I have been emailing, chatting, and conversing over the phone with a guy I met on a dating site, back in July 06. We seem to get along great but we live about 4-6hrs apart. He is starting to fall for me, asking me to relocate if we do hit it off in person. I want to believe him, so can men fall in love over the internet? He is in his 40's, and successful, but I dont know if I can trust he is being sincere, I have dealt with alot of jerks in the past, I dont want to put that on him. HELP PLEASE
2006-09-21 11:07:27 · 24 answers · asked by iluvluceee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
how will you ever know if you dont take a chance?
2006-09-21 11:09:44 · answer #1 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Oh yes.. you can fall in love on the internet. It's how I met and dated my husband. :)
As far as the sincerity.... consider getting a background check. They offer them all over the internet for 50 and under. It sounds like alot, but better you know whether he has a past.. and whether he will tell you about it when asked when he thinks you are none-the-wiser. It would have saved a friend of mine alot of heartache had she done that from the start.
Meet him in person... live with him a couple days on a vacation somewhere to see how well you click. Then give it several months, and make plans to move in.
You'll never know unless ya try.
2006-09-21 18:14:52 · answer #2 · answered by xadrianas6x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met my husband on the internet. I met him using Yahoo messenger. We lived 3 hours apart and we would try to squeeze in as much time on weekends as it was possible. He asked me if I would come live with him after we had known eachother for a while and I did. What helped I believe is the fact that my husband actually talked to me , It was not all about the physical attraction we felt. While we talked we could actually talk and that helped alot. We have been married for a year and a half and we have a baby together. Things could not be doing any better. word of advice. Please do not rush things. Take your time. Good luck !!
2006-09-21 18:14:38 · answer #3 · answered by Texas_tangent 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG I have been going through the exact same thing.It is very tricky because you really dont know whats true and whats not all you have to go on is what they say.I dont know if it would be successful or not.I think the best thing to do is actually meet in person,that way you can see his true colors.He can say and do anything online but in person is a diffrent story.I have also been conversing with someone 4 hrs from me in the same manner but i havent made a move either.You have to be careful I know this too men will say anything to get what they want.Good luck with that though
2006-09-21 18:12:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to get to know each other in person before you can really know how you feel about that person. If you haven't met, you can only have feelings for what you've made that person out to be based on conversations and letters. He may have made you out to be someone that you really aren't, and vice versa. You won't truly know until you spend some time together. Just be careful about the people you meet on the Internet. A lot of people are unable to form a healthy relationship in real life, but they can easily become a different person on the net. Once you meet him, you may find he's not your type... now that he has a lot of your personal information, it may be hard to get rid of him. Just be careful!
2006-09-21 18:18:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anna Belle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should meet him, but go with a friend/girfriend/lesbian partner, make it a group date. He can show you were he lives and his town/city/village/trailer park. The you come back home to your town/city/village/trailer park and discuss with your friend/girfriend/lesbian partner what does she thinks of him.
True love is patience. No need to rush in. The distance is not that bad, you should go over or he should come over every other week/once a month/whenever you are horny. After a few trips you could see whether it will work or not.
2006-09-21 18:13:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should meet him first so if you do that decide to meet at a public place and bring along a friend or two. That way you can be safe and make sure he gets your friends' approval because sometimes friends see things that you don't about guys. And I don't think you should listen to what he says because you don't really KNOW HIM KNOW HIM, you only know him from the Internet you don't know if he's lying or not. (No offense)
2006-09-21 18:11:30 · answer #7 · answered by michelleee♥ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes,but unfortunately the personality of people on the phone or the internet is different from the real one,on chatting we think before we write then we confirm before we send ,you know when u write something then delete it,but on face to face you dont have time to think like that on chatting .and good luck
2006-09-21 18:13:25 · answer #8 · answered by rock harder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is possible. I fell in love with someone on the internet . We talked for 3 or 4 months....met....hit it off....kept talking and meeting for a year. Everything was great.....
2006-09-21 18:12:38 · answer #9 · answered by greeneyes 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have known a lot of people that fall in love on the internet. They sometimes fall apart easily. It actually depends on the situation.You have to think. "Is this the guy I'm gonna spend the rest of my life and be happy with".
2006-09-21 18:11:10 · answer #10 · answered by dacrzazn 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can say for me it did turn out great.. I have been married to my online friend for 3years... I have a question for you, when you meet someone at a club or church do you really know them... Just because you see people in person doesn't mean you can trust them... I met my first husband at a club after we were married he showed me thee other side of himself.. so go with your heart... be careful no matter what you do..
2006-09-21 18:14:58 · answer #11 · answered by kimberly_r_60429 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋