OK, I haven't got my end away for a fair few years now. I can't seem to attract a girl, despite the fact I'm smart, funny and reasonably good-looking. Should I just give the hope of finding the woman of my dreams and live a permenantly single life?
P.S. "be patient" is not a valid answer. I've been patient for quite a while now and my patience has run a bit thin.
2006-09-21 11:04:33 · 24 answers · asked by Knight-wing 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes....you should....and send the women you turn down my way...
2006-09-21 11:06:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you even consider the reason your not finding the right girl or a girl at all is because of your expectations? Did you even think the problem could be with you and not the woman? If you haven't considered these questions you should. And no don't ever give up on love it is something special that everyone is entitled to you just haven't found the one yet. You need to keep searching, maybe your just not looking in the right places.
2006-09-21 11:23:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
by taking a vow of celibacy, i think you're giving up all hope. why settle for being single if that's not what you want or deserve (if you are the nice guy you say you are)?? i realize your patience has run a bit thin, but take the extra mile - go farther and faster when everyone else who has been in your position has stopped trying.
are there different ways of finding a girl that you haven't looked into yet? have you gotten advice from friends or family that could be beneficial to you?
by taking a vow of celibacy, you're ignoring what could be yours in the future. you're shutting off possibility and shutting yourself out completely. even if you meet a really wonderful girl - the girl of your dreams, are you suddenly going to break your vow? b/c if you're going to break it, then why make one?
good luck and i hope you find her :)
2006-09-21 11:12:20 · answer #3 · answered by mighty_power7 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider that you may be doing somthing wrong. Maybe the way you talk to girls, even if you think you are being nice or if you think you are whitty or funny. Maybe you are not, and you keep doing the same things wrong, or keep going to or putting yourself in the wrong places. Ask a friend (possibly a girl) what they think, and tell them to be brutaly honest.
Giving up is usualy an excuse for failure. What ever you do dont give up.
I know what you mean about being patient but what else can you do.
Good luck.
2006-09-21 11:38:37 · answer #4 · answered by UK Patrick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude---here it is, as straight up as I can give it too you.There is something that you are doing that is a little thing that is driving girls crazy in all the wrong ways. Point in case: I met this guy---good looking, funny, his lifestyle was good, lots in common, gets along with my friends and vice versa. I thought he might be something good. One of my buddies told me that he was great and she just couldn't understand why he wasn't married. I CAN! He is so negative when he doesn't get things just the way he thinks they ought to be. It didn't happen that often, but when it did he would be in a funk for a week. The rest of the world didn't matter to him. It drove me nuts! It was only something that you saw after you got close. I told him that he was so sweet, but that I didn't feel the chemistry, could we be friends? All that to say this---Dude, there is some little something like that. Ask someone that you trust to tell you what it is. Don't get mad, just hang in there. Fix it and try again at this love thing. Best of luck!
2006-09-21 11:19:06 · answer #5 · answered by Stefanie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being single has its advantages, and if done for spiritual reasons I've been told that it can be very enjoyable. Don't plan to remain single forever just because you are having trouble with relationships -- that is a bad reason, and I think that you will hate yourself for it.
Maybe you are having trouble finding a girlfriend because you give off a desperate vibe that scares women off. Did you ever notice that once you have a girlfriend, all of the girls seem interested in you all of a sudden? It is probably because you do not seem needy and nervous around women anymore because the pressure to find a date is off of your mind once you have someone.
When you talk to a girl, act as if you are indifferent as to whether she likes you or not (after all, there are more fish in the sea besides her) -- it comes across as confidence, and confidence is attractive.
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Speaking of confidence, if you really want a relationship, then lay off of the sex until marriage. You'll have the rest of your life to do it anyway, and if you are not trying to pressure her to sleep with her all of the time, then you will be more laid back and less needy.
2006-09-21 11:15:58 · answer #6 · answered by Randy G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a theory that you don't find anything when you are looking for it and if you are desperate it shows and puts people off or attracts the wrong people. where are you going to meet this girl why not try taking up a hobby or evening class which may be of interest to both men and woman then who knows you will be more relaxed and have something in common to talk about and can get to know each other.
2006-09-21 11:09:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please do, and stick to it!!! What the world needs less of is people like you! Why would you want to procreate another being who may inherit your lack of lust for life and the pathetic attitude you have towards yourself and living?
Woman of your dreams? Did you read this before contaminating this forum with your whining? There is no such thing as the 'woman of your dreams'. Why do you think it's called a dream?
You have to be proactive! Get out and look! Quit wallowing in your own self-pity and get a life!
2006-09-21 11:16:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem with people is that they always look for someone to become their number 1. Stop looking all the time, it's desperate. Love will find you and if it doesn't try eharmony.com it might get you somewhere. Let the woman find you or try online. You can be celibant until you get married or find the right one. Keep up hope!
2006-09-21 11:19:56 · answer #9 · answered by Angelbub 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever lost something before ? remember the last time you lost something you couldn't find it and when you stopped looking it was right next to you.
It is the same in business when you really need work and desperate you wont get any work , when you have lots of work the phone keeps ringing people pick up the way you act trust me.
2006-09-21 11:14:11 · answer #10 · answered by simjam31 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have taken a vow of celibacy but because I pick the wrong guys! so, I am holding out for the right guy.I have been celibate for four years in October. It has actually been a spiritual experience for me, I have learned alot about myself and others-it really opens your mind when you don't have sex to contend with.
2006-09-21 11:09:46 · answer #11 · answered by angelofdreams19881 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋