smoke cigarettes because he is afraid people will think I am a s l u t. I don't want to change...I like the way I dress and I do not want to stop smoking cigarettes right now...and I like him, what should I do?
2006-09-21 09:53:50 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Well talk to him tell him you will change but it will not be overnight.. They way you are now attracted him in the first place... but i understand about dressing trashy he does not want any other guys to look at you.. at least compromise with him in that part...
2006-09-21 09:56:52 · answer #1 · answered by Clints_wench 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well you might need to tone it down just a little bit for him.. Maybe he doesn't want his girl dressing provacative all the time, and it might draw too much attention from other guys....If u want to dress sexy at a club I dont think anything is wrong with that.. But just not ALL the time 24-7...As for smoking cigarettes tell him that it's just not going to be that easy, that u just can't stop cold turkey.. Let him know that you will quit but just not right now but instead you will cut down on the number of cigarettes that you smoke.....I'm a smoker and I know what you feel....
2006-09-21 10:00:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't have to answer this, but does your man happen to be a christian, a straight-edger, or a conservative person who values chastity? because if he is, then my first suggestion is to respect his opinion because that is essential if you want to continue in this relationship.
guys are easily turned on by sight--more than you can imagine. a millisecond of the tv screen flashing or a glimpse of a bad ad and they're gone. if he doesn't want you to dress sexy, it's for your own good. first, he's concerned about your safety because he loves you. second, if he happens to fall into one of the three categories i mentioned, if you start dressing according to his definition of "modest" you are showing him respect and making it easier for him to not trespass the boundaries he ought not to cross. this is important if you want to keep him.
if you feel that this is unfair, invite him out for coffee and talk. make an agreement that you both get to have your say on the subject. feel free to ask that he gives you the chance to talk uninterruptedly, but when it's his turn to talk, listen and give him undivided attention. resist the temptation to correct him when he says something that you don't feel is right--he doesn't need your reaction, he just needs you to listen. then when he's done with making his point and you're done absorbing what he really means to say, you have your turn to speak up. this process of listening and giving each other uninterrupted chances to talk really sorts out a lot of knots.
finally, come to a common ground. try to see the issue from his point of view and resolve to help him find a solution to the problem. if you do this, he is also more likely to understand you better and also find a solution to whatever you're hung up about.
2006-09-21 12:51:53 · answer #3 · answered by Mizz G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at the start, a s lut would not merely gown overly provocative. they in many circumstances fulfill their duties as a s lut, which could advise they sleep with various adult males, yet do not receives a fee. is this his image of you? If he's calling you one, then he's implying you sleep with different adult males, which i'm confident you do not. Smoking cigarettes is only a foul habit. It would not positioned you in a particular team of people except for 'those who smoke'. He desires to modify his attitude and understand in case you want dressing a particular way, bypass ahead. in case you smoke cigarettes bypass ahead, even with the reality that i ought to assert supply up with them before you bypass too far. If he thinks you're dressing too provocative, then per chance there's a particular outfit you decide on to positioned on that he thinks is irrelevant. i ought to elevate the placement with him and communicate issues over.
2016-11-23 13:36:35 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means that he loves so much and his concern about your health and what the people say.He just want you to be respected by others.You need to talk with him about what you want to do.About not to stop smoking or change the way you dress.Its good that you and the guy you dated needs to agree or disagree about things that will make your relationship better.
2006-09-21 10:29:03 · answer #5 · answered by hopeless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you don't have to change for anyone at anytime. He knew the way you were when you started dating so tell him to get with the program and shut up. Howeve,r you shouldn't smoke--it's bad for your OWN health.
2006-09-21 09:58:15 · answer #6 · answered by Kookoo Bananas 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have to change who you are to please him, eventually you won't be happy. The realtionship is new, and it's genarally good during that time. But I think he's really looking for a totally different "type". Just seems like you should move on to me. I know you really like him, but there's alot of men out there. Why settle for someone who is embarrased of you?
2006-09-21 09:59:46 · answer #7 · answered by kntrygrl38 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't respect his wishes, then you deal with the consequences. The things he wants you to change are obviously for the better!
2006-09-22 03:23:34 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit smoking woman! Tell him to help you out with that.
2006-09-21 09:55:35 · answer #9 · answered by savio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds a bit superficial and possibly controlling. I don't know the whole story but that's the impression I get......I could be wrong.
2006-09-21 09:56:17 · answer #10 · answered by PaganPoetess 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋