My boyfriend likes to watch porn and last year I caught him with about 40 movies and he said he was sorry and would never do it again so he threw them all out. So a year goes by and I asked him last night if he had bought any movies or magazines since the last incident he said no to me. So today I am in his batroom cleaning I find 6 books that are pornos. I was really hurt because of the fact that he lied to my face, so I confronted him and he said whas the big deal about porn and I said u lied to me. So then I ask if there is anything else I should know about he says yeah I have movies to.. So He wouldnt tell me where they were I found them he has 15 discs hidden inbetween his wrestling DVDS. I was really hurt and upset I don't know what to do. I dont like it very much and he is telling me I can't change who he is etc. Please help!
2006-09-21 11:31:51 · 13 answers · asked by Justina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
But still its a turn off to me I can't explain how I feel .. I almost feel like if he has the real thing why does he need to go an watch that stuff? He told me that he likes to watch that stuff b4 he has sex with me it gets him horny to me that tells me that I am not good enough to get him going.
2006-09-21 11:54:23 · update #1
I also just asked him if he would mind me looking at naked guys not like doing each other but just looking at the different sizes or if my girlfiend wanted show me her collection of hot naked guys would he mind ? and he said this to me... " f you didn't know them and talked to them "
how does everyone feel about that??
2006-09-21 11:57:00 · update #2
He may have an addiction and need help.
2006-09-21 11:35:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but that's a pretty normal guy response. Do you feel that you have to compete with the women in the videos? Guys generally can be quite happy in their current relationship and still watch porn. We're visual creatures and porn fulfills a lot of sublimated desires that we wouldn't necessarily even want to bring up with our women. It has nothing to do with the guys comparing the porn actresses with our girlfriends, it's more that we watch it because it's NOT our girlfriends doing those things on the video.
2006-09-21 18:38:33 · answer #2 · answered by sickphil71 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it wasn't hurting the relationship when you didn't know he had them why is it such a big deal. You are the one making him feel uncomfortable about what he is doing. Guys watch, look at and like Porn. FACT. What he does in his bathroom with the door closed is non of your business. He doesn't make you watch it. He doesn't leave it around, you have to go snooping for it. Stop trying to rule the world. If the guy wants to wack it to porn than let the man wack a way. There are way worse things he could be into. i.e. real girls...
2006-09-21 18:40:34 · answer #3 · answered by Mike C 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i'd be pissed off too. sounds like he cant stop looking at porn and if he doesnt want to stop for you then maybe he's not worth it. You can either stay with him and put up with knowing that he looks at it, or just leave. guys can be such disgusting perverts!!
ps dont listen to what the guys are writing they are obviously porn addicts themselves with no life
2006-09-21 18:37:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, all normal guys do it. He's lying to you b/c he thinks you're too judgmental. Lighten up a bit, and and accept him. Maybe even watch a few with him. Just chill out...'cause he will eventually get tired of being with someone like you.
2006-09-21 18:46:45 · answer #5 · answered by chillwill 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a typical guy to me, they all have porn in one form or another! Hey if he isn't cheating on you, then let it be. If you truely can't stand it, leave him and find someone else with more of your values.Good Luck.
2006-09-21 18:38:20 · answer #6 · answered by artqueen5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since you haven't mentioned why you have a problem with this i'll try to answer as best as i can with the given information...i'm not sure why you would ask him about the movies...it would seem like you did not trust him with this and got hurt by your lack of trust...i understand your being upset by his lying to you but i'm sure he didn't mean to hurt you with his lie but rather saw it as protecting you...my advice would be for you is to figure out why you have a problem with this and then explain it to him so he understands it...then you guys need to talk to each other a.bout this and work something out
2006-09-21 18:40:53 · answer #7 · answered by Book Goddess 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are going to try to control people, you have to get used to being lied to. Its as simple as that.
He likes his porn. Maybe its a problem, maybe it isn't. But its his choice to make. You can either accept him as he is, or find someone else.
The real issue here is your own insecurity.
2006-09-21 18:36:05 · answer #8 · answered by AngiesHusband 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first of all he can do what ever he wants you dont own him secon d there is nothing wrong with porn and third you must not be taking care of him very well or he wouldnt need all that porn.
2006-09-21 18:36:14 · answer #9 · answered by rangerider223 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dont do a damn thing every guy watches porn even if they are married u can just accept it...........think about it like this would u rather him jack off to porn or cheat on u?
2006-09-21 18:35:38 · answer #10 · answered by bigboss 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him you think it's the same as cheating with another woman.
If he's addicted to porn....
2006-09-21 18:35:16 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋