I am in my late 30's. I was married once but have been divorced for about 7 years now. I've been relationshipless for over a year now. Guys hit on me a lot at work but they only want sex, they are married and I always say no. At first the attention was flattering but it has gotten old and to the point that I don't believe anyone could want me for anything else. I dress nice but not slutty. I'd say I'm a little on the shy side so I'm not used to going up to men and telling them that I think they are cute or anything. I have lots of activities outside work such as school and dance class. Everyone I meet seems to be married wether I meet them at work or somewhere else. I don't want to get involved with a married man but sometimes I think that is all that is left. How can I meet a guy that is not just after a "piece"?
2006-09-21 11:28:03 · 14 answers · asked by Martha T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Guys at our age have been a little hurt by our fair sex. You have to pin a note to your chest, metaphorically speaking. You have to walk up to them and let them know that you are interested, but then, let them pursue you. A guy has got to feel like a man, but he's been hurt by his ex. When you see a nice guy, walk up to him and say "I wish that I could meet a nice guy like you", etc. He might just respond accordingly. Good luck!
2006-09-21 11:37:08 · answer #1 · answered by Stefanie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Broaden your outside activities. What else do you like? Try a hiking club or music venues. If you keep engaging in activiites that you enjoy, you may find a compatible single person. I do not think there is anything wrong with posting a profile on a internet dating service. This way you can read about them, communicate with them via email or phone, possibly meet and trust your instinct about whether or not he is just after a "piece". I may be a hopeless optimist, but I believe they are out there.
A. I think there are some guys who don't want to grow old alone. B. I believe there are some guys who really want to have a full connection with a woman, heart, soul, mind and body.
C. I think that some are smart enough to realize that creating that connection takes time out of the bedroom.
Best of luck to you. I am, also trying to weed out the players, losers, and ones who put sex and/or physical requirements first. That leaves a lot of wonderful men out there for you!
2006-09-21 18:38:25 · answer #2 · answered by Serendipity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear ya about the married man thing, but sister you are a catch! Nice or married they all seem to be after a piece, poor things are ruled by their you-know-whats most of the time. Don't insult yourself with a married man or the woman he's married to. I ask the married men if they have any single nice-guy friends, that turns them off me and stops them cold and I've gone a couple dates, no winners yet, but I had fun. Let your co-workers know you're looking for a nice single guy. Be yourself, show your personality, guys like shy girls too.
2006-09-21 18:39:57 · answer #3 · answered by Boots4ACowgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you find something that works as a solution to this universal problem for us women, please share the knowledge with me. Men at work hitting on me though, I'd report them for sexual harrassment and let their wives deal with the fall out of that... If I had one wish to make it would be that anyone who divorces get a free Dating, the How To Manual... I'm 43, divorced 6 yrs ago.. have been engaged 4 times during that time, only to find out with a ring comes their true colors.. and in between all that haven't lacked for dates except when I chose to take a break... and I know exactly what you mean about they all want a piece of something... as most of my dates have ended in total disaster because most men do not respect women, and when I lay out my boundaries they all reciprocate with anger, and want to make out like they were doing me a favor... HA! Joke on them! But yet I still hold a candle of faith that there might be one to actually surprise me someday... All I can say is good luck with it, be patient and never ever compromise your self respect... I'd much rather be alone than end up with some jack a s s who wouldnt know the truth about anything in life if it flew up his *** and came out his mouth and bit him on the nose! Take care and Good Luck!
2006-09-21 19:50:21 · answer #4 · answered by someone s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you start looking in the right places. There are good men out there looking for a good woman. As for the men at work you need to tell them that you don't appreciate their come ons since they are married. Tell them that you are not that type of woman. If you go out with other single women, you are bond to find a single man. Good luck on your searching!!!
2006-09-21 18:38:32 · answer #5 · answered by that1chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See if your friends' husbands' have any single friends. I know it gets lonely but just have patience. The right guy will come along. Do you have a pet? If not think about getting a dog. Walking your dog you can meet lots of people. They help break the ice. They are great company .
2006-09-21 18:34:25 · answer #6 · answered by bookfreak2day 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can get into lots of trouble getting in a relationship with a married man, my suggestion is that you wait until you take the right decision which could be like finding a man whos also divorced and likes you for yourself and personality
2006-09-21 18:42:21 · answer #7 · answered by sherief a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same boat. We just have to play the numbers. As soon as you find out he is married move on. There are plenty of men out there but I don't think there are any serious ones
2006-09-21 18:31:24 · answer #8 · answered by kerry9477 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating agency? Chuck & Cheese on the weekend, lots of single dad 's there with their kids...do you want a guy with kids or without? Somebody will come along soon;..you sound as though you totally have your head screwed on right...stop worrying about it....
2006-09-21 18:31:17 · answer #9 · answered by Lynne B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear ya sister. I've been told to start joining clubs and activities to meet nice people
2006-09-21 18:30:31 · answer #10 · answered by Varacha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋