Whenever i meet a guy they ask if i want to go out for a meal somewhere, then they never see me again. I hate the thought of eating in front of them and seeing them eat. This guy wanted to take me out for a meal and asked where a wanted to go and I said McDonalds as a joke, i tried to avoid the subject! I think eating should be done behind closed doors lol. You don't look the most sexyiest when your eating and your not gonna want to go back to his place with a bloated belly! Does anyone feel the same, maybe shy of eating in front of people?
2006-09-21 10:37:27 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was like that, and still am kind of. My daughter's boyfriend was shy about eating in front of her at first. She thought he was just a very light eater.
Instead of a meal, maybe suggest coffee or something.
2006-09-21 10:40:48 · answer #1 · answered by ginger 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I too understand where you are coming from with this. Im really shy anyway and I always feel weird eating infront of guys. I think it is a shyness type of thing.
I dont think it should be done behind closed doors but should be done at a stage where you feel comfy. So maybe a bit on into the relationship, eating is such a natural thing to do tho, so its sometimes hard for ppl to understand where you are coming from.
It might seem a bit weird but maybe try experiementing with friends who are close and go out for meals or eat at home and pretend someone is there, and see how you act and if you can get over shyness.
Good luck x
2006-09-21 10:47:08 · answer #2 · answered by passionate_angel101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it the actual eating that bothers you or is it more general nerves about the date? I know its easy to say in theory that the guy will be just as nervous too and worried about getting something stuck in his teeth or burping or something else a bit embarrasing but in reality its probably the truth. Why not agree to go but pick places you know have food you like so you'll definately find something on the menu to suit you? It might sound harsh but i really don't think its anything to do with how you eat that means you don't get a second date... dating is about finding someone you click with and you've gotta have meals/dates with a lot of people before you find that someone special. More seriously, if you are finding a problem eating in public 'at all' then perhaps you should see a doctor, might be some kind of anxiety disorder that you need to get a bit of help for.
2006-09-21 10:42:18 · answer #3 · answered by seaside_girl_03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you go through life you will be faced with many occasions when you will have to eat in front of other people - even in front of total strangers!
So, in order to overcome your 'phobia', why not go with a girl friend to a coffee shop and order a drink each. Then sit and chat with your friend as you drink. Since you won't be eating, then you should be able to manage this without too much trouble. And don't be concerned about the people around you - they'll be too busy eating and drinking their own items to bother about you.
Repeat this exercise on another day, but this time order a Danish pastry (or something similar and easily eaten). Again sit and chat away with your friend while consuming your food and drink.
[A tip for preventing yourself looking 'less than sexy' while eating the Danish would be to use a knife to cut it into small pieces, then eat each piece with a fork. You'd look quite elegant!]
After these preliminary forays, you are now ready for the big test!
This time order something like a soup and roll, or a baked potato and filling. Now while you are eating this more substantial meal you'll also be aware of your friend eating hers - but, with luck, you won't be put of too much. You'll still be able to chat away and before you know it you will have overcome your worries about eating in public.
Incidentally, if you want to avoid feeling 'bloated' when you are with a boyfriend, choose the lighter items off the menu and leave some on the side of your plate.
Anyway, I hope you succeed in overcoming your dislike of 'public eating', otherwise you will starve if you have to use a company canteen, or a college refrectory!
2006-09-21 11:01:52 · answer #4 · answered by avian 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know eating in front of a guy you like can be fun too..! and especially behind closed doors. if everyone was out in the open all the time, would you never eat? when you have your next meal, go and sit in front of a mirror and try different ways of chewing your food, if you do go out to eat and you get a little lettuce n mayo miss your mouth, and someone looks, just smile say "whoops" and carry on eating.
2006-09-21 11:48:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my gosh! I thought I was the only one! I am going to a party next Saturday night where I will be meeting 24 new people and just the thought of meeting all of those people is freaking me out. The thought of eating in front of them is ABSOLUTELY out of the question! Thank goodness it's only appetizers/cocktails! I really want to go, so I'm hoping I can blend in and no one will notice that I'm not eating. I wish I had an answer to your (and my) dilemma! Good luck overcoming it!
2006-09-21 10:47:02 · answer #6 · answered by Katie Mac 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself if you feel this way because of etiquette or manners expected, or for whatever reason in your past you had a bad experience eating with someone. If it's etiquette you may be able to take a class, perhaps at a local college.
Eating a meal with someone can be a very intimate activity and this fear you have may be worth trying to overcome.
I hope this helps.
2006-09-21 10:46:51 · answer #7 · answered by Hayseedless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be really shy of eating in front of people but now (many years later) eating out has become a major part of my social life, including dating - you have to put yourself into the situation to become more comfortable with it and it just takes time, also, your belly won't be as bloated as you think - his will be exactly te same.
2006-09-21 11:11:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is more common than you think. Next time you go out with someone go somewhere that does not involve food ( eating), see a film, go for a walk, once you get to know the other person you will be more comfortable with them, and perhaps trust them enough to say how you feel !!
2006-09-21 10:44:56 · answer #9 · answered by Dolly Blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you ever seen the tv show "would like to meet". they always start and end the show with couples having a meal together and encourage feeding eachother. if the experts think its a good idea to eat with a new date, who are we to argue ?. i know a girl that doesn't like eating in front of her boyfriend. just order food that is easy to eat if its the mess you're worried about. no spaghetti or spare ribs in sticky sauce and i'm sure any guy that likes you enough to ask you out would probably find your problem quite cute.
2006-09-21 11:26:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋