This guy [not naming names] told me today that he likes me. I don't really think he's THAT attractive, just a little bit. He has a great personality and a very kind heart towards me. I could sort of tell he liked me. But I don't know if i should say yes because he is nice to me but doesnt look good or say no because then if i go out with him and he's not "the greatest looking" people might make fun of me?? Please help?!?!
What he looks like [so you get an idea]
glasses
pure blonde hair
5'3-5'5" ish
chubby belly
fair caucasian skin
sort of looks nerdy?? not in a mean way
PLEASE DON'T USE INNAPROPRIATE COMMENTS OR ANYTHING THAT DOESN'T HAVE TO DO WITH THIS QUESTION. THANKS
2006-09-21 09:19:18 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
STOP caring what other people think.
2006-09-21 09:20:46 · answer #1 · answered by Just Bored!! 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
people will tell you that looks don't mean a thing and let me tell you...they lied. What they should have said is..looks don't mean everything. You should be somewhat physically attracted to your friend if he is going to be a potential mate. He doesn't have to be the best looking guy, but you should be able to imagine yourself kissing him and being with him. Let's just be real, looks usually is the initial point that gets people involved. However, the game plan starts all over once the person's personality comes into play. He's obviously already passed that test, so the looks at this point do mean something. Just a few hints in making your decision though: let your decision be objective and not swayed by what you think others will say--what do you say? can you live with being with him (physically and emotionally) and still be happy? If the answer is yes, then you know what to do sweetie! Good luck in your endeavors and I'm sure you will do the RIGHT thing.
2006-09-21 09:55:22 · answer #2 · answered by sophisticated one 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you are considering this guy means you have great potential to look past the exterior and find out what is inside people. You should cultivate that. If you were to close your eyes and know in your heart that this guy makes you happy then why not give him a chance. I've found that most times their personality makes them even more attractive. Besides, he sounds kinda cute.
Please don't let the thought of other girls making fun of you keep you from such a great guy. If they would judge someone so heartlessly than why should you care what they think. You are already the better person so they should care what you think. Go out with him if he makes you happy. And if anyone says anything just look at them like they are trash, shake your head and ask them what is wrong with them that they could judge someone like that. Then walk away. It wouldn't be long before they started to see that you are more than just a pretty face. You're a good person too.
2006-09-21 09:38:43 · answer #3 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about what other people may think. The only person whose opinion matters is *you*. The guy has a great personality and is very nice to you. That goes a long ways.
My best relationships - by far - have been with average looking girls who were wonderful and caring people. My theory is that if they can't attract you with drop-dead-gorgeous looks, they learn how to attract you by being a wonderful person. Besides, once you're with them a while, you'll find out that they're beautiful after all - you just didn't notice it at first.
Give him a shot, and don't worry about what your "friends" think.
2006-09-21 09:23:45 · answer #4 · answered by Bramblyspam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he is a nice guy with a good personality, and you tell him no based on him not being a great looking guy, you could be missing your one and only chance for a truly happy relationship. Its important to develop a relationship with a person to have a lasting relationship, the looks are secondary. If you don't go out with him based on what you think other people will think, then you really don't deserve him anyway.
2006-09-21 09:25:57 · answer #5 · answered by Scotty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey, it sounds like you are trying to be nice but if you are not attracted to the guy there might be some problems. Ive been with a lot of nice guys, and there is such thing as too nice...you will feel bad breaking his heart but you dont want to lead him on. Tell him that you are very flattered but you are currently seeing someone else right now. It will hurt him a little bit but it wont crush him. It makes it seem more like you cant date him b/c of another guy not b/c your not interested.
2006-09-21 09:24:01 · answer #6 · answered by TroubleRose 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you like him, and think he has a great personality... that right there should answer your question.
Who cares if he's a lil nerdy lookin, and who cares what everyone else thinks, they aren't the ones dating him or being asked to date him...
All in all they are the ones missing out if they can't set aside someones outer appearance to get to know someone for who they are on the inside.
I must agree with the statement above, he does sound like a keeper, if you don't want him you could direct him to this site, I bet he finds someone who will appreciate him for who he is, rather quickly!
2006-09-21 09:28:27 · answer #7 · answered by strawberryblonde131313 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has a great personality, then you should not worry about people judging you. You will see that when people get into your circle of friends, they WILL SEE why you choose to be with him. However, if he is only nice to you but not to other, how would you know if it's not all act?
Anyways, if I were you, try to fix him up and dress him better, then you and him will be a match.
Remember: Rejection is the primary motivation for a man to change his ways for the better so that he can better his chance next time.
2006-09-21 09:25:01 · answer #8 · answered by Inquisit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU are the one innapropriate!! You are worried about someone making fun of who you go out with??!! Grow up little lady! What about the people that think YOU are UGLY??? Ever think of that? Yes, there are people out there who think YOU are ugly!! Besides you can have a great looking guy that beats your a ss all the time, and what have you got? Do him a favor and DON't go out with him, he's TO NICE FOR YOU!!
2006-09-21 09:24:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know it's rough while you are still in school..it's easy for folks to say not to worry about what others will say..but they need to remember back..
BUT
I think...that the most important thing about a good relationship is not looks - but personality - not only his but how his personality and yours connect...that's priority
BUT (again)...anyone that says looks don't matter...they aren't being truthful..looks do matter - not AS important - but we are human beings and human beings react to physical attraction..and I do think there needs to be some level of that in any relationship. You can't over-look it forever...it matters.
So my advice to you is be nice to the guy, but if you aren't digging him physically...AND you are worried about what others will say...sooner or later (and probably sooner...as soon as a better looking guy comes along and compliments you too)...you are going to drop this guy like a lead balloon..lol..not being mean..I'm just being honest...and then?...he's going to REALLY be hurt...so just just brush off gently now.
2006-09-21 09:28:38 · answer #10 · answered by svmainus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, if you dont want to date him because of what he looks like then you shouldnt be dating at all.
Lets say you get a guy who you really think is gorgeous, you fall madly in love with him, then he gets horribly disfigured in an accident....what then? Do you leave because he isn't good to look at? if so then you are right at same point now. This guy isnt so good to look at but what you WANT to fall in love with is the personality...who they are. Otherwise you will just be chasing the fleeting illusion of beauty and be very, very sad.
2006-09-21 09:24:14 · answer #11 · answered by luvtinynips 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋