Im very concerned about something. I took a vow of abstinence because I felt that I should wait for the right person. But how will I know when it's "okay" to make love. What if no matter when you have inner course no matter what reason, its still consitered a sin? Please help me out here, I am sum-what religous I attened church regulary every saturday and sunday. I've read the bible and believe in Jesus as the one saviour. I just dont feel I know anything anymore. I apreicate all responses, thank you.
2006-09-21 10:38:41 · 15 answers · asked by irisiris4evr 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Intercourse is for those who are married, and in a loving relationship. It is God's will for us to wait until such time.
Ask the Lord for a husband who is right for you.
Seek ye first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added unto you.
2006-09-21 10:42:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not feel lonely if you do not 'know everything anymore'. I will apparently be a contrarian here. As a Christian, I present the following info to you, and you make the decision, and answer to God either way.
When David had a child (which died soon thereafter) via Bathsheba, obviously they had sex. Both parties were married to other parties at that time. The Bible gives no indication of it being rape. David was chastised. However, notice that they were not stoned as was required by law for adulterers there at that time.
Could it be that Bathsheba was obeying the king (King David) by having sex with him? (Do guys ever proposition gals for sex? ha ha)
If that was her attitude at that time, would she be 'not guilty' of adultery? Man may police the outward appearances (who, what, when, where, how) but God looks on the heart (why). 1 Samuel 16:7. Your 'why' is between you and God.
2006-09-21 11:06:08 · answer #2 · answered by jefferyspringer57@sbcglobal.net 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to feel like a preacher because I am far from it, but I am a christian and I believe in absolutely no sex or intercourse until marriage. It even states in the bible that in my terms making out for a period of time is wrong because it can lead to other things. I have been know to do that though. There is a book I read don't date naked. It was very helpful because it talk about relationships and how do you know if your with the write person and some questions you have to ask your self. If you need to talk more or want to know the questions from the book please feel free to email me and I will try to help.
2006-09-21 13:11:38 · answer #3 · answered by Fluffy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the easy answer. According to the Bible, sex before marriage is wrong. If you believe the Bible, wait until you are married and then you will be free of your vow.
On a practical side, how many people actually do that anymore? I commend you for making this decision, and I pray that you will hold to it. The answer is that once you get married, you can know that you have a wonderful field to play in. Enjoy!
2006-09-21 10:59:06 · answer #4 · answered by Guvo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are concerned about your sex being okay with the bible, it's only allowed when you're married and being open to the possibility of a baby, and in this case, it is definitely not a sin and could be considered a sin NOT to have sex. You should wait for the right person: your husband. Good job - you made a good decision. I will pray for you to stick with it.
2006-09-21 10:54:23 · answer #5 · answered by Hopeful Poster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have what you've been taught in church and through the scriptures not been clear on this?
Most Christians will tell you (and I agree) that the right time is after you are married. But I suggest that you pray for yourself to God, and ask Him, so you can know for sure in your own heart.
good luck!
2006-09-21 10:43:00 · answer #6 · answered by daisyk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Praise God that our relationship with Him is not based on how we feel. Sexual intercourse is not a sin after marriage, however , before marriage, it is sin. There is one religious group that believes that intercourse for any other reason that having children is wrong. Fortunately, they have no scripture to back that up.
2006-09-21 10:45:02 · answer #7 · answered by loufedalis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once you figure out that it's intercourse and not "inner course" i think you'll be a step closer to knowing. you most likely shouldn't do something if you don't know the correct word for it. and.... if you're so worried, just wait until you're married. that'll clear things up a bit.
2006-09-21 10:48:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh for goodness sakes! Wait till you fall in love and get married, then you won't have anything to worry about.
2006-09-21 10:42:14 · answer #9 · answered by Red neck 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come now, and let us REASON.
Pst - perfect love(God) hath no fear.
REASON given: "fear hath torment".
The God of all comfort (no discomfort)?
The God of all grace (no law law at all)?
Vow(Oath, Swear): Swear(vow, oath) not!
Only things to abstain from are ordinances.
Touch not, taste not, handle not ordinances.
REASON given: "all perish" with the U-sing.
Another REASON given: evil concupiscence.
Evidently the be-cause of it, is "another law".
http://www.godshew.org/Concupiscence.htm
http://www.godshew.org/AnotherLaw.htm
Our Father, deliver us from "evil": Mt 6:13
We are delivered from the "law": Rom 7:6
What remaineth is y(our) awareness of it.
The "grace" of our Lord Jesus Christ with you all. Amen.
2006-09-21 10:51:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋