. When you do, someone always pops up.
2006-09-21 11:57:16 · answer #1 · answered by chocolate-drop 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you mean, I'm in just the same situation. I don't agree with the other comments though cos if a guy approached me in a supermarket, library or park and tried hitting on me I'd prob just think he's weird so I'm going to stick to checking out bars just now cos some of the guys there will be looking for something more and also just don't know where to look! I think comedy clubs can be good too as everyone is relaxed and having fun together. Good Luck!
2006-09-21 19:20:50 · answer #2 · answered by loraorla 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever just gone to the park to read a book on a blanket. Sometimes you can meet guys that are trying to run around the park to get exercise. Or you could join a gym like the YMCA. Or you could sometimes browse around a video store for a good movie and ask a mans opinion for a good movie, whether it be action, comedy or drama or so on. There is several ways to meet men sweetie, you just have to get out and have an imagination. Be creative and have fun with it. After all you only live once.
2006-09-21 19:06:44 · answer #3 · answered by Tammy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Online dating isn't so bad, but if it's not working for you, then it's definately time to try other means.
Ask all your friends and co-workers to set you up on dates. Someone, somewhere knows a single guy.
You could also try joining a sports club. The exercise will make you feel good, and you can meet people in a relaxed atmosphere.
Good luck and don't get discouraged. Stay positive! Remember that frowns give you wrinkles, but smiles get you friends.
2006-09-21 18:56:43 · answer #4 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same boat. Everyone seems to be either married or already in a relationship with someone. I've tried church and the singles group is usually all women, maybe one guy. I go many places and I see guys and then I see their wives/girlfriends. I wish there was a place for single people to meet. I live in Oklahoma and it is horrible here.
2006-09-22 21:49:22 · answer #5 · answered by Martha T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well seems for me when I basically gave up looking and tried this on line thing that it was a total bust too. I did find a really cool site called plentyoffish and you can meet some really interesting people on there. Just quit looking for it b/c it will find you when you do!
2006-09-21 19:46:57 · answer #6 · answered by queenonymphs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm single and I live in the L.A area. I'm looking for a serious relationship. I'm 32. I'm on yahoo messenger at VinceWood30 if you want to chat...
2006-09-21 18:57:00 · answer #7 · answered by vincewood30 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you have figured out that meeting someone in a bar is probably not the best place, maybe a church or church event
2006-09-21 18:55:14 · answer #8 · answered by GIGGLES 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should always have hope and faith that "the one" will come your way someday. i think i've tried it all...online dating, blind dates, bars, but nothing seems to work or its just not what i'm looking for. one of my guy friends told me that maybe i should try dating women for a change. lol. nah, i'll going to keep on looking for the right guy, but until he comes along, i'm just going to keep on having fun. i wish you the best of luck.
2006-09-21 18:58:30 · answer #9 · answered by belle t 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men that are even remotely thinking about serious relationships i.e. marriage and family, join churches! They think that is where they can a woman that is nice.
2006-09-21 18:57:03 · answer #10 · answered by Stefanie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋