There's a girl who i'm trying to get to know better. Unfortuanatly, shes normally a very shy person, and i have difficulty having a conversation with her. (shes not always like this) Any tips on getting to know her better?
2006-09-21 11:10:03 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
in middle school/begininning of highschool, i was pretty shy.. i'm in college now and i'm pretty outgoing actually... a lotta guys liked me.. but i was the same way... i was shy.. they tried to talk to me and i was really shy about it until i really got to know them and could be my real self around them.. because i at home i was crazyy!! lol.. try to make this girl feel as comfortable as possible... be trustworthy and honest so she can feel like she can tell you anything.. also, try to slip some jokes in your conversations too loosen up the tension.. .give her compliments so she feels comforted... also.. ask her to go out with a few of your friends and a few of hers.. make it a group thing.. she might feel more comfortable with some of her friends there.. go for dinner or something.. don't do a movie.. it's too quiet and you won't be able to talk to her... this is what my current boyfriend did in 10th grade and i still love him to death =] <3
best of luck! i know how hard it can be... i was like this girl too... she's just feeling a little nervous.. just make it clear that she can feel comfortable around you.. or just talk to her for a long time and tell her how you erally feel and say something like.. all i'm trying to do is make you feel comfortable.. because i like you and want to get to know you better.. guys think if they say that it'll sound desperate, but girls think it's adorable.. try it..
good luck hun.. i'm crossing my fingers for youu!
xox- amanda =]
2006-09-21 11:19:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
i might choose for A. The 'outer' reason being the fact that outgoing human beings on no account (on no account EVER) is conscious shy human beings like me. in addition to, (am i egocentric or what) a miles less constructive yet may well be random in front of close pals in all probability means as quickly as she enables you to into her convenience zone, you're the two a unique pal or a achievable substantial different. on a similar time as a B-ish form of female tolerates strangers in her convenience zone, and you will possibly on no account understand no count if she treats you as an acquaintance or a pal.(even while she seems on the brink of you, she could in simple terms be a sprint greater accommodating) the main present reason is the lack to conceal emotions. while speaking heart to heart, a B-ish female might have her procedures of hiding her actual feeling and appearing like she's extremely telling her actual emotions. An A-ish female might (blush turn away awkward silence etc) while attempting to conceal her emotions. the secret's to earn her have confidence. except a guy is a miles less comfortable and greater outgoing, he might in all probability understand what I speaking approximately.
2016-10-15 06:49:01 · answer #2 · answered by benner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similar situation a few months back. Their was this girl who was kind of like a new girl,(although she moved here last year). She was very quiet and kept to herself for the most part. I had art with her and decided to try and do what your doing. I went up to her one Friday at lunch at her table and said that I wanted to tell her something important. She says to me to write it down. So I write it down and give it to her that next Monday morning. She takes it sort of smiles and puts it in her purse. I take the smile as a good sign. So I give her some time to think about the letter. A day goes by and still no answer. I decide to give her some more time. A day quickly turned into a week and I decided to approach her and ask what she had to say. I opted to get a friend of mine to ask her instead,(because I was so nervous). He approached her and asked her. He came to me at the end of the day and told me what happened. To this day what happened still pisses me off. She acted like I never even gave her a letter at first! Then she finally said that she wasn't interested! So to boil the situation down to the essentials.
In my opinion don't bother. She is probably just a prude.
2006-09-21 11:15:42 · answer #3 · answered by Brodie Bruce 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try talking to her friends, see if they know of any specific things she may enjoy. Like a club she hangs out at or a favorite movie. Then you should strike up a conversation on the topics. Once you've gotten her to open up on one subject is should be easy to just flow into another topic.
2006-09-21 11:18:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes, talking is the best thing. learn what she likes and start up a conversation about that subject. or just go straight to her and ask her about her and what she likes and likes to do. it might be easier in a quiet, comfortable place where you both enjoy being.
2006-09-21 11:24:41 · answer #5 · answered by Nicole D 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
get her no and txt her, or call her. she will at list open up. Pls don't forget to keep the conversation short less u start saying things she won't like. form there if she meets you on the street it may be easier for her.
2006-09-21 11:13:17 · answer #6 · answered by diji 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask what she's into and what kind of movies or music she likes and stuff like that and just be yourself . Good luck. And just talk about anything , she'll come around.
2006-09-21 11:13:27 · answer #7 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to talk to her more until you boost her confidence around you. You might want to introduce her to some of your friends and her "shy" problem might go away.
2006-09-21 11:12:56 · answer #8 · answered by dacrzazn 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
have a lot to talk to her about....diff topics and Im sure she'll be able to relate and open up more
2006-09-21 11:11:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
probably in a place where you and her are comfortable.
2006-09-21 11:12:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋