Why do I not get hit on?

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I feel like I do a lot to put myself out there, but for some reason when I go to bars or clubs, I don't really get hit on by many guys. Should i dress sluttier? I dress sexy and show some skin, but compared to the other girls that wear skirts and belly shirts where their cleavage is hanging out like a cabbage patch, I can't compete with the attention. I usually surround myself by friends and try to laugh so people can see my smile, but it just doesn't work. To be completely honest with you, sometimes im just looking for someone attractive to go home with and party with, but i can't even get that? What am I doing wrong. I live in a predominantly blonde white town, and i'm hispanic but fairskinned and dark-haired with hazel eyes. I'm a normal size. 130lbs 5.5" athletic. no acne. what is the freaking problem? I see women far less attractive and dressed much more horribly than I get hit on.

I must be missing something.

Also I wouldn't mind getting hit on by a girl everyonce in a while too. How can you show a girl you're bisexual? And how do you spot one?

I got hit on so much when I had a bf. And no I don't try too hard. I try not to try at all. I just go and have fun with my friends. But that doesn't seem to work. I guess its no the place for me to meet people. Plus i'm not looking for any boyfriends. Just a good time.

No I don't believe I try hard when I go to clubs or bars, but it seems that women aren't the only ones that don't know how to send signals, because when a guy is into you, it is sometimes hard to tell. sometimes he has a real good conversation with you and then you guys go your separate ways. It's just hard to tell.

Answer 1

MAYBE THERE IS NO ONE ON YOUR LEVEL OUT THERE...SOUNDS LIKE YOU GOT THE RIGHT QUALATIES, MAYBE YOU NEED TO CHANGE THE SENE FIND MORE PEOPLE LIKE YOURSELF

Answer 2

It's beacuse you are NOT a s*ut. A guy can smell a s*ut a mile away (no pun intended). To be honest with you, you probably really don't want to attract the kind of guy that likes a s*ut.
If you are just looking for a one nighter, then dress a little more revealing, but don't over do it.
As for the girl thing, go to a gay club. If you dont find a chick to hang with then you will have a grerat time just having fun.

Answer 3

The bar scene is not for everyone. It is probably more the vibe you are sending out than your looks.

Deep down you need to ask yourself if trolling for strangers in a bar is something you really want. You may be coming off as the "good girl" which is Kryptonite to a bar player.

I always found that I met the best women outside of bars. Do the thing you like to do with friends and the men will follow.

Answer 4

Well, desperation is kind of a turn-off, and most people can spot it from a mile away. Maybe you're coming off as too easy and too eager to get picked up. Makes guys wonder what's wrong with you, which makes them want to stay away.

Try taking up a sport or joining a club or something. That way, you can meet guys without it being a "dating" situation.

Don't go clubbing to meet guys. Just go to have fun, and try and meet guys elsewhere. Obviously clubbing is not your best pick-up spot.

Answer 5

Do you want someone who only is interested in how slutty you dress? Bars and clubs are not really places to go to find quality relationships if that is what you are looking for.

If you are looking for one night stands, it still isn't a good place. Don't be someone who you are not just to get someone. Be yourself. Be proud of who you are and the right quality person will come along and sweep you off your feet. Stay true to yourself.

Answer 6

Personally I think fair-skin and dark hair is very sexy. I don't know, are you fat? If your fat-it is the reason why. Some guys are just shy, like me. I never hit on girls. I wait for them to come to me. Maybe you should try that. Show interest in a guy, and he'll probably show interest in you. BUT don't be a slut. No one likes a slut. If all you have to offer is sex, then once a man gets that from you he'll be done and wont call you. Just chill, and be patient.

Answer 7

I think the problem is white guys may feel out of their comfort zone hitting on a hispanic girl. It may take you actually going to talk to one of them to show them you're just the same as the white girls in the bar.

Answer 8

No. Do not ever dress sluttier unless you want a bad boy ganster to take you home. I think you should just wait for the right time and eventually someone will like your personality.

Answer 9

you're barking up the wrong tree. Maybe you want white guys but those white guys are simply into their own race. Why not die your hair blonde? Or how about going to somewhere more decent than a club?

Answer 10

*You've just been hit on*

Haha well you know maybe your just not at the right place at the right time, I'm pretty sure that there was guy who wanted to hit on you but was too scared and ended up not hitting on you.... So just wait it out for a little bit, you can't be so ugly that no one thinks your pretty. Maybe you are too pretty.

Good Luck!

Answer 11

It sounds like a runnaway truck, I say this because everybody sees you ,as they would a truck, you walk in and right away your sending signals danger, be careful watch out hey look at me!!!!. whats wrong with this picture? simple its NOT you. You are your own best pr person, how you walk talk smile act can do more for you than being a runnaway truck. slow down be yourself, be true to yourself you will be noticed god bless and live