Your man was still friends with an ex who has feeling for him ? Would you be mad that they keep in contact ?
2006-09-21 09:22:18 · 41 answers · asked by ♥ Army Wife ♥ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Our relationship is strong but this girl tells him she still has feelings for him etc. I think that is very rude and when I talked to him about it , it only caused an arguement. I don't want any more problems because I feel its petty but I wanted to know how anyone else would feel if they were in the same situation. No need for rude comments either, I have no time for ignorant ppl.
2006-09-21 09:27:04 · update #1
I asked him how he felt about her and he said he has no feeings 4 her but he's a man ad he probably said that so I won't get upset with him. She did cross the line with an email she sent him and I asked him to stop talking to her and it caused a big arguement between me and him. I feel he's putting her first .
2006-09-21 09:32:30 · update #2
now he's upset with me because i started this post
2006-09-21 09:40:46 · update #3
I would be mad. I think its inappropriate. Recently an ex girlfriend of my husbands e-mailed him randomly. He was completely upfront with me about it and politely e-mailed her back and told her he was married and not interested in being friends (or anything else) with her again. It still made me mad. Not at him, but at her for going after a married man (my man!).
Tell your boyfriend that even though you trust him completely that it bothers you. Tell him you trust him, but not her and all the other reasons why this doesn't feel right to you. He should always choose your relationship over one with another woman.
2006-09-21 09:27:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, especially if you are over 21. Are you aboslutely sure that she has feelings for him?
If yes then...
I would think that either my boyfriend is keeping his options open by stringing her along.
or
Most people over 21 know that if someone has feelings for you which you cannot reciprocate you have to put some distance betwenn you to let that person get over you and it is mean to keep in contact with them and string them along.
Howver if he has no feelings for her maybe they are just friends. If you make a big deal out of it, you can create a situation that wasn't there.
However your boyfriend should want to make you feel secure if he is not a $%^&$%%$
It is a difficult balance to strike. NOrmally you can tell by meeting the exs whether there is anything going on, sometimes it is obvious that they are just friends.
Trust your instincts.
2006-09-21 09:27:38 · answer #2 · answered by Bebe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not allow it, how about you become friends with one of your old boyfriends and see how he reacts, I went through this with my husband..it upset me and I didn't want him around someone he was intimate with, it's a sign that he's not completely over their relationship. He didn't agree until I started going shopping and out to lunch with an ex. He wanted the freedom but didn't want to give it. So he doesn't contact her anymore and made it very clear that she is not to contact him. If he really loves you he would do the same. The past should be just that, it should not have anything to do with the present and certainly not the future.
2006-09-21 09:27:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should be very mad for the simple fact is that they still keep in touch. You should of have let him know from the beginning of the relationship that all of that has to stop. If he dosen't like that then let him go unless you want to keep on getting played cause trust me they are still messing around.
2006-09-21 09:26:48 · answer #4 · answered by ebonikaf 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a complicating question only for the mere fact of what kind of an x was it. For instance how long they were together, how strong were his feelings for her. Things like that. Most girls would say yes to this question they would be upset but you have to look at the little details, and you have to have trust no matter what.
2006-09-21 09:24:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if I'd be mad, but I'd DEFINITELY be wary and keep an eye on him. That's why I don't let my man go back to Cali alone. Too many ex f**k-buddies out there!
If he gets upset when you mention it, he may still harbor some feelings. If he was truly into and dedicated to you, he would understand your view, and not do things to make you uncomfortable or upset. Keep your eye out and use your intuition!
2006-09-21 09:25:53 · answer #6 · answered by juliett 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he still have feelings for her? How good of friends are they? If they are casual friends that talk once in a while then thats okay but anything more than that is risky? Ask him how he would feel if you stayed in contact with your ex that liked you, see what he says.
2006-09-21 09:25:43 · answer #7 · answered by GRISSIOM PURE GENIUS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be mad at the ex for trying to get back with him knowing he has a new g/f and i would be annoyed at him for not being more considerate of my feelings as to him still speaking to her when she is an ex.
2006-09-21 09:28:16 · answer #8 · answered by missy minx 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HAVE YOUR MAN REASSURE YOU, AND MAKE IT CLEAR WITH THE EX if you feel he's still interested in her then you may just need to let him go now before you invest too much of your life on someone who doesnt totally have feelings for you, good luck,
2006-09-21 09:25:30 · answer #9 · answered by butterflygyrl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would totally depend on the man, how long we have been together and how strong the relationship between him and the ex was.
2006-09-21 09:23:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋