Maybe I'm just bitter from my break up but it just seems like such a waste to love someone for years only to have them leave you. I can't sleep, I barely eat. I just feel so crappy. I don't have anyone to talk to so I'm whining to you guys. Sorry. Be kind okay?
2006-09-21 09:52:20 · 7 answers · asked by lovelee1 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to understand that there's no way you love someone and not experience pain. I mean I won't call it a waste to have loved someone for so many years. I mean that love brought you happiness, you had a partner, someone you could trust. Unfortunately it just wasn't met to be. You need to understand that's how things are in life, but that doesn't mean you will never love another guy the same way or even more and remain with that guy for the rest of your life. It's the people that you love the most that you experience the most pain with...for example, I love my husband to death, and he has messed up alot ...and has hurt me but I need to understand that he's not perfect and that there's no way that two people who are in love never experience pain together....so keep your head up and don't feel that love is a waste, because you'll miss out a lot!!! Just understand that things happen a reason...sometimes we don't understand them right away but later you'll understand it...Give it sometime and when you're ready to start loving again you'll know. Don't give up girl.......!
2006-09-21 10:03:11 · answer #1 · answered by Maria A 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Loving is a lesson that you need to think about. What you learn along the way makes you stronger. Before "him" you were alone right maybe brothers & sisters but you were alone. So you had some great times with one man now he's gone don't look at it as a bad thing look at it like. it happened now and not after you "may" have gotten married. See it as the one that left opens the door for someone better. I know it hurts when you break-up with someone you love or think you love, but the world goes on and you must also. Move on although he may still b in your heart live your life to the fullest. have Fun. Don't rush into any other relationships too soon either you will need time to collect your thoughts and know what to look for in your next boyfriend. Good Luck * dont feel too bad. :)
2006-09-21 17:00:53 · answer #2 · answered by ead824 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Lovelee I agree with you ,I have been married now my second time and still get hurt ,this marriage we love well I know my feelings ,my hubby cheated 2 years ago I forgave him but it was hard ,and now 7 months ago I find out he had been using cocaine for along time so I have been dealing with this now for a year ,If I was not married I would have left along time ago ,but I was stupid ,now he lost his job because of drugs and I and my kids have to suffer as well .I am truely sorry for you I do know how you feel almost like a death pain ,im so so sorry .here is my new way of thinking if I do end this realtionship .TO NEVER LOVE ENOUGH TO KEEP ME FROM LEAVING !!!!good luck to you I know your heart is broken ,try to stay busy and around friends even if you dont want to keep busy it will help .
2006-09-21 17:04:54 · answer #3 · answered by Holly 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love hurts because we have to open ourselves up. We have to allow ourselves to be vulnerable and many time that leaves us open to being hurt. Love is worth it though even when it hurts so badly. We can take the pain and turn it into a learning experience so we know what to avoid the next time around. The pain will lessen with time. Best wishes.
2006-09-21 17:00:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Thats love for you. Can there be any highs without lows. My guess is you will heal yourself and come back stronger and wiser. I think looking back I have learned more from my heartbreaks then every year of school put together
2006-09-21 17:02:10 · answer #5 · answered by Skiball 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's natural. I am in the same boat and take my frustration out at the gym. At least the next time he sees me i will be ultra fine.
2006-09-21 16:55:58 · answer #6 · answered by Madam SupaStar 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Love is pain.
2006-09-21 17:38:53 · answer #7 · answered by love me like me hate me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋