Can i ever find a man who is perfect for me?

Question

It seems that all of the guys i have dated have being willing to give up on our relationships as soon a problem comes along and not to work on it.

I want a guy who is going to love me no matter what. A man who will fight for me and do anything to keep me, who will never give up trying to find a solution.

Is this too much to ask for?

Answer 1

I do think you might be a little demanding wanting all those things. Do you really mean you want a man who will carry on loving you and adoring you, in spite of ANYTHING you might do? Yes, I honestly think you are asking too much. You would be better off with an honest man who will love you devotedly but not put up with bad behaviour on your part, any more than you would put up with it from him. A man who would grieve to lose you but would ultimately respect your right to choose whether or not to be with him, even if he would never forget you.

In a nutshell, I think a woman is only entitled to expect a man to be perfect if she can be perfect herself and that's a heavy burden for both. Tolerance, kindness and compassion are better than perfection any day.

Answer 2

No...it's not too much to ask for as long as you are willing to do the same for a guy. Don't be a double-standard.

BTW, change up your dating style. Chances are you are overlooking the good guys out there for unknown reasons (I'm going to guess the level of physical attractiveness is the main factor here, but I may be wrong). But don't ever expect more from someone that you think someone should expect from you. If you do, you are selfish and deserve a world of pain that you bring on yourself. But just keep looking. And if you are single...so what? Some of the greatest contributors to this world were single. There is more to life than dating someone.

Answer 3

To some the answer is yes..yes its too much to ask! But dont you let yourself believe it because only you know that you deserve that guy who will treat you right and dont believe in anything but that! And there is lots of guys who are willing to work on relationships the problem with that is its a fact that guys take way longer to mature than women. Guys dont want to settle down right away they are affraid of comment and run from it at the frist sign. But not all men are like this. You need to date a guy who is a little older than you, younger guys are just not grown up yet and they know it. A 19 girl has the same mature level as a 24 year old. And a 19 year old boy has the same mature level as a 15 year old girl. Its really crazy. You need to stop looking for a long term relationship and focus on just that specail guy who seems right for you than once you got him, wait it out till your first fight and if he runs like the rest than let it be, hes not worth chaseing after and be glad you didnt waste any more time with him than you did, and be happy you are still young and you will find that guy, even if you have to pick your way through and throw out all those bad apples. There are good ones, i promise!

Answer 4

Angel K, it isn't too much to ask for at all!! There are guys out there who will take you for who you are, yet appreciate you in the way you ought to be appreciated. It's no less than you deserve. You sound like a good woman, so I firmly believe it. But as you know, there is no such thing as 'perfect' - but this is not to say that a guy who really loves you won't fight for you - he will!! : )

But gosh, what you've just said under your question is EXACTLY how I am feeling at this moment in time. For me, I feel lost and depleted by having lost the only one person I did truly love, and she was my first too. I can't see myself loving like this again. I tried really hard to fight to keep it going for the simple fact I thought it was worth fighting for. It struck me that when you love someone so much you will do what you can at all costs, to a point where your love for this person becomes unconditional, and you do what it takes to move forward together. You do everything in your power to ensure you can go on, and if it felt right between you, you WILL try to exhaust all possibilities.

As in my case, maybe the timing for the two of you isn't right, from the two of you being at different stages of your life perhaps, or just maybe the love on both sides is not as strong as it was, as one thought. If this is the case, it is hard, but maybe it is time to let go. I've felt all this at first hand, but still live in hope that something will happen, from reading what I think are hopefully the right signs.

So from all this, I for one would happily assure you that there are people out there who will do this in order to keep the love going, and you will find it does happen, one day. I did. And when you do, the outcomes of it will reward you in many ways, I'm sure!! Just know when it is time to let go.

Good luck!! x

Answer 5

they are out there but you have to catch them young and then keep them away from old men that talk about how they cheated.

when I went in the military I never thought I would cheat but every married guy talked about it like it was something acceptable in the military. Everyone seemed to do it except for the overly religious ones.

I went to Thailand and the women were cheating on their husbands and most all the married guys were having their fun too. Same way in Korea.

If I hadn't gome in the military and had all there opportunities so far away from home I might have never slept with more than one woman.

Answer 6

Omg! and HONEY you will NEVER EVER find one there!
Been there and done it 3 times...and still ..and NONE of them were perfect!!
Where did you ever get the idea a MAN is perfect? LOL NO ONE is perfect! NOT even US women! LOL
BE your self !!! and Don't just date one guy play the field so to speak! and let it HAPPEN, don't even TRY it just doesn't work that way! the saying goes..and it's TRUE! ALL WILL COME TO THE ONE WHO WILL WAIT!

Answer 7

Stop looking and trying so hard. Concentrate on you and what makes you happy, he will find you when you are happy with yourself and know what you want. Rely on no-one but yourself to solve problems cos that will then give you the confidence you need to see you through life and relationships. Keep smiling and take care x

Answer 8

I just dont think that you have found the right person yet chick.

A good man whos commited to making the relationship work will commit to sorting problems.

Hang in there, search for mr right x

Answer 9

We don't have much of an attention span. What were you saying? I wasn't paying any attention, LOL! Plus, you are right, we don't want to work on relationships, we just keep looking until we find someone who will accept us, warts and all. Maybe lower your standards and accept mediocrity, like the rest of us.

Answer 10

Well, there is no perfect man but you deserve to be happy. Keep your head up and understand that you will have to kiss some frogs before you get your prince. I know I am on frog number 101 and counting.