E.g if they dont eat their veg they wont get desert.
2006-09-21 11:12:23 · 23 answers · asked by lonely as a cloud 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
the example you give ,
is not abuse,
but a part of education .
Trying to get a child to have good eating habits, ( a varied diet)
Is not blackmail or abuse
A little bit of bribary maybe, ,but nothing bad ;)
If somebody threatens to harm themselves,
if you don't comply with their wishes
( that is called black mail) which is a form of abuse
if somebody says they will tell ,somebody you care about ,
of a thing that you may have done, and do not wish it known .
Unless you give them money !!!
That is blackmail and abuse .
Black mail is despicable , abusive and illegal
never give in to it ......
2006-09-21 11:31:12 · answer #1 · answered by sweet-cookie 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Not having dessert if you do not eat your veg is not on the same scale as blackmail as the intent is for the child's own good even if its very misguided. I agree that its not a good idea to withhold food as a punishment!
I put everything on my children's plates and say they should leave what they dislike but it has to go on the plate. They always have pudding BUT if they are hungry after and ate very little THAT was dinner and there will be no snacks afterwards. Other than carrot sticks and apples!
I am not a fool who cooks endless meals for my children one after the other because they 'hate' each one. I do not allow them to fill up on junk. I am the adult and I understand nutrition and good manners. I want to pass these skills onto my children to do otherwise does them a disservice.
2006-09-22 15:38:50 · answer #2 · answered by Nicola H 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The word blackmail just sounds bad but it is in fact teaching them that there are consequences to everything in life.
If your boss says to you.. if you don't work you don't get paid.. that isn't blackmail, its fact. If you don't pay your bills, you have no power.. hahaha.. so if you don't eat your veggies then there is no desert.... same thing.
I do it with my son on occasion. I dont think it is harming him and I am sure he wont grow up to be a professional blackmailer. hahah.
2006-09-22 03:33:22 · answer #3 · answered by wickedly_funny66 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That isn't blackmail. Blackmail is a legal term. Not getting desert unless you eat your veggies is just teaching kids that they can't always have only what they want at the moment. It's good parenting.
2006-09-21 18:17:36 · answer #4 · answered by Will 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Lol, yes In certain situations it is but as far as your example about veggies and desert....' lol that particular statement isn't blackmail. It all depends on what kind of black mail if they are using profanity then yea its considered abuse, but it is (in my opinion) always harassment.( but what you said isn't). Its your child and its not blackmail to say if you dont eat your dinner your not gettin cake.... thats jus te4aching them, telling them and laying out rules and exspectations. But if someone is actually blackmailing you then turn them in. But as far as parentig, that is a good tactic, but its not really called black mail, just rules or"tellin it how it is"!! Good Luck!!:)
2006-09-21 19:31:35 · answer #5 · answered by Carly 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no it certainly isnt, and shouldnt be ever classed as something so awful as blackmail. a typical 4 yr old would LIVE off sweets treats and desserts if boundaries are not clearly set for them , so teaching them that they need to eat 'proper' food before they can have the treat stuff is only doing them good.
2006-09-22 05:41:34 · answer #6 · answered by lainy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with green eyed devil up above !!!! can we as parents not bring our children up as we see fit without being labelled as an abuser or blackmailers i would like to use the term persuasion and encouragement to eat their food or to preform to the best of their ability, before they get any treats from me and i tend not to reward this behaviour i like to surprise them with treats when they least expect it regerdless if they or good or bad
2006-09-21 18:48:41 · answer #7 · answered by vicky s 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's not blackmail. You have to have a set of rules and sticking by them is the only thing that will get you respect. If you give in a nd relent, they will know you're a pushover (I've learned that by bitter experience)
2006-09-21 18:18:18 · answer #8 · answered by helen p 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think your example is more like a bribe.
Blackmail isn't abuse. It's just a sneaky way of getting things done your way. You can abuse blackmail though.
2006-09-21 18:23:18 · answer #9 · answered by Nat 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not at all in this respect. This is a form of caring, nothing more. After all you want to be nice and slim, dont' you? If you keep on eating only the stuff you want you will never appreciate your dessert. You'll get sick of it.
2006-09-21 18:21:51 · answer #10 · answered by shortnotsilly 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋