I work with a women who's grandson Is into all kinds of trouble and is abuse to his father and his father's fiance. He also steals and damages property of just about anyone he is not scared of anything. They feel they have tried everything even to the extent of calling the cops when he steals or damages somthing but he doesn't care. He actually hit the Finace in the head with a lunch box because he had drawn all over his brand new book bag she said that he was not going to carry it to school that day cause he had damaged it and put his thing is a plastic bag he then hit her in the head with his lunch box. He is diagnosed ADD and ADHD.
He takes medicine which they say seems to calm him some at school but he is still horrible to his teachers and classmates. I am not sure if there is anything i need to include if so just ask.
2006-09-21 10:12:32 · 18 answers · asked by SiberianHusky_8 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
you are so far removed from this child I don't think there is anything you can do. Just be there for your friend when her grandson ends up in juvenile detention
2006-09-21 22:35:14 · answer #1 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There probably isn't a boot camp for a little kid that young.
What that kid's father and her girlfriend need to do is to set up an appointment with a family therapist, and all three of them need to go. A therapist can maybe offer them some guidance about dealing with what is going on, which is unacceptable; but in my opinion, I don't really understand why - if the father of this kid has a kid with such problems - there has to be the girlfriend around and in the picture. I think the girlfriend should be someone the father sees outside of the home and away from the kid.
If this kid is too out of control there is the chance that the state's child-services agency may get involved and try to set up some kind of plan for the father to see if he can manage the ADHD kid better. Children sometimes end up in foster homes when they are so out-of-control their parents don't know what to do.
Those boot camps are very controversial, and kids older than this kid are sometimes damaged (or worse) at them.
2006-09-21 17:12:47 · answer #2 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all the medicine may calm him but it will not change his character,
perhaps some counselling combined with discipline,you,the father and the stepmom all need to be on the same page,he cannot feel that he can play any of you against the other one.he has to know that despite any issues he has,bad behaviour has consequenses,for instance if there are problems in school you take priviledges like video games,tv,outings etc.
make sure he is involved in some sort of sport to vent the extra energy,perhaps karate.
take away television that is violent etc.what one feeds on is what they are.
you of course may have tried everything but if you are really at the end,eckerd drug has a great program that is a boot camp,i know someone it did wonders for.
contact the dept of social services,but do remember that all these things are kept on record and can affect him later.
counselling through a pastor or even him having a mentor could do alot of good.
nothing beats old fashoined punishment but there may be issues that have led up to this.
If he is hitting the stepmom perhaps there needs to be a united fron t fro the rest of the family that he is to respect her ad that she is one of his parents and that type of behaviour will not be tolerated.
I hope this all works out for you
2006-09-21 16:42:44 · answer #3 · answered by poematics 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BEAT HIS A$$!!!!!!! Take everything he has away, toys, tv, everything. Leave him 2 outfits the uglyest and dorkiest he has 1 pair of shoes, so on. Limit what he does to eat ,sleep ,school , nothing else. he stays in his room if he's home and he does all the house chores. The boy will change! Also look into a very low sugar diet, it is proven to help with behavior. I have lived some of their problems, these things work.
2006-09-21 10:21:29 · answer #4 · answered by jhallmom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I contacted the sherriffs dept in our area and they had a program for children here. It was called the just program.
My daughter was 10 when she went, it straightened her up for awhile but she is 15 now and once again starting to show her butt.
What people dont realize is that they take the children into the jail and show them how they live and also they had an inmate talk to them.
2006-09-21 14:59:35 · answer #5 · answered by mamaac43 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most states in the union have plans to help parents of low income to be able to send their kids to boot camp. All you got to do is call the local government for a list and a referral.
2006-09-21 10:21:15 · answer #6 · answered by GUILLERMO U 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with Branches...
Wheres his mom. And now dad's getting married again??
Dad's attention should be on the boy if he's having such a hard time, not on Dads sex life... Good Grief!
The boy is acting out for attention. Probably starved for it. Of course the boy doesn't care, who cares about him! He needs to be in therapy with Dad and Dad needs to focus on his son.
Honestly, people, when did kids become so inimportant that we drug them and make them so disposable! Look at the story from the kids perspective.
2006-09-23 06:26:09 · answer #7 · answered by my-kids-mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to dr. it sounds like the meds that he takes are not helping.
Also were is the mother? If divource is there he could be blamin himself and thinks that if he acts up that parents will get back together.
2006-09-21 15:59:40 · answer #8 · answered by dac39jjc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start saving! you can use a funding program, and ask the people this kid abuses for money to go to boot camp! super nanny is also a good idea!
2006-09-21 10:17:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think your grandson needs to be put in a boot camp cos when its finished he might come out the same way. i think he just needs a swift kick in the butt.
2006-09-21 10:17:01 · answer #10 · answered by sunshiny93702 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋